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  •  my point wasn't that it isn't important to me (1+ / 0-)
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    freakofsociety

    it's that it's not even close to my highest priority.  remember, you're the one who said 'priorities, priorities' to me as if my priorities are fucked up.

    you know, about a year ago I requested my birth and foster care records.  i'm nearing 40 and i was finally ready to reach out to my birth family.  my records came in the form of about 4 inches of photo copied pages of documentation of my 6 years in foster care.  everything was there.  and since i have no memory of my birth parents, even though they visited me weekly for 5 years until their rights were taken away completely, these documents of every visit are almost all i have of them.  

    i can read about the time my dad read me Pinocchio and then tried to teach me the difference between a story and what is real.  i can read about how he taught my older brother math.  i can read about the time i asked him what happened to the lady who usually came with him and he called her my mom and i told him that she wasn't my mom and he told me he was my dad and i told him that he wasn't, because i didn't know they were my birth parents.  i can read the comments made about all of these encounters and see the thought pattern behind how i was finally permanently taken away from them.

    on one hand, i can't express how much these records mean to me, because they are the only connection i have to parents that actually wanted me (even though their problems meant they could care for me).  

    but on the other hand, the records are so violating.  especially the way the people writing them wrote with such heartless mocking.  they were such fucking assholes.  just mean people.  cruel people.  and i have to read their cruel words to have any connection with my birth parents.

    so, believe me when i say that i appreciate the anger about being violated by being spied on by the government.  especially when it's "for our own good".  

    not being spied on is important to me, but it's not even close to being the most important thing.  and definitely not important enough to overshadow all of the good things that are important to me.  i care more about my best friend from high school being allowed to get married in our state.  i care more about my wife not being denied mental care for a pre-existing condition.  i care more about my brother in law and my younger adopted brother coming home from Iraq alive after multiple tours.  i can't prioritize being spied on over those things.  i just can't.

    •  oops... medical care not mental care :P (2+ / 0-)
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      •  Anton, with all due respect to the sensitivities.. (0+ / 0-)

        surrounding your search for your birth parents, I have to object to the comparison between the record keeping attendant to an adoption to the NSA's data collection.

        Those things are not the same. The NSA isn't doing this for the benefit of the citizens. Hell, they won't even explain their motivations beyond cheap fear-mongering about terrorism(which makes me wonder why they're eavesdropping on Brazil, is there an Al Qaeda cell in Sao Paolo)?

        No disrespect, but I'm not buying it.

        •  well, i don't see the benefit (0+ / 0-)

          of writing that a dad's heart was broken to find out his son doesn't know he's his dad (and laughing about it as you write about it like it's funny).  it just seems like they used their power to look out for me to violate moments of intimacy.

          and i mentioned it to express to you that while there are higher priorities for me, i completely agree with how you feel about spying.

          take yes for an answer, man ;)

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