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People who know my are familiar with my writings about all things Fascist.  Well this is repost of a previous diary.

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Golly gee whiz, I've been writing about the pervasive reuse of Nazi propaganda themes for over five years, but I never got around to the theme of the persecution of Christians by Jews and their liberal henchmen.

But it's only recently I got around to checking out "The International Jew," first published by famous antisemite Henry Ford as a serial in his insanely antisemitic rag, the Dearborn Independent.  Ford was a personal hero of Hitler, who praised Ford in Mein Kampf. He hosted Ford in Germany, where Ford attended the antisemitic Oberammergau Passion Play.(photo of Ford in Germany). Hitler also awarded Ford the highest civilian version of the Iron Cross, and the photo of this event was public relations fiasco for the aging Ford.  Ford helped the Nazi industrialization effort, and his German factories used slave labor.  After America declared war on Germany and Ford began supplying the US military, Henry Ford seemed to be less than 100% committed to the Allied war effort.

Ford's newsletter was published in the early 1920s although he denied knowing its racist  contents (just like Ron Paul!).  A compilation of articles was translated into German in 1923 and published by the Nazi party as "The International Jew."  It is said that Hitler had a copy of "The International Jew" while writing "Mein Kampf" and plagiarized parts of it.

According to wikipedia:

At the Nuremberg Trials, Baldur von Schirach mentioned that The International Jew made a deep impression on him and his friends in their youth and influenced them in becoming antisemitic. He said: "... we saw in Henry Ford the representative of success, also the exponent of a progressive social policy. In the poverty-stricken and wretched Germany of the time, youth looked toward America, and apart from the great benefactor, Herbert Hoover, it was Henry Ford who to us represented America." In 1922, The New York Times reported that Adolf Hitler's office contained a large picture of Ford. A well-thumbed copy of the International Jew was found in his library.
I did not know what modern themes I'd find in "The International Jew," but I got a hint when I found it on the Australian white Christian nationalist anti-New-World-Order Bible Believers website, which has "The International Jew" and lots of other antisemitic material. Bible Believers is a notoriously eccentric pseudochristian antisemitic Holocaust denial  site. Feel free to take a minute to bang your head on the desk. Feel better?

It's important to remember that Nazism was above all a conspiracy theory, and that modern conspiracy subculture is never more than two mouse clicks away Fascist and holocaust denial web sites.  I'm not sure how Bible Believers would describe themselves, but it's a good place to look for "Christians" recycling Nazi themes.

OK, let's all goosestep over the apricot strudel.....

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Yes, it's another Friday night, and time for another installment of our long-running series on the psychology of hatred, especially obsessive hatred. But we've neglected the topic of self-hatred, and self-hatred is  often at the root of long running hatreds.  Because, if we hate someone for years, can it really be all their fault if we are dragging around an anvil of hatred? Wasn't that anvil always there?

When I get the urge to write these diaries, i am often influenced by a specific author.  In this case, it's Karen Horney,  who deserves much more credit than she gets these days. She was considered the first feminist psychoanalyst, but that underestimates her importance.  Her groundbreaking ideas are very mainstream now, but at the time they were radical break with Freud's "Drive Psychology" which would cost him many of his professional relationships.  It was Horney's influence that would eventually force much of the misogyny from Freudianism. Horney is a good starting point for a discussion of psychology to disarm the folks who to shut down any discussion of psychology because "Freud was a misogynist."  

The Idealized Self Image
The idea of a idealized false self image was probably first developed by Alfred Adler, who gave us the concept of the "inferiority complex" and the "superiority complex."  A person feels inferior (or is inferior), so they create a fictional persona of superiority. Adler saw human relationships as being about power while Freud would dogmatically emphasize the role of sex.

Horney describes the "idealized self" image wherein we each all see ourselves as a brave, kind, wise person, who is at worst an innocent victim of circumstance.  not only should they be the best, they must also have counterfeit emotions to match.

The creation of make believe feelings is most striking in those whose idealized image lies in the direction of goodness, love, and saintliness. They should be considerate, grateful, sympathetic, generous, loving, and so in their minds they have all these qualities.  (p. 83)
But everyone sees themselves that way, including hardened criminals.  And then there is the "actual self," the real person, with the real person's vanity, hatred, envy, and sadism. The actual self may be hard to pin down, since everyone has good days and bad days. But there is usually a big gap between the actual self and the angelic idealized self.

Self-Hatred
In the gap between the deeply flawed actual self and the idealized self is "self hatred," where the actual self berates itself for not living up to the image of the ideal self.   And the more self-hatred someone has, the more "pride" they need to cover up the gaps between the real and ideal selves.  This sort of pride is prominent in the substance abuser, and this malignant pride can easily be pictured as alcoholic pride.  If you want to picture a situation that will scar kids for life, picture the "pride war" between two parents having a 20 year argument about who's better based on absolutely nothing but displays of "counterfeit emotions" and somehow being proud of themselves.

Horney saw the conflict as false pride attacking the instinct for growth.

With increasing clarity, the battle is now drawn between the pride system and the real self.  Self-hate is not so much directed against the limitations and shortcomings of the actual self as against the emerging constructive forces of the real self.  (p. 112).....Self-contempt is mainly directed against the striving for improvement or achievement (p. 132)  
If Horney had explored the use of projection, she would have deduced how this "contempt" against "striving" would show up in the behavior of the codependent parent that sabotages their child's school, or the codependent spouse of a recovering drunk that encourages them to drink.

All the branches of psychology have largely merged at this point of the conflict of the real self and ideal self, although they use different terminology. We can see the same principle in Adlerian psychology, Ego Psychology, Self Psychology, Object Psychology, Transactional Analysis etc.   For the most part, different schools just use different terms for the same general concepts (worse, they sometimes use the same term to mean diffferent things.)

