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  •  This is what I tell my adopted daughter all the (16+ / 0-)

    time: "You were chosen. We took one look at you and fell in love. You are special." We praise her constantly, try to have fun every day, always allow her to express her feelings,  and tell the 'adoption story' that she loves to hear, probably once or twice a week.  She is thriving, happy, confident, and secure, so I hope to God she remains this way. I know she thinks about her adoption, and we have prepped for cruel comments like, "Why did your parents not want you?" "Why didn't your real mom love you?" She's in Kindergarten, so those issues will come, and I pray that they won't knock her down for too long.

    Diarist, thank you for your story--I will look forward to reading more of what you have to share.  I'm so sorry your experience, and other people's experiences in this thread, were hurtful. Maybe sharing it will give you more support with which to put the old hurts to rest. I wish you could have felt the kind of love I feel for my daughter--I truly couldn't love a biological child any more than I love her. My fervent wish is that my and my husband's love will fill up that hole that adoptee's feel.

    "You are not even aware of what is possible. The extent of their capabilities is horrifying."Edward Snowden -6.62, -6.92

    by CanyonWren on Mon Sep 30, 2013 at 06:40:00 AM PDT

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