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  •  Excellent diary. T&R. (8+ / 0-)

    I’ve said – or thought – the same things.

    I love being a regular member of the DKos community. Like you, I lurked here (as a non-member) before I finally joined DKos after the 2008 election was over and there was a discussion about which I wanted to give my opinion. Then I started writing comments and diaries. And I learned how to embed pictures and videos and format headlines and sub-headlines. I even figured out how to do HTML tables (which are a pain in the ass, so I don’t do them much – it’s easier to take a picture of an Excel spreadsheet and post it as a JPG file).

    Like you, I’ve never ever received a Hide Rate (HR). You’ve written 4158 comments (without a single HR), I’ve written 4655 comments (without HR). You’ve written 239 diaries – I’ve written only 144 (I was more prolific when I was unemployed, ha!). And those numbers will change. I suppose one of us might get an HR in the future. But c’est la vie. I’m not worried about it. I’m thinking about writing a diary when I reach 5000 comments without an HR. Maybe some advice on how to avoid getting pelted with donuts.

    I’ve seen some good and decent people get banned (because they posted while drunk or got mad about something or broke some rule). And I’ve seen good people post a Goodbye Cruel World (GBCW) diary because they were mistreated or they thought they were mistreated or sometimes they just said “fuck this, I’m going elsewhere.” I can think of a dozen people who are now gone, but I wish they were still here. Because they had important things to say. Bonddad, for one. He wrote brilliant pieces about the economy. And Miep/Mieprown was a fan of Frank Zappa and Captain Beefheart. I miss both of them.

    I’m not particularly religious, but I think the Golden Rule (aka Karma) is a good rule for life – “Treat other people the way you’d want to be treated.” This means: Be polite. Don’t assume the worst. Use your inside voice. Don’t be greedy. Listen to the other person. Don’t be mean. Assume the best. Don’t be a dick. And if the other person won’t shut up and wants to get the last word, well, who cares? Let them have the last word. Turn the other cheek.

    One more thing: You mentioned four controversial topics (Clinton/Obama, Health Care little/nothing, The Nephew, and Guns (rights/control). I have two more. One topic that can be toxic and fruitless to argue about is Israel/Palestine ( I/P). The people on both sides throw HRs at each other with abandon. I can understand both sides. And that debate shows how, in your words, anger is fear turned sideways. Inevitably, someone mentions Hitler and the Nazis. The second topic that’s toxic is the sux/rox debate. The SUX people say Obama sucks because he’s not perfect. He’s not being liberal or progressive enough. He’s signing a law that’s not good or he’s compromising with the Republicans or he’s in bed with the banksters. The ROX people say Obama rocks. Because something is better than nothing. McCain or Romney would have been much worse (especially with Supreme Court nominees or gay rights or the environment or whatever other topic you’re talking about). He sucks! He rocks! No, you’re wrong!

    That’s just a different type of  I/P debate – idealists versus pragmatists. I totally sympathize with the idealists. I wish George McGovern had been elected in 1972. I wish Clinton hadn’t signed DOMA. But I tend to be more of a pragmatist (I think LBJ did some great things with civil rights for African Americans because he wasn’t idealistic – he knew how to push legislation through Congress and twist arms).

    I’m bloviating now. And I’ve had two or three beers (sorry if I offended your teetotalling sensibilities). But I wanted to reply to your excellent post. Thanks for reading my rant. Best wishes to you.

    “If you misspell some words, it’s not plagiarism.” – Some Writer

    by Dbug on Fri Feb 01, 2013 at 11:11:47 PM PST

    •  I am a person who cannot drink (1+ / 0-)
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      not a teetotaler.  What other people choose to do with alcohol is entirely their own affair.  If they decide that, for themselves, they would like to stop drinking, then I am willing to get involved.

      Ancora Impara--Michelangelo

      by aravir on Mon Feb 04, 2013 at 04:43:14 AM PST

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