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  •  John Aravosis did some digging (16+ / 0-)

    Issues facing adult adoptees:

    In most families, even when a child does not look like his or her parents, there is usually someone else to point to-Aunt Sarah, Grandpa Harry-to make the comparison. Adopted children may feel particularly or overly sensitive about the fact that they do not resemble other family members and believe “that their parents have settled for second best,” says Dr. Schechter. “No amount of reassuring can diminish what adopted persons perceive as a stunning difference (between themselves and other family members). They may develop fantasies, both positive and negative, about their birth family, and it often hampers their ability to move on with their lives.”
    These comments are mean spirited, cruel and hit adoptive families in a very sensitive spot.

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    by Scott Wooledge on Thu Mar 14, 2013 at 11:59:40 AM PDT

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      It's really hard to even feel schadenfreude over the whole thing because the comment really was just so damn mean. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

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      by Scottie Thomaston on Thu Mar 14, 2013 at 12:09:24 PM PDT

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    •  Just makes me cry... (6+ / 0-)

      ...the more I think about this. As Heather noted above a real kick in the gut.

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      by cooper888 on Thu Mar 14, 2013 at 12:18:14 PM PDT

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    •  I'm sorry but I actually laughed out loud (3+ / 0-)
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      when I read that comment.  We are a mixed race family through adoption.  My husband and I are Anglo and our sons are African-American.  They are both pretty happy they aren't  short, nearsighted with male pattern balding and a propensity for sunburns instead of the tall, athletic, cool guys they are.

      We've been a family since a day after each of their respective births and the thought that a family has to look alike seems as ridiculous as thinking my husband and I couldn't love each other unless I looked like him in drag.

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      by mkoz on Thu Mar 14, 2013 at 04:41:09 PM PDT

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      •  Our family, too. Our older daughter is bi-racial, (1+ / 0-)
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        5'9" & built like Michelle Obama. Our younger daughter is 5'1"& we were able to pick her out of the crowd on the football field at Enormous U graduation because of her blindingly white legs below the gown. We are family.

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        by Expat Okie on Thu Mar 14, 2013 at 05:28:28 PM PDT

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