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  •  You are the best judge or what's best for you. (9+ / 0-)

    My wife and I have one child. We might have had more, but my wife was 40 when our daughter was born, and she was pretty sick during her pregnancy.

    I've had conversations with people that start out nice, but when they start butting in to our our family planning, it's not friendly any more.

    It's just none of anyone's business how many children you have, or whether you have any at all. If someone has a minivan full of children, I'm not going to nag them about it. So why can't they leave people alone who don't have children, or don't have as many children as they think we should have?

    Either people can't have children or they have decided not to. In neither case is anyone's nagging of value.  

    The wolfpack eats venison. The lone wolf eats mice.

    by A Citizen on Sat Jan 12, 2013 at 10:56:33 PM PST

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    •  Great point... (7+ / 0-)

      It's especially painful to be asked why you don't have kids when you're struggling with infertility. In my case, my infertility (stemming from PCOS)  was a private struggle that I wasn't comfortable discussing with many people, and I shouldn't have had to.

      We are high school sweethearts who just had our first child at age 30, and when people always asked why we didn't have kids, I always replied with information about my infertility, which usually made people feel like crap for assuming.

      Minding your own business is a skill no one learns in America anymore.

      "People walk a tight rope on a razor's edge, carrying their hurt and hatred and weapons. It could be a bomb or a bullet or a pen or a thought or a word or a sentence." -Ain't No Reason by Brett Dennen

      by aintnoreason on Sat Jan 12, 2013 at 11:08:24 PM PST

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      •  Ask they they want to be surrogate mothers. (4+ / 0-)

        If they are so very interested in you having children, and think that they are somehow involved in your having children, ask them if they'd be willing to be your surrogate mother.

        That ought to shut them up really quickly.

        The wolfpack eats venison. The lone wolf eats mice.

        by A Citizen on Sat Jan 12, 2013 at 11:19:10 PM PST

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