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  •  I don't think she trivialized it, but i found it (5+ / 0-)

    odd and almost a non-sequitur. Rape is a really big deal and I'm not sure why she brought it up in the context of a political campaign that hasn't even happened yet.

    I see what you did there.

    by GoGoGoEverton on Sun Mar 17, 2013 at 06:34:54 AM PDT

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    •  I agree 'trivialize" was a bad word choice. (1+ / 0-)
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      Seeing her quote in context might help but that comparison just seems wrong.  

      The more you learn the less you know.

      by quiet in NC on Sun Mar 17, 2013 at 06:57:49 AM PDT

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      •  I admire Ashely Judd for bringing it up first. (4+ / 0-)

        By bringing  up the subject of her rapes first, she is depriving  the GOP from pulling it out of her book and trying to twist it into making her appear as a 'victim'.

        She is also telling women/girls/boys worldwide that we can gain strength by reporting, discussing, and getting help for rape. There is no right/wrong way, place, or time for someone who has been raped - to talk about it. It will always be an uncomfortable 'squeamish' subject. And like cancer, it needs to be discussed in order to bring more awareness.

        I was raped three times and molested countless times. First as a toddler, then as a pre-teen, then as a young woman. I told someone at 9 and was basically 'shushed'. At 24, I reported my rape to a hotel security guard (I was a flight attendant) and he told me reporting it to the police would get me nowhere because I was a 'stewardess' and I had been drinking. It's no wonder so many of us have been triggered by the Steubenville rape.

        And I saw what happened to girls who reported rape and went to court.

        I felt shame - maybe I could have done this, or that...maybe I deserved it. I didn't see women in the media talking about it like Ashley Judd.  I waited until it the addictions I used to cover up the pain, guilt, and shame almost killed me. Then something triggered all the memories, I became suicidal, and ended up in the hospital. That's when I finally got help. Later, I actually went to the same treatment center as Ashely, Shades Of Hope, (not at the same time) and worked through much there, then I was fortunate enough to receive therapy over a period of several years for little cost via a Rape Crisis Center. I was able to get help. So many rape victims do not get help, don't know how - or are afraid to ask. So they live with the emotional (and sometimes physical)  scarring.

        Making it inappropriate to talk about rape, or judging anyone who's been raped for discussing it at any time, only perpetuates the stigma. (Please note, I don't think that's what anyone here is trying to do)

        Ashley Judd is well aware of the seriousness. She's incredibly intelligent. I think she's going to do very well in politics. She'll make mistakes and as she learns from them, so will we. Hopefully she'll encourage more women to jump into the political arena. God knows we could use more.

        "When faced with darkness, be the light.

        by Leslie Salzillo on Sun Mar 17, 2013 at 01:12:46 PM PDT

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        •  Thank you for this comment - you are spot on (1+ / 0-)
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          She got out in front of it and if they insist will use it as a point of strength in her personal story.

          Game on, boys!

          "They did not succeed in taking away our voice" - Angelique Kidjo - Opening the Lightning In a Bottle concert at Radio City Music Hall in New York City - 2003

          by LilithGardener on Sun Mar 17, 2013 at 01:59:16 PM PDT

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