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  •  I can't imagine how hard this must be for your (11+ / 0-)

    daughters.  I can't imagine how debilitating it would be knowing my father is homeless and having no idea where he is or how he's doing.  Even whether he's still alive.  For a year and a half.  The guilt and worry you feel is probably an iota to what they're feeling.  My heart goes out to them.  And to him.  No matter how "bad" of a husband he was, no one deserves this kind of a sad ending.

    "If you trust you are not critical; if you are critical you do not trust" by our own Dauphin

    by gustynpip on Wed Mar 06, 2013 at 09:44:25 AM PST

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    •  This isn't a competition (17+ / 0-)

      about who is/was hurt the most.  Ex, mom, and daughters were and are hurt about as much as they each could bear.  Dad in his mental hell was obviously beyond the end of his own rope.  Mom's pain is not just about herself and her ex, but also about her daughters' pain--the greater their pain the more pain for her.  It's terribly sad about all they have suffered, and all they have lost, and the worry and guilt they are feeling now with no obvious solution.  

      Dad needed serious mental health intervention, but he doesn't sound like the sort who might have welcomed, or even allowed it voluntarily.

      My deep sympathies to all. :(

      "THERE IS NO JUSTICE. THERE IS JUST US." spoken by DEATH in Terry Pratchett's Discworld books.

      by Sailorben on Wed Mar 06, 2013 at 10:52:09 AM PST

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      •  Who said it was a competition? That was your (3+ / 0-)
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        idea, not mine.  

        My heart simply went out to those poor girls, thinking what it would be like having no idea where their father is or how he's doing.  I have an ex and I had a father.  I know I'd feel very badly if I knew my ex was homeless.  I also had a father.  I can't even begin to comprehend how horrible it would be knowing the same thing about him.  And so my heart goes out to them.  It never occurred to me that stating that fact would make anyone think this was a competition.

        "If you trust you are not critical; if you are critical you do not trust" by our own Dauphin

        by gustynpip on Wed Mar 06, 2013 at 11:00:50 AM PST

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    •  It's not knowing that is hard. We don't know that (3+ / 0-)

      it is any sad ending. It isn't ended and we don't know how sad it is, except for his family feeling bad about it.

      For him? Maybe he is wandering and hopeless, maybe not. Sometimes people can only rebuild their own selves after their shell has cracked and broken. Maybe he went into that process.
      Maybe he has rebuilt his life somewhere here or in Israel but isn't getting in touch because he is being thoughtless or is bitter about perceived insults or betrayals. Maybe he figures they feel guilt and worry and thinbks 'let them". Maybe he is just embarrassed at some "lower status"

      We don't know. For those who love him the not knowing is painful.
      Wishing the best for everyone

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