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  •  Speaking as someone (27+ / 0-)

    who was the victim of bullying I have nothing but contempt for the kinds of people who push kids into the frame of mind that they have only death to escape the bullying.

    What makes matters worse, in my opinion, is that there are people campaigning against the idea of taking one freaking day to sit with someone who isn't in their clique because of "teh icky gay".

    No child should feel so abused and alone that they take their own life instead of having to face more and more pain. We need to stop looking at bullying as being normal behavior or a right of passage, we're losing too many kids because of it.

    “Fairy tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.” ― G.K. Chesterton

    by bayushisan on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 03:18:18 PM PST

    •  Bullying is a problem inside and out. (13+ / 0-)

      Why is a kid being so mean to another one?

      that should be a huge red flag, not "boys will be boys'.

      Boothie, above, pints out society needs a pecking order. So the bullying is likely quietly encouraged as normal. Creme rises to the top, you know....

      The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men.

      by xxdr zombiexx on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 03:25:57 PM PST

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    •  The thing that gets me is that in that case - (9+ / 0-)

      and often in the case of anti-bully rules - it isn't even about QUILTBAG issues at all!

      I mean, come on. The churches could have just as easily turned that day into 'the government can't ban you from witnessing at school, break up the church clique table and go try to convince your unchurched classmates to come to Visitor Sunday in youth group'. But no.

      I've heard anti-gay arguments against bully-limiting legislation and district rules in places where LGBT protections were explicitly excluded and in places where all that was included was physical harm or the threat thereof. And meanwhile I'm sitting there, watching a video with all this in church as someone who very rarely got (mis)targeted with anti-gay stuff as part of a wider bullying pattern, doubted I was saved because surely God and Jesus wouldn't let the stuff that was happening to me happen to someone they'd actually heard when I prayed The Prayer, and the same policy they were up in arms about wouldn't have done a single damn thing to protect me from any of it! And I couldn't reveal I'd even been bullied to any of them, much less anti-gay bullying, because I already knew they didn't care - hell, my first bullies were kids I went to church events to, back when I was little, and the same adults showing that video were the same ones who witnessed all that when I was five and six and seven and tried to keep my parents from finding out!

      Prayers and best wishes to those in Japan.

      by Cassandra Waites on Tue Jan 29, 2013 at 03:33:58 PM PST

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