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  •  I'm not so sure the whole (7+ / 0-)

    "heteronormative" thing is such a big deal.  Despite stereotypes, gay male couples have cohabited in long-term relationships since the species arose.  These sorts of relationships tend to be hidden from public view, but they existed.  (Take, for example, Edward Carpenter and George Merrill, or even J. Edgar Hoover and Clyde Tolson.)  However, same-sex couples were denied the choice of "making it legal," and so were stuck with being marginalized.

    Meanwhile, when the sexual revolution occurred in the 1960s, straight people started enjoying themselves some promiscuity.  As Dan Savage has observed, these days, young people of all sexual orientations are enjoying the stereotypical "gay lifestyle."  When they age out of all that chaos, the straight ones settle down and marry.  Until very recently, when gay people have had the same urge, they have been denied that option.

    It's tricky to call the urge to marry "heteronormative," I think, because of the urge of many gay people to pair off and settle down.  If the option for marriage had existed in the bad old days, we surely would have seen same-sex marriages back then.

    I should emphasize that this urge is not universal, and it may not even express the desires of a majority of LGBT people.  But those who desire to marry ought to have the right to do so.

    -5.13,-5.64; If you gave [Jerry Falwell] an enema, you could bury him in a matchbox. -- Christopher Hitchens

    by gizmo59 on Tue Apr 16, 2013 at 12:52:05 PM PDT

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