Horney shot herself in the foot by ignoring Freuds ego defenses (projection, denial, etc) Because of this, she did not use the term "reaction formation" in which a person rejects an unacceptable emotion and declares that they really feel the opposite way.  Horney herself had this experience because of the somewhat frosty relationship she had with her mother while growing up, but she filled her diaries with declarations of love for her mother.

Also, Horney does not discuss "projection" (pot-kettle-black accusations) which is the bread and butter of many neurotic people.  If she has seriously considered the role of projection, all of her talk about self-hatred and self-criticism would have naturally circled around to the inevitable accusations and criticisms of others. We see that today in politics where conservatives call liberals "racists" and strangely always call them "terrified."  And when she says that striving for achievement is attacked with self-contempt, she neglects to make the obvious point that striving in others would also be treated with contempt.

Self-Hatred Becomes Hatred Of Others
The person with low self esteem and self-criticism experiences these feelings  as a sort of outside influence.  

Injuries to their pride can come only from the outside.  Any questioning of their motivations, any uncovering of a handicap is felt as an insult'
There is a need to try to project that criticism out and blame it on other people.  If someone feels persecuted, they can believe that they are a martyr, but if they simply hate themselves that means they are sick.  Therefore they need to find a "persecutor" who they can blame for their feelings. By getting someone to criticize them, they can finally acknowledge these negative feelings, but they attribute the criticism to an external source, so that they are finally free to attack these feelings. Blatant hypocrisy is a good way to generate disgust from other people while inflating their own ego.

I think her she is describing the low self-esteem bully.  Not that they'd ever see themselves as a bully, it's just them and their friends ganging up on people that they think are weaker than them. Attacks using guilt and shame are prominent revealing a projections of their own guilt, as well as  the codependent belief in being able to control others, and the need to find and attack people who they think are too weak to resist.  And yet, almost magically, they are unable to see themselves as bullies.

feeling abused ... (causes) vindictive resentment against others...(Awareness) of this vindictive hostility... must be suppressed because it endangers ... his idealized inage of absolute goodness.  (p 232) The amount of largely hidden vindictiveness in most neurosis is rather great  (p 51)
If we look at incidents of Twitter shaming of people that lose their careers for a single dumb tweet, it's  a lot like the sadism of cyberstalking and slut shaming that drives so many teenage girls to suicide. It's the primitive orgy of sadism that we associate with a witch hunt, where some innocent person is accused of being an all-powerful source of evil so a sadistic mob can rip them to pieces.  

She also describes a very Republican sense of justice, where the emphasis is on punishing the poor.

The overemphasis on justice may be, but is not necessarily, a camouflage for vindictiveness (p. 55)
Guilt And Shame? Who Me?
Guilt and shame usually play a big part in self-hatred.  Maybe a person  grew up neglected and poor, and in fact people often brag about that. And many parents deliberately manipulate their children through blame, guilt, and scapegoating. A child  may grow up blaming themselves irrationally for being abused, or their parent's divorce, or the death of a sibling.

Through projection, a neurotic person assumes that it is the other guy who guilty.  And because it's really the other guy that's guilty guilty, that means he should be punished!

This works even better if there are allies who will join in the punishments, and if there is a shared sense of power that will motivate the group, and any sense of guilt is reduced. This would mean that in any group of people with typical neurotic issues of shame and guilt, the group will naturally, almost inevitably, select a scapegoat.

The false love for mankind may take the form of a supposedly noble pursuit of Truth or Justice.  A vindictive vengeful agenda can be hidden in a crusade for "justice" and fake outrage that claims to speak on behalf  of distant strangers with whom they have no connection

(Their principles) lack the moral seriousness of genuine ideals. (p. 72) They are, in this sense, the neurotic counterfeit of normal moral strivings. (p. 73)
Online shaming seems to match Horney's ideas of the general vindictiveness of self-hatred.  By being part of a group, they can identify will all sorts "injustices" (real or imaginary) that gives them and excuse for revenge.  
The more arrogant he is, the surer he will be that such vengeance is the doliling out of justice(p. 56)
But of course it's usually necessary to wildly exaggerate the seriousness of the offense.  The group unites in accusing their target, and the accusations are often just silly, but the bar has never been very high for witch hunts.
exaggerate the wrong done ... build up the case ... that looks (air) tight... (becoming) total condemnation (p 56)
This is, of course, all about power.  Several people broke with Freud because he seemed to ignore these daily issues of power and control.  It's not clear if anyone ever bothered to tell Freud he was a control freak to his face.  

Often people are ashamed of all sorts of emotions. But they might be quite proud of their rage.  Rage is proof they are a good person!

If he is proud of his vindictiveness, vindictive rage may be keenly felt.  However is his vindictiveness is glorified and rationalized in terms of dealing out "justice," he does not experience vindictive rage as such, although it is so freely expressed that nobody else has any doubt about it. (p 162)
Here Klein mentions the importance of accusations
"(they) enforce their compliance" "through hardhitting accusations,"  even if in the process we "ruin others."
Sometimes however attempts to shame people fall flat because they assume that the target has the same quality as the attacker:
Neurotic self-contempt make the neurotic hypersensitive to criticism and rejection
God help you if you fail to show shame on cue or you are likely to get the slut-shaming mob treatment! Now the group is likely to become an out of control mob. Complaints about their aggression will not be tolerated, and the victim will suffer additional blame and attacks.  Remember, Daddy only drinks because you cry!

In Freudean terms we see the primitive sadistic superego containing the criticisms of the abusive parent. Melanie Kelin, another female psychoanalyst that split from Freud developed the idea of self-hatred as a split-off part of the ego that contains guilt and sadistic "persecutory superego introjections."  It gets a little complicated, but those criticisms and guilt are often directed at other people.

