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  •  The thing is, having a gun handy if you are (3+ / 0-)
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    WakeUpNeo, aaraujo, Joy of Fishes

    suicidal is a really bad idea.

    But it makes suicide seem like an idea that jumps into your head and two minutes later, you've pulled out your gun and you're gone.

    Like it comes on as fast as a fever.

    I don't think it works that way. We do ourselves and everyone around us a great disservice in believing that.

    I don't think depression starts with the idea of suicide. It starts with the idea that life sucks and maybe it won't get better and I feel lousy. What should I do? What can I do?

    I think most people reach for a lot of things that might help, including talking to other people. Probably not saying, I feel like shit and I'm scared about how bad I feel or what I might do. But they will probably talk to someone.

    People have to be willing to ask, What's going on with you? How bad do you feel? Have you talked to a doctor to see if a doctor might help?

    Maybe, I've been through a depression before. I know how lousy it can feel. I know it's possible to get help.

    You just have to be willing to ask for help. To admit how bad you're feeling. To get over the idea that you should be strong enough to tough this out, as if strength can defeat brain chemistry imbalances.

    You have to understand that people with depression get better. That the first thing you try might not help. The second thing might not. But if you keep trying, something will probably help.  You won't always feel this lousy.

    As The Bloggess says often, Depression Lies. It tries to make you believe the lies that nothing will ever change and life will always suck.

    Confession time: When I'm not ranting about politics, I write romance novels

    by teresahill on Sun Dec 23, 2012 at 05:53:37 PM PST

    •  TBI and/or PTSD complicate the picture... (2+ / 0-)
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      aaraujo, Joy of Fishes
      You have to understand that people with depression get better. That the first thing you try might not help. The second thing might not. But if you keep trying, something will probably help.  You won't always feel this lousy.
      Thinking clearly is tough, when you can't think clearly.

      And drug cocktails often only make things worse.

      •  Yes, it is. Especially when you can't trust (3+ / 0-)
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        aaraujo, WakeUpNeo, Joy of Fishes

        your own thoughts.

        So getting the idea across ahead of time to everyone that this is how depression works. This is how it feels. What it makes you think is true.

        I'm saying, we have time before we get depressed and before it gets bad enough that we want to kill ourselves, to get help. To understand how it works. To know to ask for help and hopefully have access to help.

        People being open about their experiences with depression are important. Saying I've been there, and I got better. Those are powerful messages.

        Confession time: When I'm not ranting about politics, I write romance novels

        by teresahill on Sun Dec 23, 2012 at 06:11:36 PM PST

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