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    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. One thing, especially, stood out in what you said and that was "wait and plod along." This is a sad way to live. I lived that way for a long time, but it only served to push us further apart because when life is only about putting one foot in front of the other there's not much life there. And what is life for? Is it only to be a struggle to come to the end or a celebration of moments and connections?

    We, too, had cultural differences and expectations. At a certain point we stopped discussing things because we had reached the point where neither could give any more of him/herself to the other without ceasing to be.

    I can say that divorcing was a battle, but I needed to do it for myself and my daughters. I had to show my daughters that I could stand up for myself, but wouldn't it have been better if we had divorced before we got to the point where there was nothing between us but resentments? Isn't saving yourself the same as saving your children? But who knows when you cross the line? And when do we let ourselves realize that saving the self is not selfish?

    All the best to you as you find the solutions for your heart and your life.

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