We also see the usual tipping point for someone with false positive self image - the inability to acknowledge their own sadism and pleasure in hatred.  Remember, these are people that are very sensitive to criticism, so a pointed threat to their false self image is going to be resisted violently.  And that's really a shame, because people that truly understand them are likely to be driven away be a torrent of accusations.  These are the problems of cognition (distinguishing good and dangerous people) and affect (open hostility to normal people) that we associate with codependency.  

Entitlement And Hypocrisy
  Although it's rarely  mentioned any more, the early psychoanalysts were often shocked at the tremendous sense of entitlement that went with neurosis and other problems.

The neurotic feels entitled to special attention, consideration, deference on the part of others (p 41) ... never to be criticized, doubted, or questioned (p 43) .... without his making adequate efforts ( 49)
Sure sounds like neurotic demands for "respect," eh?

In "Neurosis And Human Growth," she describes the person who

"(he) feels entitled to unabridged expression of his unfavorable observations and criticisms but feels equally entitles never to be criticized himself" (p. 200)
Hmmm.... There's a big gap between the idealized self's morality and actual self's actions, and many people would call that "hypocrisy." It sounds like someone that would run around shrieking "Don't Be A Dick!!!"  Maybe we'll reach a conclusion about the likelihood of DBAD degenerating into outright bullying.

Horney also described such people as hypersensitive to criticism and with a constant need for admiration, affirmation, and attention. Although they hate criticism, they also crave criticism so they can

"treasure and keep alive injuries received." (p 201).
.  Isn't nice that we never see any of that around here? Today, the phrase "injustice collectors" is popular. The "vindictiveness" of people with their precious grudges is featured prominently in Horney's writing, and no doubt she was influenced by the professional persecution that followed her throughout her career.

And while one hypocrite is a nuisance, a group of hypocrites is downright dangerous.  And remember, Horney said these oversensitive people need  their need for constant affirmation and that means they travel in packs.  There we see the potential for the sort of workplace bullying that in the UK is called mobbing.  But is there enough aggression and sadism to feed that sort of group bullying?  Horney certainly found herself the object of decades of group bullying no matter where she ran.

Often this reaction formation of false love for mankind takes the form of a supposedly noble pursuit of Truth or Justice. But even that creates a fantasy world of opponents and enemies, and "displacement" can also be used to describe the malicious forces they are supposedly fighting.

Problems In Affect And Cognition
More recently, studies of "object relations theory" have been trying to refine the various problems that laymen call "codependency" which result from a bad childhood. There are two areas where the rift between the real self and the ideal self is evident - cognition and affect. Problems with cognition, impair the ego's ability to test reality.  Because of the need to pump up the actual self to try to match the ideal self, there is a lot of fantasy at work.  

Codependent people are notorious for cognitive problems that prevent them from understanding others and get them into bad relationships. Potential healthy relationships are rejected and good people are devalued. Bad people are idealized, and usually  a codependent person has the need to see themselves as the victim in the relationship.  Affect (the emotional response to the world) is also disturbed, and may be paranoid, self accusing, angry, depressed, or hostile, and this has to be explained by the cognitive distortions that let them see themselves as the victims.

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Lots of you  continue to get unhinged emails from people on Facebook, your drunk uncle, and various Tea Party relatives.  Here's a gentle response to them....

Pretty soon Obama will be gone and you will have to face up to the fact that you will have lost a whole decade of your life passing around conspiracy theories and whipping yourself into a frenzy of hatred.  All of you lost friends, severed relationships with family members, and some of you even lost your job or your marriage due to your unhinged behavior.

You lost that decade wailing about Obama the gay Communist Muslim narcissist dictator who was going to let the UN invade America and various hoaxes like "death panels," birth certificates, Iraq's WMDs, and the "Ground Zero Mosque" (remember how you wasted two years of your life over that?).  Just think of what you could have accomplished if you hadn't wasted all that time.  You could have gotten a college degree, you could have written a book, you could have run your first marathon, you could have built a boat and sailed it around the world. You could learned to speak another language - oh wait, you never would have done that.

You kept waiting for Obama to be impeached or for the GOP candidates to "take off the gloves." But they never did because your favorite stories were hoaxes, and the GOP can't impeach or win the White House based on hoaxes. No doubt you were waiting for someone, anyone,  in the White House to be indicted or arrested, like all those people under Nixon and Reagan and Bush, but no dice.    

Many of you will never recover from this experience.  Physically, your health is no doubt worse for having lost a decade watching television and whipping yourself into a frenzy of hatred. Your ability to reason is probably permanently damaged, and nobody really wants to listen to your opinions anyway. Yes, you can successfully annoy the waitress at the diner, because she can't run away from a customer, but that doesn't mean she agrees with you. Some of you will be going into nursing homes because people gave up on you a long time ago and nobody can stand to listen to one more day of you babbling about Saul Alinsky (who died in 1972, by the way).

Some of you have no doubt suffered financially from all the time you wasted hating Obama.  But some of you have actually done very very well under his "anticapitalist," "communist," "dictatorship." You do know that the economy usually does much better under Democrats, right? And that the best four years of job creation in the last 50 years was under Jimmy Carter, right?

The next two years would be a good chance to start making amends to your families and trying to rebuild relations with people in your life.  Yes we know there's another election in 2016 and you'll be falling down the next rabbit hole of insanity, but try to leave your families with a few memories of you acting like a normal human being.

And the next time there is a GOP president, just remember that there will be fatal embassy attacks under the GOP president, just like the dozens of fatal embassy attacks that occurred under previous Republican presidents.  Except Democrats won't be working themselves into a frenzy of conspiracy theories when it happens, they won't be cheerleading for the terrorists, and they won't be trying to overthrow the US government every time something happens.

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The holidays often confront us with the state of our family relationships.  If your stomach is already is in knots, if you have ever spent the holidays weeping uncontrollably, look for a support group today.  Al-Anon (for people from alcoholic families) is always busy during the holidays. There will meetings on Thanksgiving as people flee their families.  Many of these events are potluck dinners where everyone is welcome.

