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  •  And it is not just the hunger inside that eats (16+ / 0-)

    at you.   The loss of independence to have to go and sit and not being able to pick your apples or food, even grateful as one may be.  It is the look of handing out sacks of groceries some folks are given.  Maybe they bought a pair of shoes that look too new that was put off for months and months or maybe years.  Maybe they have a car that is not all dinged up and they question, " What will they think".. They sit at home wondering whether to go to the pantry and hear a lecture on either the Bible or given a gut wrenching shameful look.   Maybe they are given bread that is too hard to eat by the luck of the draw or cans and cans of food they detest but it beats hunger.   They left pride by the wayside long ago and some never do leave it and they go to bed hungry.  Money and bills and food is the first thing on their mind and the last when they go to bed.  Some people just start losing interest in everything.
    That on top of being hungry and feeling helpless is all part of this mess we are in.  The psych effect is almost as bad as the hunger.

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    by Vetwife on Thu Nov 14, 2013 at 02:01:25 PM PST

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    •  Maybe it is different elsewhere, but where I live (7+ / 0-)

      the community volunteers that staff our various pantries and kitchens hand out welcoming smiles, rather than disapproving looks.  I've know many of them, after starting to volunteer, say or write that their volunteer work has given them a new understanding of and respect for what poor folks must endure in our society.  If there are still food distribution sites that require one to listen to a sermon before providing food, I'm not aware of it -- and there are enough sites available that it's hard to imagine anyone here being 'required' to sit through a sermon, because of the other sites available.

      As far as pride and humiliation:  When I first fell into severe poverty in 2001, I did experience some moments of sever humiliation, but almost all of it was self-imposed, not triggered by the actions of others.  My father taught me that there's a difference between 'pride' and 'false pride', and that it's important to know the difference.  It was apparent to me that the humiliation I was feeling was a combination of pride and loss of my old self-sufficient money-bearing status.  I remember one incident in particular, the first time I went to our Community Kitchen for a free dinner.  As I was standing in line in the back of the room, some workers came and filled the shelves beside the line with trays of just-outdated grocery store bread.  The line heaved to the side as people reached; I stood still, immobilized with shames and loss.  I breathed with that for a moment and remembered what my dad had said, and recognized what I was feeling as false pride.  I reached for the bread.  It was good bread, I remember, multi-grain, and it made a difference for a full week.

       

    •  Either you're not really poor because you have (10+ / 0-)

      nice things, or you're obviously doing without because you don't take care of the things you have.

      I have heard the exact same person one day criticize the "nice cars" at a pantry and several weeks later criticize "the way those people neglect their cars, look how dented up and dirty they all are".

      A lot of people  dedicate a lot of time to trying to think up reasons that the poor deserve to be poor.  Because if poverty is something can happen to people who don't "deserve" it, if it's not a punishment for sin, then it could happen to them too.

      And that's just too damned scary.  

      "I read New republic and Nation/I've learned to take every view.." P. Ochs

      by JesseCW on Thu Nov 14, 2013 at 06:24:08 PM PST

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