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  •  I cannot even grasp this. (11+ / 0-)

    It does have its perks, one big one. You are a part of your child's life and witness all the good and bad that comes with that. You can get involved at school which IMO makes a huge difference, not only for your child, but for the school.

    No deadlines? How about getting to school on time every day, sometimes multiple schools, doctors appts, dentist appts, orthodontist appts, track, yearbook club, drama club, karate pick up.  Birthday parties, playdates, band concerts, jazz band practice, battle of the books practice.  I have been home with the kids and have never done any of this in my pajamas, I get dressed when they do. I spent countless hours at their school helping teachers, implementing a green club, organizing healthy eating fairs, creating their yearbooks, organizing parties. No skills? I have learned to make pretty much everything from scratch, establish a budget  so that months of unemployment didn't cause us to lose the house, dug and maintain a bunch of garden beds including vegetable, and negotiated a million conflicts.

    I went from earning the same as my husband to nothing when I chose to stay home. I love it, and find it very rewarding, but now that the kids are in middle school and I have taken a peek as to what is available for me I can see that I am fucked.  If we did get a divorce, I have no pension because my former employer of 20 years was sold so I got a small payout years ago, and my 401k tanked when everyone else's did. Obviously I have not been contributing to either, so my penalty for raising my own kids is security only if I remain married. I know too many women in bad and even abusive marriages because if this.

    Four be the things I’d have been better without: Love, curiosity, freckles and doubt, Dorothy Parker

    by kirbybruno on Tue Mar 19, 2013 at 04:20:07 AM PDT

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