"Codependency" is a laymen's term popularized by the addiction recovery community. It refers to a shopping basket of emotional issues experienced by people who were raised in homes with trauma, addiction, abuse, abandonment, death, conflict, and chaos.  As we discussed in our previous diary, research indicates that people with this background who have a good self image are at risk of becoming  bullies, people with a poor self image are at risk of becoming life-long victims, and people whose self image is a mixture of good and bad may become bully/victims who seem to be at risk of developing criminal personalities.

Anyway, this I was just tallying up delusional beliefs of people suffering from codependency ( I use "delusion" to describe a belief that shapes someones life, even though that belief is directly contradicted by experience, logic, and science.  It's used generally to describe thoughts that fall short of outright hallucinations.  Like every other term in psychology, the exact definition depends on who is using it.) let's just run down the list and see if anyone else can add to it:

"I understand people"
No. Just no. Seriously, if codependent people have a unique understanding of others, why do they have terrible trouble with relationships? Why do they marry addicts so often or get into abusive relationships?  Worse yet, why do they often marry people who are nearly clones of their abusive parents?  

"I have empathy"
No, there is generally a lack of empathy. There may be sympathy or identification, in which one person experiences the emotions they believe the other person has, but that identification can be based on an inaccurate assessment of the other person. And the codependent lacks  "cognitive empathy," which is an understanding of why someone else feels the way they do.  Often codependent sympathy  only extends to other codependent people, and that's almost the opposite of empathy. Relationships are likely to be shallow and brief although large amounts of drama may give the illusion that it means something. Because codependency makes such extensive use of ego defenses, meaningful communication is quite difficult.  If someone else expresses genuine empathy and understanding for the codependent, their anxiety levels may go sky-high. Projection and projective identification are used to control people rather than understand them. Believing you know what people want or need is a terrific excuse for forcing the to do what you want.   This may involve a lot of fake outrage over things where you honestly have no interest as well as infantializing people who don't even want your help.

"You're crazy!!!!!!!"
This is well described in that literature of psychoanalysis in the early stages of the "transference," the fluid emotional relationship between analyst and patient - the patient is convinced that analyst is ruthless, dishonest, abusive, and above all crazy. And that's even though in those early stages  the analyst should be listening fairly passively in a spirit of empathetic concern without offering psychological interpretations.  Despite this, some people actually become psychotic at this stage of treatment because just being htere has triggered paranoid fantasies.  Kernberg described a patient that launched an investigation all over town, shadowing Kernberg and gathering "evidence" that Kernberg was crazy and unethical.  He spoke to Kernberg's professional rivals and systemically propagated rumors about Kernberg. After weeks of looking for "proof" against Kernberg, Kernberg got wind of this and confronted his patient. At this point, the patient seemed to have an "OMG, what am I doing?" moment and realized that he really, really needed to start taking therapy seriously.

And that's a familiar situation - if you put two people into close contact, and one has multiple risk factors of mental illness and the other has no risk factors, the person with risk factors will declare the other one "crazy."  

This would seem to be a fairly clear case of projection - the person with anxiety about a problem has a magical ability to "see" that problem in other people (pot-kettle-black), and so they attack others for being "crazy."   They can even coach the other person into behaving crazy ("gas lighting").  Or they can just make wild accusations against the other person until the other person says "You know what?  You're crazy!"  and then the anxious person is able to believe that their own anxiety is actually coming from the outside.  Based on the "reintrojection" of their own anxiety, they are then able to attack others while also soliciting sympathy from codependent friends ("He called me crazy! Waaaah!")

Personally, I have believed for some time  that the principals of transference apply in ordinary object relations of two people, which was confirmed by Otto Finechel.  in group psychology, just add more people with risk factors, and it escalates to full bullying.  Remove the person without risk factors from the group, and they are likely to turn on the weakest member, "Lord Of The Flies" style.

Crazy is the new normal, and normal is the new crazy. Ironically, there are probably millions of people carry the stigma of mental illness whose only sin was to not be mentally ill in the vicinity of codependent person.  Notice that these days many people describe their experience being bullied at work by a supervisor and conclude "And I have not had a full time job since then," probably because the boss is continuing to ruin them for years afterwards.  This eternal quest for vengeance can be seen in many codependent families, where the kid that works hard is made the black sheep and sent into exile, and the parent quest for revenge extends beyond the grave in the form of highly vindictive will.

Why? Envy caused the first murder in the Bible. It is also a generally accepted principle of psychology that envy is synonymous with violent hatred.  

"You think....."
Mind reading is huge in codependency.  Trying to make people like you is part of it, but so is making negative assumptions about others to maintain the sense of victimization.

"You think you're better than me?"
Look out, daddy's drunk again and things are about to get nasty!

"My dysfunctional upbringing made me into an amazing parent"
As they say in Adult Children Of Alcoholics (ACOA) as

1. Adult children of alcoholics guess at what normal behavior is.
and this way
we have no idea what is a normal family life and what is appropriate.
Great parent or just really controlling?  Perfectionist that sets impossibly high standards, demotivating kids, then punishing them for lack of motivation?  Playing favorites?  Creating a family scapegoat?

"I am fiercely independent"
Here's a clue - people who are actually independent spend no time congratulating themselves on how "independent" they are.  Just look at the word codependent:  "dependent" is in the name, because they are so dependent.

"Other people are so negative"
Other people have a higher tolerance for ambiguity and uncertainly, therefore they spend more time assessing risk.  Pointing out risk is not "negative." Codependent people are often impulsive and may be very certain that things have to be a specific way despite a lack of evidence.  When someone has plans and they complain that you have contradicted their plans impulsively, this is not being "negative," this is some asking for you to respect their boundaries.

If you agreed with all these statements so far, you can save time by just looking up the local Al-Anon or similar adult survivors group right now.

