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  •  Though if well written with an eye toward (2+ / 0-)
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    accuracy 50 Shades and similar things actually help fight against rape culture.  Here is the actual reality behind it.  After comparing written checklists there is a long and detailed (anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour) discussion about what is allowed and what is not allowed to happen as well as any medical conditions that might cause problems before the fun starts.  Not to mention having a ring of old keys handy for the person to drop just in case they get so into it they lose the ability to speak (not uncommon, and usually a VERY good thing) yet need to be able to signal that they need to stop.  Oh, and no alcohol or recreational drugs at all that day as it is very important that everyone have a clear head (and not be dehydrated).

    You have watched Faux News, now lose 2d10 SAN.

    by Throw The Bums Out on Fri May 03, 2013 at 06:11:00 PM PDT

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    •  Sure; my point is more that such discussion is (1+ / 0-)
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      much more likely to actually happen & be adhered to among more mature people, rather than younger, less experienced people who might brush it off.  I think the popularity of the book (which I've not read) among young women does expose them to that important concept; my issue is more with what they value in relationship, because the tendency in women to value (being dominated by) an aggressive man is counter to what the world now needs generally, which is greater female empowerment & less male aggression.  My contention is that the extent to which sexual culture continues to reward & praise male aggression is the extent to which global progress is slowed across the board.  So, while not judging BDSM play, my hope is that aggressive male tendencies be overall denied genetic transmission as much as possible.  This runs counter to evolutionary history, which is why it will require a deliberate effort to shift successfully.

      (BTW: fellow-geek props to your sig, although it's probably more like 2d10+4).  

      It's time to start letting sleeping dinosaurs lie, lest we join them in extinction by our consumption of them.

      by Leftcandid on Sat May 04, 2013 at 08:53:57 AM PDT

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