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  •  Coming out is not easy. (6+ / 0-)

    Nowadays it's not as hard or as dangerous as it was a few decades ago, but it's still emotionally fraught.  And there is still the danger of rejection and/or violence, though, again, not as much as in the old days.  Being LGBT flies so powerfully against the assumptions of society that, first, it's often hard for the individual to accept about him or herself, and second, you never know what society's reaction is going to be.  But while coming out of the closet is a hard thing to do, it's the rare LGBT person that will regret doing it.  You are freed to be who you really are.

    -5.13,-5.64; If you gave [Jerry Falwell] an enema, you could bury him in a matchbox. -- Christopher Hitchens

    by gizmo59 on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 07:57:25 PM PST

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    •  And the irony is, that (4+ / 0-)
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      the individual's acceptance of that aspect of themselves also might be coming at the same time that they have to accept themselves in more general ways. You know, that late adolescence, early adulthood time that just sucks generally for most people, because they don't really know who they are. They're still trying on costumes. So now they have to accept one more fairly difficult layer? Bad timing...

      •  For myself, (3+ / 0-)

        I was 35 when I came out, so dealing with the gay thing was completely separated from the "Who am I?" dilemma of late adolescence/early adulthood.  On the other hand, I didn't get the full answer to that question until my mid-30s.

        -5.13,-5.64; If you gave [Jerry Falwell] an enema, you could bury him in a matchbox. -- Christopher Hitchens

        by gizmo59 on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 08:10:56 PM PST

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        •  But you had a lot more resources by then, (2+ / 0-)
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          probably. Yes?

          I'll get your answer tomorrow. Heading for bed now. G'night!

          •  Very much so. (2+ / 0-)
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            I was living in Baltimore at the time.  There is an LGBT health center in Baltimore called Chase-Brexton, and under their psychological services, I was able to participate in a coming-out support group.  I knew I was not alone.  Nothing like that would have existed 15-20 years previously.  And even in those days (the '90s), there were a lot more gay visibility in the culture than there had been before.

            -5.13,-5.64; If you gave [Jerry Falwell] an enema, you could bury him in a matchbox. -- Christopher Hitchens

            by gizmo59 on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 08:22:37 PM PST

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    •  We Don't Know How Dangerous It Is Today. (4+ / 0-)

      Every letter typed or uttered now goes into your permanent record.

      We don't know who's going to be reading that record 30-40 years from now.

      We are called to speak for the weak, for the voiceless, for victims of our nation and for those it calls enemy.... --ML King "Beyond Vietnam"

      by Gooserock on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 08:07:28 PM PST

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      •  True. (1+ / 0-)
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        We don't yet know the full implications of the digital record of what people are posting to the internet.  However, simple admission for being LGBT will not destroy anybody's career, as it did very often in the past.  Unless one is a Fundamentalist preacher, of course.

        -5.13,-5.64; If you gave [Jerry Falwell] an enema, you could bury him in a matchbox. -- Christopher Hitchens

        by gizmo59 on Thu Jan 31, 2013 at 08:14:50 PM PST

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