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....Pleasure asks a greater effort of the mind to support it than pain; and we turn after a little idle dalliance from what we love to what we hate!
William Hazlitt "On the Pleasure of Hating" (1826)
Indeed, love is work, but hatred is fun and easy.  Clearly, many people confuse the two, treating conflict and intimacy as if they are interchangeable, or, more accurately, to attempt to wholly substitute conflict for love.  Because that's simply how many people  are raised, in a home full of conflict.

With that in mind, I'd like to share some of the things I've been reading recently about  bullying. There has been a lot of publicity about bullying recently, and at least some actual research on the topic to identify the risk factors in raising a bully. And it now appears that there are three categories of people in the bully ecosystem:  the pure bully, the victim, and the bully/victim.

Some pure bullies are probably narcissists, and they love life.  They are the typical bad guy in the 1980's teen movie who will shoot your dog and try to rape your girlfriend and "You can't do anything because my daddy owns this town!"

But most real life bullies are more like the mean little Sid in Toy Story who was mean to his little sister and dismembers toys.  The house is depressing, and he has trained his dog to be aggressive.  From the way Sid yells indoors, we more or less assume that's how his parents behave and his behavior is identification with his parents.  At school he probably has few friends and knocks other kids down.  

If Sid is a typical bully, he suffers from a bad environment, bad parenting, anxiety, depression, a negative attitude towards school and poor academic performance, and a combination of low self esteem and aggression towards others.  He has negative beliefs about himself and others.These bullies have low social status, poor social problem solving skills, and other kids can be a bad influence on them, leading to delinquent behavior where they encourage each other to commit antisocial acts.

Notice that this is a movie and it  takes only a few quick scenes to establish Sid as a standard issue bully.  IRL, it must suck to be such a cookie cutter stereotype, and no doubt even Sid is desperate to have some sort of meaningful personal identity, but no amount of being a nasty little shit is enough to make him special (until his mug shot shows up online).  The only thing that gives a small child a real identity is love, and we understand intuitively that Sid got the short end of the stick.

But by the time they reach adolescence, they have overcome their social isolation.  They don't really seem to pay a price for their actions. Wasn't Biff popular?
Although these bullies may have a long term greater risk of arrest, substance abuse, and psychiatric problems, many of them go on to do quite well for themselves. Look at Biff in Back To The Future II, where he has become a powerful and ruthless industrialist. Maybe in the movies they finally get what coming to them, often in some highly ironic fashion where they are wrecked by their own evil plot.  In real life, karma often can't seem to find them, and they are tooling around town in a Mercedes convertible snorting coke from the cleavage of an NFL cheerleader.  
There don't seem to be that many childhood bullies who are full fledged narcissists. Nearly all of our images of narcissist bullies are the mean girls with perfect hair and designer clothes.  Here's the scene from Kick Ass 2 where Mindy gets publicly humiliated after a bit of a rape scare.  It's also a nice example of the crowd basically saying "Shame! Shame! Shame!"  

The whole concept of shame and group shaming deserves a diary all by itself. Note that even in this scene, shame has sexual overtones, and a lot of what has been written about shame is in the context of rape and child molesting.  Shame is used by rapist and molesters and narcissists to control their victims, so that's a topic of it's own.

But in the scene from KickAss, the mean girls are so accustomed their roles of bullies and victims that they are unable to grasp there are people (Mindy) who are free in all the ways that they are not. if they really did understand this, we'd expect full blown-mob behavior.  But even psychologists say, sometimes it's best just to let people have their delusions of victory and triumph, because what are we going to do, deprogram them like in "Clockwork Orange" through months of torture?  It's probably better to let them have their endless victory parade in which they fantasize how they have crushed and shamed people.  But hey, at least they've fully embrace their sadistic urges, and that counts for something, right?

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Looking at the age distribution of early voters, we can see come very obvious clues to why Kay Hagan lost.  Perhaps most importantly, the total number of early voters from age 60 to 89 (591,203) outnumbered early voters age 18 to 59 (552,634).

According to New York Times exit polls for North Carolina, the electorate over age 45 starts leaning Republican, and North Carolina voters over 65 were 57% Republican.  

Here's the age distribution of early voters:

Age       Voters
18-29    65,435
30-39    85,365
40-49   151,689
50-59   250,145
60-69   318,881
70-79   200,452
80-89     71,870

If you ponder those numbers, you'll see that the largest group of early voters were in their 60's. The peak age for voters was 67, and this group numbered 36,800!

Turnout for young people was pretty slim and that was the trend for people in their 30s and 40's.  Only 5,176 twenty year olds voted, but what's much worse is that only 11,009 forty year olds came out for early voting.   Even if every single one of those were liberal pro-choice women, it would not have made much difference.

And although the number of voters older than 67 drops off rapidly, the number of voters in their 70's (200,452) still greatly outnumbers the early voters in their 40's (151,689), and early voters in their 80's (71,870) outnumbers voters in their teens and 20's (65,435). Overall, we can probably safely assume that the votes of college students were greatly outnumbered by the votes of people age 65 and up who have actually been diagnosed with dementia.

I'm pretty sure that the attitudes of voters reflect the turnout in these groups.  People in the 50's (250,145 voters) would include a lot intensely frustrated people that are underemployed, long-term unemployed, or forced into early retirement.  This includes a lot of doughy middle manager white guys who've had their head up their ass for the last 30 years who are looking for a scapegoat because they are suddenly without a job.

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When you get caught acting stupid, claim that you were tricked, because that's different than just being dumb.  Or something.

Even HotAir is realizing that their fake outrage over Obama saluting the Marines while holding a cup is making the right wing look stupid and frivolous when we have an air campaign about ISIS to worry about.

And that's just the point! It's proof of a larger liberal conspiracy to bait Republicans into looking stupid! The cup is a deliberate distraction from Benghazi the war.

