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  •  NonnyO, many thanks! (0+ / 0-)

    I agree with you wholeheartedly: Virginity is vastly overrated. So is sex, for that matter. Frankly, I had the best sex of my life when I was a virgin.

    Being a Humanist means trying to behave decently without expectation of rewards or punishment after you are dead. ~K. Vonnegut

    by Greek Goddess on Thu May 16, 2013 at 02:56:22 PM PDT

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    •  Rec..! Sorry I missed your comment... (0+ / 0-)

      ... before when I could still Rec it by clicking the dot.  (Finally scrolling down through comments this morning.)

      I was too scared of sex when I was a virgin ("Good girls didn't do it!"  I was a good girl.), so I had zero curiosity about it.  It took lots of reading over years, etc., to get me past the prudishness I once had.  Lots of time wasted.

      IF - IF (a giant neon sign IF) - one has a good sex partner who knows where everything is on the female body and isn't afraid to find out what can give a woman a pleasurable reaction of some kind, and if he isn't afflicted with premature ejaculation or limp dick, and all those assorted things, then sex can be as much fun as what's in novels and as spectacular as the crashing music at the end of the 1812 Overture, complete with fireworks.  With some it's possible to have the fireworks and the sweet glowing embers of companionship sex that's just fun and comfortable and very satisfying, and all kinds of fun sex in between those different kinds of sex.

      Lots of IFs, but when accomplished, it's pretty sweet.  It really does take emotionally and mentally mature people who have good sex, whether that's a one-night stand or a relationship that lasts several years.

      The other kind of manipulative sex with a man who is essentially an emotional child who has mommy (&/or daddy) issues and uses sex as a psychological weapon to be given or withheld at his whim is just too petty to tolerate.  End the relationship and sublimate the sex drive into doing something useful.  [Gack!  Psychologically immature men who are, for the most part also sexually immature and have sexual and/or emotional hangups that end up being psychological dominance-submissive games, are useless and need to go find their own planet.]

      I'm sick of attempts to steer this nation from principles evolved in The Age of Reason to hallucinations derived from illiterate herdsmen. ~ Crashing Vor

      by NonnyO on Sat May 18, 2013 at 04:24:52 AM PDT

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