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  •  Also a reminder that siblings suffer too. (3+ / 0-)
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    sandblaster, Tamar, Liberaljentaps

    A friend of mine lost her 25 year old daughter to melanoma six years ago.  At the memorial service, the minister spoke of siblings (in this case two brothers) as the forgotten mourners. Their pain and the lifelong affects of their loss is often not acknowledged by society.

    When I lost my mom at a teen, I remember how weeks after, the casseroles, cards, and condolences stopped, and the larger world moved on while we were still awash in grief.  As an adult now, I try to remember that people who have lost loved ones still need support way longer than we often know.

    Peace for you and your Tamar, during your memory week.

    •  everything you said is true. My daughter, now (1+ / 0-)
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      Desert Rose

      24, still feels the effects of losing her older sister. And of course, as I mentioned in the diary. my oldest daughter was deeply affected by the sudden destruction of her little brother's life.
      We were lucky to have friends and family who continue to care and check in with us even after all these years. But for many people, the initial flurry of attention fades away and the grieving family members are left without much support.
      I want to give a big thank you to members of my extended family who supported us through both losses. And to my neighbors who came through so often. When my son had his stroke, parents at our elementary school worked out a schedule of bringing us meals 2 or 3 times a week for almost 2 months. Meals were made and delivered sometimes by people I never met!

      We're not perfect, but they're nuts! -- Barney Frank

      by Tamar on Sat Jan 19, 2013 at 12:35:42 PM PST

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