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  •  You're all making this much, much worse (0+ / 0-)

    Hilary Rosen said something that plays right into the narrative that feminists scoff at women who work inside the home.  

    If someone on the right uses the word "monkey" or "watermelon" in the same sentence as "Obama," you have no trouble seeing the problem.

    How you can allow someone to say "never worked a day in her life" about a wife and mother without standing up and screaming about it is beyond me.  How Hilary Rosen did it shows that sometimes even smart people can be as tin-eared as . . . Romney.

    Hilary Rosen needs to be ostracized for, most charitably speaking, her profound lack of judgment.

    •  I don't agree (1+ / 0-)
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      I'm a woman who had no financial choice but to go back to work after my son was born.  It was an agonizing choice.  I don't demean or belittle stay-at-home moms.  I absolutely envy the ability to spend that time with children, especially when they are young.  But I consider it to be a privilege, not "work."  Which is not to say that it's trivial, irrelevant, or meaningless.  But it's not a job.  

      IMO, saying that being a mom and a homemaker is "work" demeans the role, too, suggesting that it's just another thing to toil away at, and honestly interchangeable with a job outside the home.  That is, if being a mom is work, then why not be a fry cook at Wendy's?  It's all work, right?  So, who cares who raises the kids or if all the meals the family eats are fast food, mom is just working someplace different than the home?

      My pet peeve is the focus on who's a worker, and the idea that being a "worker" is the be-all end-all of human existence.  That's a right-wing frame.  It's the grating edict from Sir Toppam Hat on the Thomas the Train cartoons - you're only worth anything if you're "very useful" to society.  There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that being a mom and a homemaker isn't "work" the way that taking orders, punching a clock, and providing your labor for sale to others is "work."  We absolutely should turn this issue back around every time it arises by focusing on raising kids as a meaningful role, on who else is supposed to be raising our children.

      I just don't see anything wrong with Rosen pointing out that the vast majority of women don't have the choice to raise their kids anymore, and that it wasn't really a "choice" for Ann Romney, who has always been richedy-rich and never obliged to sell her labor at the expense of seeing her kids grow up.

      Thought is only a flash in the middle of a long night, but the flash that means everything - Henri Poincaré

      by milton333 on Thu Apr 12, 2012 at 11:04:30 AM PDT

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    •  Not really (0+ / 0-)

      The point is not that she's a stay at home mom.  It's that she doesn't know jack shit about the kinds of problems other women have.  She's never had to worry about whether she could afford to go to the doctor at all.

      Some people worry about keeping their job when their car's not reliable.  Even if they would love the relative luxury of not having to go to work at all.  Ann Romney?  She doesn't even have to choose only one color of Cadillac, since she keeps two.

      Grab all the joy you can. (exmearden 8/10/09)

      by Land of Enchantment on Thu Apr 12, 2012 at 11:37:28 AM PDT

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