That is a terrible way to fight a war, and it merits criticism. It is that legitimate criticism Obama’s defenders would prefer to avoid addressing. The press was handed one such opportunity, though a passing one, when the White House promoted a photograph of the president emerging from Marine One and saluting his Marine guard with a coffee cup in his right hand.

See? The cup was a deliberate head fake to paralyze the Republican party while making them look like stoned conspiracy fuckwits!

Oh heck, how many other paint-by-numbers talking points can Hot Air squeeze into 900 words?

Let's see - how about claiming that people aren't conservatives because they are stupid?  Check that off the list.

The casual viewer was not informed by this segment, but they were goaded into believing that conservatives are unreasonable and consumed with trivialities.
Is a conspiracy?  Of course.
That’s not an accident.
Demand that people be required to treat you with complete seriousness even while you admit to acting like an asshole?  Done and done.
Do conservatives who are offended by Obama’s callousness have a point? Of course they do. Do some, like those who decide that this is a moment to call the first lady a “thing” while leveling this criticism, detract from their own credibility and that of their argument? Yes, and the liberal press will giddily promote the latter to avoid legitimizing the former.
Can we shoehorn in a tired Third Reich talking point about the "liberal press?"  Are you kidding? It's mandatory.
Conservatives are understandably weary of confronting the double standard in the press.....
While whining about how people call you prejudiced
....that treats their concerns as novelties based on prejudicial hatred of the president.
Can you build to the conclusion that defines an entire fantasy world where white conservatives are the eternal victims?
Liberal’s concerns, meanwhile, are rarely dismissed off hand in the same fashion.

How about some psychological projection?  In this case he's crying about a "double standard" because we all know how tough right wing blogs were on Bush after 9-11.  
But as I’ve said before, a double standard is a standard nonetheless.
Wait, is he ripping off The Big Lebowski?

So just remember, when people laugh at you and call you a douche bag, that just means it's a conspiracy.

Conservatives will have to learn to more skillfully navigate the unfavorable media environment or be swamped by it. Angrily shaking a fist at the biases in which media narratives are founded hasn’t been working out so well.
I think that is significant, because usually RWNJs say that when people mock them and call them douche bags, it means they are winning.  They aren't sounding too confident this time around.
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At first, I thought there would not be very much to this story, it's just another ranting fundamentalist claiming the public schools (or gay marriage, or birth control, or recycling, or bike lanes) are exactly like the Holocaust, except for Christians instead of those whingey Jews.

But it turns out there is a long back story (not involving the teacher) which involves murder, child abuse, and insanity.  So you may want to  pour yourself a stiff drink.  Screw it, just get liquored up now, you'll thank me later.  Because this is more than just a loud mouthed dingbat, this is the stuff of nightmares.

Wake Co. Teacher Compares Public School to Concentration Camp

Biology teacher Ray Fournier wrote an article entitled "Behind Enemy Lines" which appeared in the October issue of No Greater Joy magazine, a non-profit Christian ministry.

The article urges Christian parents to take their children out of public schools, comparing it to a spiritual gas chamber.

In the beginning of the article, Fournier writes:

"Walking through the gates of the public high-school where I teach feels as if I were walking into a concentration camp dedicated to the spiritual death of those imprisoned behind these walls."

The usual non-apology follows....
Some people might not understand the seriousness of the spiritual destruction of our children and as a result, might come to the conclusion that I am being disrespectful to those families who directly suffered in the holocaust.
Got that?  The obnoxious blithering idiot is sort of sorry if he offended any Jews, and he limits that to those who have "directly suffered." Wow, just wow. This guy just oozes a toxic stream of self-righteous entitlement.  

He gives no thought to offending the children and parents and coworkers who he holds in such obvious contempt (not to mention his boss!)  Or that he's probably been undermining the education of those students all these years?  

And for all his obnoxious smarmy piety, why is this guy taking a paycheck in a place he compares to a concentration camp? I thought Christian conservatism had purged "moral relativism" and that's one of movement conservatism's big selling points.  

Or is he giving a lesson in who were the "good Germans" who went along with the Holocaust?  And just for his information, those concentration camps were staffed by Christians, rural Christians.  The city folks needed years of indoctrination to turn a blind eye to the persecution of Jews, but for rural Christians killing their neighbors was a family holiday.  Honestly, this kind of mindless world view reminds me of the Christian-identity Holocaust deniers.

And that's in addition to his view of the world so paranoid that it demands a cult-like isolation of true believers ..... but this "No Greater Joy"  site the teacher posted on seems pretty cheerful and harmless... or is it?

They publish a book called "To Train Up A Child," which many people cricize as encouraging child abuse.

And on the No Greater Joy site there is this extremely disturbing story about some pious homeschoolers who became big fans of this book before killing their adopted child:  

Larry and Carri Williams Found Guilty
By Michael Pearl
Hana Williams’ parents were given the maximum prison sentences (for murdering their adopted child). Articles are appearing in blogs and newspapers across the country that are full of fabrications, lies and misstatements about To Train Up a Child. It should not be taken as fact just because it is written somewhere.

What the Williams did is diametrically opposed to the philosophy of No Greater Joy Ministries (NGJ) and the content of the book. The motivation of NGJ is to provide materials that help parents raise healthy and happy children.

Just to connect the dots - the science teacher is endorsing this "No Greater Joy" homeschooling Christian ministry whose beliefs have been cited by several people who have been convicted of killing their adopted children.

This seems to be part of Michelle Bachmann's subculture - people that hoard adopted children the way some people hoard cats.  And they homeschool them, and they beat the living daylights out of them.  The folks at "No Greater Joy" say it's not their fault, because they don't recommend that people actually murder their kids.  They just recommend frequent beatings and they quote stories of people who use hunger and cold and PVC tubing to discipline their children.  But for some reason, their fundamentalist readers are in the habit of latching onto cherry picked phrases and then going way overboard to the point of madness. Hmmm...... where would someone pick up a nasty habit like that? Church maybe?

