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  •  me too...WOOT! (10+ / 0-)

    in the past year i have 1) left my husband of 10 years whom i loved like a little brother but a pesky one that liked to put me down and criticize a lot 2) bought my own house 3) said fuck it to the world and have been pretty open in my small town conservative suburbia about my big gay lifestyle and loving my girlfriend.  surprisingly the backlash has been insignificant other than my ex husband's family who i adored so so so so so so so so much.  SO MUCH.  he knew that i had a thing for girls prior to our marriage but i discovered at some point within the last couple of years that not only did i have problems and dissatisfaction in my marriage, but maybe a portion of these problems (NOT ALL) stemmed from unknowingly not being true to myself.  my relationship with my girlfriend is what was always missing in all of my past sexual conquests with men and in my marriage.  it was a hard torturous journey to open my eyes to the truth but goddammit they are open now and anyone that doesn't like it can seriously FUCK OFF.  i did my best.  i tried to make my marriage work more than he did but it wasn't to be.  i am getting over the immense sadness of losing his family, all of them, my nieces and nephews who i adored, my mother in law who was like my own mother, my sisters and brothers.  but dammitol i don't think i need to be a martyr anymore.  he is so incredibly cruel still i cannot even imagine treating another like he does.  but i understand he is mad.  but my god.  i care about him.  i care about his family.  but i am so utterly happy and so very very me.  cheers to being true to yourself.  cheers to not allowing the haters to make you ashamed of who you are.  i am a good loving person and it is all good!  xoxo

    lokah samastah sukhino bhavantu

    by jodygirl on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 07:28:16 AM PDT

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      and i did have ONE issue where a coworker had found out prob thru fb even tho we are not friends on it and was going off on work premises presumably about what a lesbo i am and how immoral it is and i went to him and professionally told him to stfu or i will contact hr about it and i think he might have shit his pants.  WOOT!

      lokah samastah sukhino bhavantu

      by jodygirl on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 07:30:12 AM PDT

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    •  You are describing what happened to me too. (3+ / 0-)
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      Losing family really stinks. I'm glad you are happy though.

      Poverty = politics.

      by Renee on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 08:05:08 AM PDT

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      •  man, i'm sorry to hear that... (3+ / 0-)
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        it really does.  it is like a knife thru your heart.  they knew we had probs all those years.  our arguments and disputes were legendary.  i loved them all so much.  but my family, my 81 year old mother who never liked gays stuck by me and was so so so surprisingly supportive and loves my sweet sweet gf.  friends very supportive too.  but the hole that his family left is painful.  starting to heal and close doors tho.  but i see them so often as sister i was closest with has son that plays on my son's team.  i just have to remember i loved them so.  i think they feel betrayed but so do i.  there love for me was dependant on me being married to their brother.  i haven't changed at all.  i just love someone that is supportive, kind, caring, always generous and nurturing and sensitive.  it is nice.  hope all is well with you.  :)

        lokah samastah sukhino bhavantu

        by jodygirl on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 08:10:16 AM PDT

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        •  Well, I'm hoping to find the woman who is (1+ / 0-)
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          supportive, kind, caring, generous, and sensitive, but I'm digging myself out of the mess. Everyone here feels betrayed too. I turned myself inside out trying to keep good relationships going with people I loved but I finally realized that if it's that much work it probably isn't worth it.

          Poverty = politics.

          by Renee on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 11:27:04 AM PDT

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