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  •  You know I always thought getting the news (7+ / 0-)

    over the phone was cold. Then a friend of mine got a call from her OB/GYN after a difficult childbirth where she had a collapased fallopian tube.

    The doctor wanted to see her and her husband in the office the next day. My friend freaked and demanded the doctor get on the phone then. So did my friends husband and they found out she had fallopian tube cancer. Stage very bad, 50% chance of surviving.

    I don't think there is any good way or place to get that news.

    Tracy B Ann - technically that is my signature.

    by ZenTrainer on Mon Apr 08, 2013 at 08:37:18 PM PDT

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    •  Ouch. That sounds horrible. I'm so sorry. (7+ / 0-)

      Dare I ask how she is doing? Damn these gyno cancers.

      Bad news is hard to get no matter what, you are right. In my case, I was convinced (because I'd heard something in surgery) that things were worse than expected. The onco did tell my husband right away, but not me--and then she asked him not to say anything to me. And then, when I pushed the residents the next day for info, they stalled and wouldn't say anything either. I still shudder when I recall all that mess.

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      by peregrine kate on Mon Apr 08, 2013 at 08:45:38 PM PDT

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      •  Well the cancer was everywhere, so she had a lot (6+ / 0-)

        of surgery and then chemo. I think her numbers are better now (blood markers) but she still has a 50% chance and now a 16 month baby at home.

        She tested positive for the BRCA gene so is having a double masectomy this summer. That's not what I would do but whatever reduces a persons worry is what I think they should do and this does that for her.

        On the show the Big C there was just a big scene where Laura Linney's character (the one with cancer) got pretty pissed at some med students. She slammed ones computer shut and advised him to look patients in the eye and tell them the truth.

        Tracy B Ann - technically that is my signature.

        by ZenTrainer on Mon Apr 08, 2013 at 09:54:22 PM PDT

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    •  news over the phone (good for once!) (2+ / 0-)
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      We 'did' get good news on our phone call, lo these 12 years and three weeks ago (but who'se counting).  My wife's surgeon called us at 5:30 on a Friday. He'd just gotten the pathology reports on what he'd taken outta the right breast, and the results of the sentinel node biopsy.  He called so late on Friday cause the results were SO good.  He got it ALL. Nothing on the sentinel node biopsy, either.  So after the mastectomy and 5 years of tamoxifen... she's still ok.  whoo hoo!!!!  

      We used lots of guided imagery, and prayer and the laying on of hands at our Lutheran church just before the operation, and shamanic healing stuff after, and lots of other 'non traditional' healing stuff... didn't care, as long as it had a chance of healing my wife physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  Michelle is a lot more non-traditional when it comes to healing and healing practices than I used to be. "i'm" a lot less traditonal on healing strategies than i used to be...  At this point, whatever works or worked is fine by us.

      •  What wonderful news! So glad for you both. (1+ / 0-)
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        Definitely worth getting a Friday evening phone call.

        I hear you about being willing to try anything, as long as it had a chance.... Healing happens on many levels and in many dimensions.

        Here's to many more multiples of 12 years with NED.

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        by peregrine kate on Tue Apr 09, 2013 at 06:12:46 PM PDT

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