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  •  The Ray vs ? fights are very similar to a recent (7+ / 0-)
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    Timaeus, polecat, Sylv, Kysen, erratic, Lawrence, CenPhx

    drama in my 12 Step community.  Someone in a meeting said something that hurt someone's feelings!!!!  It became a meta controversy when someone else decided that was the Worst Thing That Ever Happened and the community must act!!!!!

    It ended with a question from me about if we were going hold tribunals re: inappropriate behavior in meetings, who would determine what was appropriate, what would the punishment be? Or do we let the 2 people involved act like adults with a problem to solve.  

    Lotsa people, billions probably, don't share my belief system, my values, or my way of seeing things.  I don't expect to win every one of them to my side.  It's how the real world is.  

    I'm not looking for a love that will lift me up and carry me away. A love that will stroll alongside and make a few amusing comments will suffice.

    by I love OCD on Fri Sep 06, 2013 at 12:35:00 PM PDT

    •  And of course it's a fundamental principle (1+ / 0-)
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      that 12-step communities cannot hold such tribunals and exercise such judgments.  That's pretty clear in the Traditions, IIRC.  Not as if I know anything about this.

      •  It was a Group Conscience meeting (1+ / 0-)
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        Timaeus

        and I followed up the Tribunal question with some Traditions.  Not that I know much about those things either.  

        I have a dear friend who wrote my number of days sober in Roman numerals on my last birthday.  It was such a precious gift.  Lotsa digits, great reminder of one day at a time.

        I'm not looking for a love that will lift me up and carry me away. A love that will stroll alongside and make a few amusing comments will suffice.

        by I love OCD on Fri Sep 06, 2013 at 05:45:37 PM PDT

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