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  •  So unlikely. (19+ / 0-)

    And what made it hurt? Really cut my soul?

    This woman has met me. She has seen me, talked to me face to face. She knows what I look like, she knows that I'm a DV survivor, she asked after Pùka.

    She knows that her supervisor swept aside all paperwork (it would have just been refiling what my spouse had done a month earlier with all numbers changed to zero), and called my old landlord to beg him to let them pay the back rent so I could stay in my apartment. (The answer was no.)

    That was the last time I asked for help from them. It was months ago. It's not like I'm constantly milking's that I'm at end of rope time here.

    I wasn't expecting something like this.

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    by LoreleiHI on Wed Apr 10, 2013 at 08:36:55 PM PDT

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    •  Maybe she was having the office day from hell ? (8+ / 0-)

      Maybe just before you see was dealing with some SOB who pushed all her buttons ?
      If she was ok before ...
      What do you think of giving her another chance ?

      If she does not improve , you could always have a phone battery go dead right in the middle of the call , iykwim .

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      by indycam on Wed Apr 10, 2013 at 08:57:22 PM PDT

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      •  Well, Iam calling my therapist tomorrow (17+ / 0-)

        And asking to move my appt to Monday, when they have walk-in hours.

        I'm a great lip reader, and it's so much harder to push someone around in person. And if I ask for a supervisor, the 'oops hold' is SO less likely to happen! After all, it's just two rooms. He'll hear me ask. /evil grin

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        by LoreleiHI on Wed Apr 10, 2013 at 09:09:12 PM PDT

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        •  Good plan! (4+ / 0-)
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          And document everything.  Let them see you doing it.  (If you can take someone with you as witness, great.)

          I'll suggest that you ask to see the supervisor, and that you ask him/her to give you copies of their policies, rules, and procedures.  Be insistent  that you believe you have a right to know what those rules are, so you can know what to expect and comply with their rules.  If they say they can't give you a copy, ask where you can find the rules, which (I would think) must be available to the public.

          What's my goal in saying this?  I've found that becoming known as a person who expects to have her rights, as a citizen and a disabled person, respected, can make the kind of abuse you suffered diminish.  (It will also likely some pushback -- but it's kind of like learning a kind of kung fu.  Empower yourself with information, and become willing to strike back -- or strike first, if yo see them positoning themselves for a blow.)

          If you can find their rules yourself before you go -- by calling the govt body the GA is under, rules online or in library, etc -- so much the better.  It helps to be able to say 'Your rules say that "you must" ....' or 'Your rules say that I have the right to ..."'

          Sorry to lecture.  I'm trying to say 'You GO, girl!' and show you where the nunchucks are.

          Best wishes!

        •  Can your phone record ambient sound? (1+ / 0-)
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          Ha - you could've made the previous session TWO hours long by LOUDLY playing back everything she said & letting the whole office hear her...

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          by chmood on Thu Apr 11, 2013 at 07:43:15 AM PDT

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