Author Michael Pearl says it's not his fault that his book is being "misinterpreted" by what seem (to me anyway) to be bloodthirsty illiterate child-killing religious psychotics.  But this murder was only one of several murders across the country in which homeschooled adopted children were murdered by Pearl's fans. And Pearl does not seem to be the least bit curious about why his work is so appealing to bloodthirsty illiterate child-killing religious psychos.  

I have not read the book, but thousands of Amazon reviews describe the book as recommending utterly ruthless beatings of toddlers (and younger children). It sounds like their child rearing philosophy is to create a state of PTSD starting in infancy.  And maybe the authors leave themselves deniability, but readers certainly interpret it this way.

Well I guess the science teacher can't be expected to know about the infamous background of No Greater Joy, could he?  Oh wait, there was a heavily publicized child murder case very close to where he teaches, and these were militant homeschoolers who had the No Greater Joy book.

http://hsinvisiblechildren.org/...

(Four year old) Sean Paddock died of suffocation after his adoptive mother, Lynn Paddock, bound him tightly in blankets to keep him from getting out of his bed. Sean’s siblings, five of whom were also adopted, testified that they were frequently beaten with plastic rods and wooden spoons. Lynn Paddock was convicted of first degree murder and it was found that her husband Johnny Paddock had “aided and abetted” the crime. The family homeschooled and lived in North Carolina (pretty close to the science teacher).
This murder and the subsequent criminal trial and civil suits were big news, so there is no way the teacher was not aware of it. Here's a compilation of the local coverage.
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It was about a year about 9-11, and I was catching the first flight flight out of a regional airport.   I was sitting in an area with several gates, and I was one of several people facing the corridor, probably not fully awake.  A brown skinned man came by carrying a duffle bag and sobbing.  He was wearing a snug knit hat, which I thought might be a Muslim thing. As is often the case, I seemed to be the only person seeing this. Most people are very good at creating a bubble of privacy around themselves, but I'm more of an observer. Still I was a little embarrassed to be watching his anguish, because he was crying hard.  

He started rooting through his duffle, which was about as jumbled as you'd expect.  There were several large prescription  bottles of medications, including one that looked like it would hold a pint, but it probably held 400 pills.  There were also several full bottles of Heinikin, which did not seem like something a strictly religious Muslim would be carrying.

At this point he pulled out a prayer rug, and performed his morning devotions, which did not take long.  Still crying, he packed up his stuff and headed down the corridor.  I glanced at the people to my left and right, and they were utterly oblivious to what had just happened.

I have to admit that I was a little relieved he wasn't getting on my flight.  But I wondered what I should do, if anything.  Should I alert security and watch the poor man get beaten into a grease spot? And it certainly could have gone down that way.  Remember, this was the period of daily terror alerts and ongoing terror attacks around the world.

I decided to do nothing, because he really hadn't done anything alarming beyond being Muslim and very sad.  Ultimately, it was probably his industrial sized pill bottle that convinced he was some lost soul, probably trying to deal with some personal tragedy like making it home for a funeral or something.  

No planes crashed that day, and no flights were turned back because of a sobbing Muslim man. I hope he got where he was going. At least I did not add to his troubles.

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Id, Ego, and Superego

by bernardpliers

One of Freud's many contributions to the study of human psychology is the concept of the id, ego, and superego.  These are different aspects of the personality, and mental health largely consists of the integrated and  harmonious functioning of these parts of the personality.  While some of Freud's work is obsolete, the concept of id, ego, and superego are key to our understanding of the Cluster B personality disorders, which affect about 10% of the population and account for much of the crime, abuse, and drug addiction in America.  Studying these mental structures and behaviors in personality disorders help us understand the same behaviors as they occur in healthier people.

The personality  is most likely to reach a balanced state of mental well-being if the individual has had a decent childhood, education, and opportunities for personal growth. When someone's personality is not fully developed,  we often see the id, ego, and superego in a tug of war, and the personality seems to be fragmented in a very real sense.  In someone with neurosis or personality disorders, rapid mood changes are often seen as the different parts of the personality fight for control.

The id is the unconscious mind.  It is present from birth and has little sense of external reality.  The id operates on "the pleasure principle," which seeks to avoid anxiety and pain. The libido is the biological need for warmth, sex, food and other basic needs.  The  "primary processes" are the id's attempts to have its way whenever it wants, without a moral sense or logic to guide it.  It can be irrational and nonverbal, and it can be self destructive and self contradictory.  It remains a  unconscious force.  The id relies on the ego to interpret and fulfill the id's needs.  The id can make its desires known to the ego and the conscious mind through emotions, dreams, fantasies.

The ego is at the center of the mature personality.  The ego operates on "the reality principle."  One of the main functions of the ego is "reality testing."  The ego asks "Is this true?  Is this possible? Is this what I want or at least taking me in the right direction?"  The ego takes the primary drives of the id and creates  steps to satisfy those emotional or physical needs.  The ego is willing to delay gratification.  This often involves creating a plan to reach those goals and more refined (creative) sources of pleasure.  These are the "secondary drives."  The ego is the referee that mediates the id and the superego and tries to satisfy their needs in the real world.

The ego functions as the personality's traffic cop, garbage collector, and courts.  Although the ego tends to get a bad rap (We call someone overbearing "egotistical"), most emotional problems are characterized by a weak ego that is unable to balance rationality and emotions.  

The ego uses a variety of defenses to against unpleasant emotions, anxiety, and external reality.  And the ego is only partly in the conscious realm.  A weak ego will take threatening emotions or experiences and repress them as an ego defense, sweeping them under the carpet and out of our conscious awareness.  This lets the ego avoid a certain level of stress, but at the price of diminished functioning. The healthy ego doesn't simply push anxiety into the unconscious like a hoarder with a house full of trash.

