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  •  Dear Zwoof, back in August of 2010 I posted a (2+ / 0-)
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    diary about my daughter who was in an abusive relationship.
    Your courage to come into that diary and offer words of support, wisdom, and comfort, even though the pain for you to do so is incomprehensible, is something I'll never forget and always be grateful for.

    1400 victims that Alicia's Voice has been there for, what a way to honor her life, her memory.

    I truly hope the organization doesn't really have to end.

    This community reaching out had a direct impact on my daughter finally leaving her abuser. So many reached out to offer help and wisdom it amazed me.
    One person in particular here reached out and met with her professionally. (technically we kidnapped her to get her to see him, a story we can laugh about today but sure as hell didn't at the time.) It seemed that it didn't do too much good at the time, but she did tell me later that what he said to her that day had a big impact on her over the following months until she finally made the decision to get herself out of the situation. That didn't take place until May of '11, nine months after I posted that diary.
    In April of '11 I learned that they were going to lose one of their cars to a loan title company. My thought was that if I could get that car in her name only she would have the means to leave. (she had attempted to leave several times and he would threaten to call the police to say she had stolen the car, which of course he made sure was in his name even though she was the one who had bought it.)
    I flew clear across the country, offered the scum bag money in addition to getting the car out of hock. He jumped on the chance, I didn't leave until I knew the title was in her name, signed and sealed.
    Three weeks later she left for good.
    Even at that we flew her out to the west coast so he couldn't pursue her.

    That is one aspect that a lot of folks don't realize, once a woman has left the danger escalates tremendously, that is when support like Alicia's Voice and any other resources is crucial to keeping the victims from returning, it can keep them safe and alive.

    March 31st my daughter will celebrate her first anniversary with a man who loves and cherishes her, respects her, and has never shown any signs of abuse.
    As I type these words my heart is filled with gratitude as it also breaks for the opposite outcome of Alicia's life.

    I share my daughter's ending here in the hopes that it brings some comfort to you to know that simple acts of reaching out, of being there, do make a difference in the long run. Eventually my daughter read my diary, and the comments, including yours. They had an impact. She is only  one person, Alicia's Voice has made the road to freedom a possibility for over a thousand women. You have saved lives of women and those who love them.
    Bless you all.

    It's your victories that give you your confidence but it's your setbacks that give you your character. -Van Jones

    by Oke on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 10:49:39 AM PST

    •  Remember your diary well, Oke (4+ / 0-)
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      I'm so happy that your daughter is safe now. You did it right!
      Thank you for your kind words once again.

      We all stand submissively before the global ATM machine network like trained chickens pecking the correct colored buttons to release our grains of corn. Joe Bageant

      by Zwoof on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 11:00:28 AM PST

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      •  zwoof, oke has generously posted a $500 match (3+ / 0-)
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        gift in thefundraising diary for alicia's voice here!

        blue jersey mom started us off with $10 - so only $490 to go!  if folks could post donations starting now under that comment, we can track them to make that match happen!

        (gawd, i feel like i'm back at pbs doing a telethon! - don't have any gift packages to offer - just the joy of knowing that yall made a difference will be enough...maybe?)

        EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

        by edrie on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 11:32:30 AM PST

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