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  •  From where I look at this, the first question is (14+ / 0-)

    do I really want to respond to people I know on an online forum as if they were my real-life neighbors, friends, and coworkers? I know what I'm about to say is going to sound harsh and against the spirit of forums such as this one. But I decided long ago that the answer to that question would have to be no as far as I'm concerned. Right now, this place is getting flooded with stories of personal tragedy. I read many of them, and never fail to respond with empathy. But as a rule I never engage - never comment, never rec, let alone do anything beyond that. It's not that I doubt that these stories are true - it's that I don't even want to have to be in a position to make that call. As far as I'm concerned, an online community cannot function according to the same rules that a community of people who interact in the real world is subject to, and it is not wise to forget that.

    •  that is a choice that each individual makes - it (14+ / 0-)

      is not appropriate for some who are uncomfortable with personal tragedy or crisis to demand that no other person has the right to read, see or respond to said crises.

      i would rather be "conned" for $20 than turn my back on someone who really needs that money.  i am far from financially secure right now.  i lost my little cottage rental and am bunking in one room of a friend's house - i am lucky - i have shelter.

      if someone else is in dire straits, it is MY choice to try to find funds to help if i can.  why? because i painfully understand how desperate times can be for people... and if someone is running a "con" - then i would rather lose that gift (and it IS a gift given freely without condition) than have to look at myself in a mirror and know that i turned my back when i could help.

      it is about choice.  each of us makes our own.  i err on the side of helping rather than seeing someone suffer.

      btw, we've already lost one of our members on this site in the recent months due to depression and suicide - we tried to help (he didn't need money, he needed us...).  we didn't succeed in the end.  should we have rebuked his need as a scam or con because it made us uncomfortable?

      think about the choices you make.  no one knows what the future holds for each of us.  no one.

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 08:15:50 PM PST

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    •  See, I do interact with many here in the real (5+ / 0-)

      world. We call each other, we write. Some folks hook up at Netroots Nation. I've met folks at local meet ups.

      There are some of my "real" friends that I would not give money too and some folks on here as well. Just depends on the situation.

      Tracy B Ann - technically that is my signature.

      by ZenTrainer on Fri Feb 08, 2013 at 11:13:50 PM PST

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