The superego is the voice of morality and social functioning  that starts developing around  age 4 or 5.  At first these ideas are primitive concepts of reward, punishment, shame, and guilt.  In girls we see the rapid development of the superego  during the "latency stage" from the beginning of school until puberty, when girls are all about fairness, compassion, and equality. In a healthy person, the superego becomes internalized principles of right and wrong and a sense of conscience.

When the ego fails to develop fully, the superego is seen as an external force that carries with it shame and guilt.  Often this is an "introjection" (like a tape loop) of the overbearing parent's  voice.  We see this frequently in the movies such as "Cary" when she is publicly humiliated at the prom and her mother's voice can be heard "They're all going to laugh at you! They're all going to laugh at you! They're all going to laugh at you!" And the immature superego turns sadistic, inflicting bullying and shame on others.

As I said the other day, the role of the id, ego, and superego might sound like this:

Id: "I want a puppy!"
Ego: "Can I really care for a puppy with my work schedule?"
Superego: "You should get a rescued dog." ... Or maybe "You don't deserve a puppy because you let your goldfish die when you were seven!"

Let's jump the orange Rorschach blot for more....

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Back in April, deputies of the Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department (LASD) killed the hostage in a stabbing rampage. The victim was a production assistant on the Comedy Central series "Tosh.0."

WEST HOLLYWOOD, Calif. - The Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department (LASD) admitted Thursday deputies made a deadly mistake this week when they fatally shot an innocent man, reports CBS Los Angeles.

John Winkler, 30, was killed Monday night after deputies responded to a call of a man with a knife. Winkler reportedly worked temporarily as a production assistant for the TV show "Tosh.0″ on Comedy Central.

Shortly after 9:30 p.m., deputies say two men burst out of an apartment building and ran towards them. The first man who exited was bleeding profusely from the neck. Winkler followed close behind, reports the station.

Not only that, they wounded the other hostage!
The other victim the deputies shot in the leg is in stable condition at a hospital.
Well, that's all very regrettable, and that's certainly a freak accident that could never happen again in a million years....Oh Christ, here we go again!
It was the second time in four months that a Los Angeles County sheriff’s deputy mistook a victim for a suspect, both with tragic results. In the April incident in West Hollywood, a TV production assistant was hit in the chest when three deputies fired on him as he and another hostage rushed out of an apartment unit where they were being held. A second hostage was shot in the leg but survived.
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"Splitting" is a defense mechanism by which unwanted parts of our personality are rejected.  The problem is that this usually works rather badly and turns into baseless attacks on others. This is where self-hatred turns into the hatred of others.

Because we accuse other people of having our unwanted traits, this is the source of hypocrisy, pot-kettle-black accusations, "mind reading," scapegoating, and "straw man" arguments. We see this in on-line squabbles, where "straw man" arguments are used to accuse others of things they did not actually say or do. And if someone is a general hot mess, they'll add a stream of ad hominem attacks painting the other person as evil and the accuser as the victim.

But everyone does this to some degree, and anyone that has spent much time on line knows what splitting is like.  If you are having an argument with someone and you take a break but in your mind you are thinking about what you will say and what they will say, then that is an imaginary conflict with an imaginary person.  Do you notice how mean people are in your imagination?  They are real bastards!  But it's easy to forget that those voices are you, and that those are the voices of self criticism.  We take our thoughts (usually the negative ones) and attribute them to other people, and this is projection.  

This also happens off-line, in real life, where we can be devoured by stress imagining family or workplace confrontations that never happen. But we imagine that they will attack our secret weakest points. A skillful manipulator might yell at someone once and then keep them in suspense by leading their victim to imagine that it will happen again.

And it's good to have some self awareness and humility, but this can easily slip over the line to the point where we lash out at a real person over their imagined insults.  This happens when we blame others for our negative thoughts, and it is possible to be unaware of our own self sabotaging emotions and thoughts.  The splitting is still there, but there is also denial of these emotional conflicts, so they remain unconscious.

Splitting can be a conscious operation, where a person hold two contradictory opinions.  We can see this in right wing blogs that say Obama is a iron fisted dictator and a wimp.  Or how often a military sniper says he sleeps like a baby because of his deep love of Jesus.  Or how dangerous and oppressive the government is, unless it's a black teenager that gets shot.  It's the familiar damned-if-you-do-and-damned-if-you-don't strategy.

In the case of the narcissist, feeling of superiority can coexist consciously with shyness and insecurity.  Although this is hard to imagine, we have seen the video diary of the Santa Barbara campus shooter who simultaneously admitted to being terrified of girls, but considered himself a "true alpha male."   Similarly, the borderline personality disorder is dominated by their sense of insecurity but can also have grandiose and omnipotent thoughts.   And  both the narcissist and the borderline accuse other people of thinking badly of them, that is, they project their self criticism onto others.

Consider this fictional scene from the book/movie "Fight Club," where Ed Norton's character (the nameless "Narrator") confronts Helena Bonham Carter  ("Marla"). They are obvious soul mates, and seeing his mirror image in her ("Her lie reflected my lie") is probably why Ed Norton's character has a violent hatred for her ("If I had a tumor, I'd name it Marla")   Ed Norton's character is splitting (oh boy does he split in this story) and projecting  and Marla is savvy enough to see it from across the crowded room, so she's ready when he comes over for a big confrontation.

Marla: I saw you practicing this.
Narrator: Practicing what?
Marla: Telling me off. Is it going as well as you hoped...? [reads his nametag] "Rupert"?
Narrator: I'll expose you.
Marla: Go ahead. I'll expose you.
Marla knows  Ed Norton's character needs to psych himself up with an imaginary confrontation, and, when he approaches her, she throws him of balance by ruining his script.  She has already "exposed" him to himself by showing him his own false emotions,  phony outrage, and self righteousness.  (Spoiler - if you haven't seen the movie, she likes him).
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