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  •  As the daughter of a "Southern Lady" (20+ / 0-)

    I feel your pain. Father died when I was young, but I was taught by a real Southern Lady how all-important and necessary it was to be a true Southern Lady....at all times. I rebelled against it from almost the very beginning...and am still the "black sheep" of the family, because I went my own way....sometimes hard and sometimes "trashy," but I Did It My Way.  "Trashy" is one word a Southern Lady never wants applied to her.  My lovely mother taught me: I must be a virgin when I marry as I would be offering the greatest gift of all to my husband, my virginity on my wedding night. (Uh, that didn't happen.) I was too trashy. A true lady doesn't aspire to be a lawyer (I was dying to go to law school), but must settle for being a nurse or a teacher. I became a teacher. A Southern Lady is a beacon of femininity. She is feminine even when she is alone. (Made no sense to me whatsoever.) I lost that battle. A Southern Lady knows how to gently flirt, be coy...but never too forward....make the men chase you, not the other way round. Sigh. I was losing the whole battle to be a Southern Lady. There were SO many things a Southern Lady couldn't do....curse, drink, smoke, "neck and pet," cross your legs while sitting, go without stockings, read things that would cause you to be emotional, talk about money, religion or politics, etc etc.  Finally, I just said, "Fuck this shit." Mother is still disappointed in me. I give not a rat's ass....and my daughter and granddaughter are also not Southern Ladies....thank goodness.

    This whole world's wild at heart and weird on top....Lula

    by anninla on Fri May 18, 2012 at 11:55:06 AM PDT

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