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  •  I love my son (8+ / 0-)

    He's always had some good insights about things. At school, he was a good student, and the sport he was in was exciting, but team members were not elevated to heroes.

    Once, when we were talking about dating, he said he didn't want to "date," he wanted a "relationship." He also said that he could tell when girls had parents who didn't really figure very much in their lives; they were pretty much on their own.

    When somebody suggested he check out some girl who was reportedly "easy," he told me that yes, he could probably have sex with her, but "I don't want to be that guy."

    I can't claim all credit for his values, but he was a thoughtful, sensitive boy when he was born, and has remained so. My husband and I have tried to model decency, but we never had to do very much correcting of bad behavior.

    I'd like to believe there were at least some other students who saw this behavior and were disgusted by it. But the pride a small town takes in high school sports victories often takes priority over the demeaning treatment those same sport heroes display to less famous kids.

    •  I'm pretty sure there were plenty (2+ / 0-)
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      and it disturbs me that they can't speak out:

      I'd like to believe there were at least some other students who saw this behavior and were disgusted by it. But the pride a small town takes in high school sports victories often takes priority over the demeaning treatment those same sport heroes display to less famous kids.

      I hope that the quality of debate will improve,
      but I fear we will remain Democrats.

      by twigg on Fri Jan 04, 2013 at 10:19:36 AM PST

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    •  I was grateful my son's "sport" (3+ / 0-)
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      twigg, wenchacha, FishOutofWater

      was jazz band. They consistently placed in the tops of the state (yes, Iowa has state-level jazz competitions.) But the school's math teams and debate teams and show choir and science bowl teams and .... also placed well, statewide and even nationally. The broad appreciation for academics and other extracurricular activities, not exclusively athletics, I think helps turn out students who are more well-rounded and have a better perspective on themselves and the world.

      Congrats to you for helping raise a thoughtful young man.

      I get to choose, and I choose love.

      by Melanie in IA on Fri Jan 04, 2013 at 11:08:46 AM PST

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