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    with what you are saying, and did not mean to imply that telling someone is going to automatically mean they would understand (or not blame the true victim).

    What I was trying to say is that as more people have the courage to tell their story, I think/hope/believe that the general population will start understanding that the victims are in fact, the victims.

    I think, right now, it is very easy for too many people to fall back 'she asked for it'.  As more stories are told, it think/hope many will start to recognize and understand who the true victims are.

    There will always be those who think it is the woman's fault.  Just like there are those who believe being gay is a sin, or who think President Obama's birth certificate is a fake.

    My hope is that as people who have been assaulted find the strength to talk about it, there will be people who find the capacity to listen, understand and respond in a manner that is beneficial to the victim and society at large.

    You are absolutely correct, there are people out there today who do blame the victim.   I think this is why it is so difficult for people to tell their truths.  They have already been victimized, they do not need/want to be victimized again.

    This is especially difficult because the abuser usually takes the time to assure the victim that it is their fault.  It takes a brave and courageous person to not accept this, or to find a way out of it.

    I am not advocating that all people just go out and tell their story, it has to be the right time and the right place for the person.  There is risk, pain and uncertainty in doing this.

    That is why it is an honor to bare witness to the people who can stand up and tell their stories.  I think it makes a difference, and will continue to make a difference.  If for no other reason, others will know that they are not alone.

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