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  •  And for those of us who have long been Out (5+ / 0-)

    and are in a life partnership, it is now very timely to come out as Married.  

    When I say "my wife", I see people flinch.  Perhaps they have an excuse in that our state offers no legal standing, but dangit we said our vows 15 years ago and again 5 years ago in Canada, and I consider myself fully and totally married, so deal with it.   If I say  "my spouse, she says ...", much smaller flinch, which is interesting that just removing the gender signifier makes it a little less threatening. .  "My partner, she says ..." almost no reaction, ever, any more.  

    The frisson of social discomfort that "wife" causes, is a clue to me that it is worth doing.  

    "The extinction of the human race will come from its inability to EMOTIONALLY comprehend the exponential function." -- Edward Teller

    by lgmcp on Thu Oct 11, 2012 at 09:35:29 AM PDT

    •  good observation (3+ / 0-)
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      lgmcp, Avilyn, diggerspop

      I have noticed that as well when I'm talking to others about friends of mine (couples).  If I say "We went to visit B and his husband last week" there's a definite jolt.  "B and his partner", maybe just a blink.  But hey, they got married legally in the District of Columbia last year, just in time for the arrival of their twins (as they joke, they wouldn't want the kids to have unwed parents!), so I'll use the husband word and let folks get used to it.

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