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  •  I don't do it everyday (0+ / 0-)

    because it doesn't happen like that, but if someone says to me that they don't think gay people should be married and blah blah blah we will have a conversation.

    Most important is the fact that we will have a conversation and I won't be calling them a bigot I will point out as plainly as I can the irony of the situation were it to be something like what this person faced.

    That's not being an internet tough guy.  Being an internet tough guy would be me calling them a bigot behind their back and being a snarky asshole amongst "friends" then not being able to have an intelligent conversation in their face.  

    It's called communication and being an adult.  

    Think about what you just said.  

    It would be better to write this type of diary and call this person names behind their back than to have a conversation with them at work.  Disagreement doesn't have to mean dislike.

    Who ya gonna shoot wit dat homie, you'd rather blast an original instead of a phony, true macaroni, you don't even know me, and why does your gun say n****z only?

    by mim5677 on Fri Mar 22, 2013 at 06:11:23 AM PDT

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      work with a lot of people for differing periods of time. With that in mind I'm not going to "have a conversation" with someone who I happen to be working with who indicates any sort of bigotry. That is something that I find wrong as wrong can wrong, but unless I feel there is a better than even chance that the conversation is going to be productive. My experience is that someone who is informed by their religious beliefs that I am a committing an offense against their god isn't going to be particularly swayed by whatever I say.
      Back in the days of President Bush I worked for a company owned and mostly populated by very religious, conservative, Republicans. Despite hearing something that shocked and offended me nearly every day I never had any conversations about how they shocked and offended me with any of them. From what you wrote above perhaps you would have said something when we herded out to stand in front of the 20 foot high American Flag to say a prayer of thanks for the reelection of GWB. I did not. It wasn't a great 18 months, but I was able to keep my daughter in Collage.
      My question is to what end do you talk to a coworker like the one featured in the diary? I see it as only a chance to create a rift in the work place that can easily end up creating opposing sides and disharmony well into the future.  As for writing about it here I don't see the harm and have frequently used Internet communication to vent my frustration that I don't want to air with the source of my frustration.

      This makes about as much sense as Mike Huckabee on mescaline. - Prodigal 2-6-2008

      by Tonedevil on Fri Mar 22, 2013 at 10:12:33 AM PDT

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      •  The reason I have the conversation (1+ / 0-)
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        is to create understanding.  I don't have to change their mind, we don't have to argue.  Talking about things we disagree about is not always a negative thing.

        It's better than taking it home.  I don't think being a bigot makes someone a bad person, it just means their ideas are bad about a certain subject.  

        Who ya gonna shoot wit dat homie, you'd rather blast an original instead of a phony, true macaroni, you don't even know me, and why does your gun say n****z only?

        by mim5677 on Fri Mar 22, 2013 at 05:49:03 PM PDT

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