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  •  Bread was so important to her.... (5+ / 0-)

    My god, how a tragedy (and this one is high up on the unspeakable-scale) puts all of that in perspective.  I remember not being able to tear myself away from the Eagles-Saints game (even tho they were going with replacement players), back in the 80s, after coming home from my dad's funeral.

    I felt guilty as hell, but somehow that was the right thing to do.

    I don't know the relevance of my words to this situation, but I just....Ahhh, there are no words....just random thoughts sometimes...what can anyone possibly say after seeing that sweet innocent picture of that little child?

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    by Floyd Blue on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 06:32:10 AM PST

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      The 3rd game of the 2007 World Series was held the night of my brother's funeral. I watched it (and the 4th game, the next night) in a hotel room in CA with my Mom.

      However, I didn't feel guilty at all. Patrick would have wanted and expected me to watch those games. Hell, he was buried in his Daisuke Matsuzaka t-shirt, for goodness' sake :).

      I couldn't go on. I really couldn't. And, yes, sometimes it hurts, especially during baseball and football seasons--my brother was a huge Sox and Patriots fan, but lived in CA most of his adult life, so, I knew I'd get the phone call. When the Sox won in '04, I spent the last inning of the final game on the phone with Patrick. I still wait for the phone calls that never come.

      But, in a strange way, it helps. It really does. I hope Noah's grandmother goes back, at some point in the future, to writing about bread. Eventually, it might help.

      "Maybe: it's a vicious little word that could slay me"--Sara Bareilles

      by ChurchofBruce on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 08:48:58 AM PST

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      •  thank you for sharing that experience. (3+ / 0-)

        I was barricaded in my room, watching the game, while the family was sitting shiva in the living room.  I was the only son and everyone knew this would be the first generation that didnt say the full kaddish for the parent.

        It was really hard to deal with all of that in my very immature mid-twenties!  I don't think losing a parent can hurt as much as losing a brother that you love, or certainly not as much as losing a child.

        But, we have to deal with the emotion of it any way that works.

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        by Floyd Blue on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 09:24:47 AM PST

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