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    On a recent trip, at a fuel stop, my husband asked me to find out where a particular restaurant/grocery was located that he had read about on the internet.

    I walked in and spotted a dude who happened to be African American, not dressed fancy - t shirt and jeans - but something about how he walked made me think that maybe he is gay.

    I immediately asked him about this Asian grocery/restaurant that my husband had written about. I didn't want to ask the cashier because they're normally clueless about what's where.
    I took a chance that the dude was from the area, not a traveler like us, and might have heard of the place.

    I said "excuse me sir, do you know........."
    He thought a moment and then remembered exactly what I was talking about and gave me a detailed explanation of where it was. This dude had a "pride" that I associated (maybe wrongly) with the pride that "out" gay people have - a hard won confidence and "we have a right to be ourselves" attitude that many of us Not part of the gay community don't have - the rest of us, beaten down, average people.

    I thanked the dude as we walked back towards our cars. He happened to be at a pump next to ours. My husband asked me if I learned anything. I pointed to the man and said - this man told me - my husband didn't know what I was talking about - I said, pointing - this gentleman told me how to get ther and my husband asked follow up qustions like - have you been there? He had, once and thought it was good.

    Was my gaydar any good?
     I'll never know. But as I told my husband, I think gay people who are out have a pride in themselves and a courage, maybe because of the community support they have and this essence seems to tie into an intelligence and social pride about keeping informed about what's going on and making an effort to communicate in a very pleasant and socially attentive way.

    I'll never know and I just appreciate whoever the dude was for his help.

    Finally people have gotten sick and tired of being had and taken for idiots. Mikhail Gorbachev

    by eve on Mon Jul 09, 2012 at 07:09:12 AM PDT

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