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  •  I spent a week trying to reconcile... (10+ / 0-)

    She has chosen him.

    "Ich bin ein Dachs!"

    by PvtJarHead on Sat Jan 26, 2013 at 05:23:13 PM PST

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    •  something is wrong with her, it sounds like (8+ / 0-)

      I am sorry that your wife has something wrong with her. But if she were with you and had a child with you, a mentally healthy and mature togeather person does not go off with someone she met online.

      If a normal person is unhappy in a relationship she says so so the two can work on it.

      I am sorry this happened to you. Let it be a small comfort that she's acting outside the norm, especially exposing your child to someone she hadn't met before (if that is actually the case).

    •  Prior to this, did you notice any signs that (8+ / 0-)

      she was feeling unhappy in the marriage? bored? restless?  

      As a former marriage counselor, retired now, I have seen this where someone will leave a marriage for someone who is nearly a stranger because they want something new, ie they are the types that become easily bored and crave excitement and adventure. Often they will trade the love and security and commitment of marriage for something new and exciting because they want to feel young again. Ie it is often a sign of immaturity and insecurity.

      So please know it is not you who is being rejected as much as it speaks volumes to who she is and what she wants in life.   Was she married young? Did she feel she never had a chance to be free or wild or sow wild oats?  
      Has she ever expressed that she is bored with being a wife and mother and wants more adventure and excitement ?  That is sometimes a signal the person is anxious to leave and would leave for about anyone.

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      by wishingwell on Sat Jan 26, 2013 at 07:19:33 PM PST

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    •  You did the right thing PJH. (1+ / 0-)
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      She chose him?
      Over a Marine? Definitely something wrong with that woman!

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      by rebel ga on Sun Jan 27, 2013 at 01:59:17 AM PST

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    •  A week isn't very long (4+ / 0-)

      ...but even assuming your relationship is beyond repair, your daughter wants/needs to love both parents. She got no say or choice who those parents would be: I urge you, for her sake, tamp don the feelings of betrayal and hurt. Focus on productive ways to move on. When you find another partner - which you surely will do - it will make your life a whole lot easier

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      by Brit on Sun Jan 27, 2013 at 04:09:49 AM PST

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