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  •  It is difficult for me to offer compassion to your (6+ / 0-)

    mother.

    Doing all those drugs while pregnant with you, and treating you like that.

    Here you are getting your diagnosis and yet, where is her diagnosis?

    What was it that she did all those drugs for, to numb herself to?

    Your roles are reversed. Even your family expects you to mother her, otherwise, why ask you to "understand" her, while you are receiving these devastating diagnosis, while she makes it all about herself.

    Many people on the Kos, those that comment and many who do not, will be sending you compassionate and loving and healing thoughts.

    •  She has OCD (4+ / 0-)

      Probably she is also co-dependent, relying on my father and my younger sister.

      According to my grandmother, she has never been 'quite right', but has resisted all help. Yes, the drugs were to cope, at least initially. Then she met a much older man and started trafficking and got pregnant. Got married because it would look better for the judge when they got caught after the first baby was born and the 2nd was on it's way.

      My brother inherited the OCD but at least he got it honestly. She couldn't get drugs in prison.

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      by LoreleiHI on Fri Apr 05, 2013 at 11:44:36 AM PDT

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      •  I hope you are able to form a stable social (2+ / 0-)
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        support system. I have preferred to go through certain life events sans some family  members because of similar behavior.

        Sometimes, things really are, all about You. And you shouldn't have to deal with that kind of drama when your situation is that serious.

        What this person is offering you is the opposite of support. It's sabotage. And given what you have lived through, and this diagnosis, while I understand making time for her, I am not sure I would ever want someone like that anywhere near me, if I had to deal with such serious situations.

        •  I don't see, or talk to her. (2+ / 0-)
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          If she alone showed up to a family function, I'd say hello for politeness, then avoid avoid avoid.

          She once told me that if it had been my sister, she would have killed him. Trust me, I know I'm nothing to her, and I give her none of my energy. This post was for me, to get her out of my headspace, you know? :)

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          by LoreleiHI on Fri Apr 05, 2013 at 04:03:57 PM PDT

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          •  Yes I do know. It is perfectly understandable and (1+ / 0-)
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            out there somewhere, there are others, some of whom have commented who will read this and feel validated, not realizing that they are not alone in their personal experiences.

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