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  •  Making eye contact is seen as a "come on" (15+ / 0-)

    only because it's a refusal to accept your subservient status.  Who is permitted to make eye contact with whom is a strong indication of which of the individuals is considered "superior" in a society.  In ours, that has been men.  

    I was once a cute little chickie.  I vividly recall a situation where I was being "checked out" by a couple of boys.  I did the nice little submissive look away, but then thought "what the hell?" so I simply looked back.  Not aggressively, not with any kind of attitude, just didn't look away like a nice girl would.  They became extremely uncomfortable and were soon shouting quite offensive comments at me.  I learned a lesson right there about how subtle sexism so often is.

    "If you trust you are not critical; if you are critical you do not trust" by our own Dauphin

    by gustynpip on Wed Feb 06, 2013 at 02:03:52 PM PST

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    •  Been There. Done That. :( (4+ / 0-)

      I have learned there are also some people that you just cannot be nice to.

      What you consider normal social niceties are sometimes interpreted as a "Come Hither" move, or a, "I am going to fall over with my legs in the air" thing.

      Both situations suck, but the latter to me is worse. It makes you feel insecure about being nice to males after that.

      The problem is, that some cultures think that American Women are loose--they imagine that we supposedly will do it with anyone because we can't stop!

      They don't understand that just because we have the power to initiate sex, doesn't mean that they are automatically included as partners.  

      Of course I have encountered plenty of American males who suffered the same delusions.

      It's part of that whole syndrome of beliefs, that promote this notion that if a female has ever said yes, or is imagined to have said yes to sex, ever in her life, then she permanently looses the power to say no forever after. She must consent to all suitors.

      Sick sick world.

      Oh well, to hell with that.

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