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  •  My mother also has chronic pain, it is terrible (9+ / 0-)

    I read this and so many things are familiar, an active lively person so bravely facing each day just to be normal, just to feel ok, or tolerable, or keep the pain in check just enough where she can do the things she wants to do.

    She has postponed surgical options on her back for now, she has known too many people where it did nothing but make things worse, and her team of various doctors were never exactly sure what might be best way to proceed.  She has a few back issues, all compounding one another and making the others worse, in cycles as one area settles another flares up.

    My dad has been her caretaker, driving as she is worried the narcotic pain relievers might make her dangerous.  Her goal in life is to feel ok enough to get in floor to play with her grandson, he is 2 years and 3 months now, already too big for her to lift him or swing around, though she pushes it.

    My dad was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer, I moved home to care for them both and have family time all together.  She is worried that when she is tired or perhaps out of it she will miss something regarding his health or his care.  She worries on driving.  He worries about her, how she will manage when he is gone.

    She is still so young, was always so active and fiercely independent.  We too have had all the talks on addicition vs dependancy, I am at least pleased she feels no shame anymore in doing what is needed to live the most normal life possible for her now.

    I am rambling, your diary just hit a note, thank you for posting it.

    "They have tried to sell us this trickle-down, tax-cut fairy dust before. And guess what? It does not work. It didn't work then, it won't work now." --Barack Obama

    by lizah on Thu Feb 07, 2013 at 09:10:29 PM PST

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