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    (1) SIL should consult a lawyer. It is a MISTAKE to seek legal advice from strangers on the internet--even me, and I'm a lawyer. Employment laws vary wildly from state to state, and sometimes the state's court decisions mean the law in practice is not what it seems to be just from reading the law. SIL should Google "employment lawyer [SIL's zip code]," or get a referral from a reputable source, and talk with a good employment lawyer familiar with his state's laws.

    (2) COMMUNICATE with SIL & daughter. Lay out your concerns and hopes and priorities, and listen to theirs. Formulate a plan together, including a plan B and a plan C, so you will all know what to expect if plan A doesn't work out.

    (3) My Aunt Rose (my dad's twin) is now 93. When she and my dad were 12, their dad (my grandfather) died suddenly and unexpectedly. This was 1932, early in the Great Depression, and there were 2 other teenage siblings and one young adult sibling, plus my grandmother. For the rest of the Depression the family moved repeatedly, because they couldn't pay the rent. Sometimes they would move in with friends or family. When they had a place, friends or family would move in with them. My Aunt Rose shared a bed with another young lady for 2 years--there was no romantic relationship, they just had nowhere else to sleep. But my Aunt Rose always remembers these days fondly. She enjoyed the companionship. She obviously treasures the memory of her circle of family and friends standing together against adversity. Think about whether it would make sense for you and your daughter's family to share housing. Make some memories you'll be proud of and happy about when you're 93.

    Wishing you and your family all the best.

    "The true strength of our nation comes not from the might of our arms or the scale of our wealth, but from the enduring power of our ideals." - Barack Obama

    by HeyMikey on Mon Sep 09, 2013 at 10:34:07 AM PDT

    •  Similar story in my family ... (2+ / 0-)
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      War on Error, HeyMikey

      widowed at 41 with 6 children, my grandmother somehow managed to buy a big old duplex for back taxes in 1941. The family owned that home until the late-70s, with an ever changing constellation of family members living there.

      Of course, the American Dream was to move out and into individual homes which they all did. But everyone who lived there still recalls that time with great fondness.

      "Let us not look back to the past with anger, nor towards the future with fear, but look around with awareness." James Thurber

      by annan on Mon Sep 09, 2013 at 06:35:07 PM PDT

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