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  •  I've been called "aloof" since I was a kid (12+ / 0-)

    It was in my written reports from school. It was probably one of the most common adjectives I recall from my upbringing. As an adult, I'm super friendly and get along with people very readily but also, keep my distance, am very analytical, and proudly embrace being "aloof." I can't quite figure out warm and fuzzy people, although I admit that there's something that I admire about them (with people I know, I shift gears and am much more tuned in -- it's like a switch that I feel flick on). But I hear I always have a poker face, even when I think I'm being pretty expressive...

    So I have no clue why it's even a smear to be "aloof."

    I think it's the product of being analytical as well as being more of a listener than a talker, and also being tempered in how you actually do express yourself. All of which are good qualities.

    I like other aloof people. I want to reclaim this word, "aloof" from the dregs of my childhood and from the albatross around the President's neck.

    I'd rather not have someone too hotheaded in charge of the Country and all that.

    Of course, given the racial dimension, it's probably a code word for "uppity." African-Americans have been stereotyped as being "passionate" and "hot-blooded" and God forbid a black man dare not fit that mold. It's up there with an Asian woman who isn't demure and feminine but rather is forceful and outspoken. What is our white American nation coming to? (obvious snark)

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      And just dont be clear I wasnt trying to suggest aloof was a bad thing. But in the political context, I think the media takes aloof to equal "unable to connect with voters". And I think it's an odd charge when he clearly connects with voters.

    •  I can relate very much. (4+ / 0-)

      I think I come across as "aloof" too ... but to me it is more about being even-keeled and having a certain amount of attachment.

      (I also don't get touchy-feely people.  It doesn't seem to be worth all that much when some of the "huggiest" families I've seen are also some of the most dysfunctional and at-war with each other.)

      To the irritation of some, I don't jump up and down in hysterical ecstasy when positive things happen ... but at the same time, unlike them, I don't go into the pits of depression and despair when disappointments happen.

      I think because of that detachment, I do get along with people better in general.  I can let things slide more easily, and don't have as much of the knee-jerk defensiveness -- that quality of always looking for something to be offended by -- that I see in so many people.  I don't have a million "closest friends," but I get along with pretty much everyone -- even people who don't get along with each other.

      So, yes, in this case I think "aloof" is a code-word for something else:  "uppity" ... "elite" ... "superior" ... etc.

    •  I get this too (3+ / 0-)

      As an introvert and a sales rep, I had to force myself to be temporarily extroverted at different times. But I didn't have to force my analytics and attention to detail. I was quite successful in spite of not being a typical sales personality.  So I happen to really admire what I see as the President's introverted side. It's one of the characteristics that allows him to catch people by surprise.

    •  You could be my new best friend! (3+ / 0-)

      I've been "aloof" since childhood too.  Apparently it is disturbing for a woman to be that way, as it seems to be for a black man.  If you're aloof, then you are not being sufficiently supportive of manly egos.  Apparently I have a serious face; can't count the number of times total strangers (always male) would come up to me and tell me to "smile, it can't be that bad!"  

      Maybe that's one reason I like Obama so much, I know a kindred spirit when I see one.  Plus, he's a bad-ass.

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