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  •  You are so, so right. (2+ / 0-)
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    jessical, rserven

    I should be more sensitive about my use of language. Words do indeed matter. They matter a great deal. Like the joy of pronouns that trans-people have to deal with from people who knew them before they transitioned and from the insensitive types who refuse to accept trans-people as they wish to be identified.

    Friends of mine just had their little boy's ears pinned back. He starts first grade next year and his ears stuck out from his head like handles on a trophy cup. A little pain and what I would call mutilation and he can go to school and not be teased about his ears. His parents know they did the right thing because they lived through the cruelty of their own classmates. A bit of mutilation is a small price to pay for normality.

    I couldn't have done that for my own children. And that also gives me pause to consider my odd extremism. It doesn't seem to help anyone and it sure hasn't changed the world.

    I liked this bit particularly:

    I might argue that hacking the phenotypic expression of my genome -- hormones and surgery both -- is it's own deconstruction of the binary.
    It made me imagine that you were bridging the binary. Or maybe just jumping clean over the gap between the sides as if to say that the gap itself was nothing.

    I do hope medical science continues to make advances in reassignment surgery. I think it's still much too primitive. I was thinking that with current advances in creating tissue and stem cell manipulation that I may just see surgery so complete that further hormone therapy would be redundant. They're already working on growing new internal organs from stem cells-- why not ovaries and testes?

    Thanks for taking the time to engage with me on this personal and complicated subject. I know we've bumped elbows in other threads around here. Henceforth I'll be more careful about my flippant misuse of words like "mutilation" -- at least, without my overbearing tonnage of nuanced explanation I'm just blundering about stomping on toes.

    I always was a clumsy dancer.

    •  Something I've said before... (2+ / 0-)
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      Marko the Werelynx, rserven

      ...(sorry Robyn)...I think that trans folks hear over and over "you aren't real" and largely as a result of that, there are some very defensive frames on being trans out there.  In my case, I'm pretty f*ing genderqueer, overall...it's just, I'm genderqueer with all the medical stuff.  We're all different, to spite our commonalities.  I think that trans women who go through "transition" as such often end up with some heavy perspectives on the binary generally.  Some embrace it and some totally flip it off.  For myself -- like most women I think, trans and not --I have an ambiguous relationship with the ways our culture handles gender.  It's not static and it's seldom straightforward.  I work hard to keep it from being too baggage laden, and only partially succeed.  And, again, am not unique

      But, y'know, to spite my many shortcomings in life, I have the luxury to contemplate such things from behind my macbook, while getting ready for a Sunday morning business meeting.  Young transwomen of color generally don't, and the intersection of race, class and gender seems quite deadly.  It all counts, all this stuff, but...I think we need jobs, and we need access to education, and we need to do a lot better at reaching from queer communities across barriers of race and class.  In the end, I actually don't care that much how badly I kinda squick someone, if we've got their vote and support for ENDA and job training and housing discrimination issues.

      You dance fine, hon.

      ...j'ai découvert que tout le malheur des hommes vient d'une seule chose, qui est de ne savoir pas demeurer en repos dans une chambre.

      by jessical on Sun Jul 28, 2013 at 06:06:00 AM PDT

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