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  •  I was a predatory 13-year-old (8+ / 0-)

    I did not read the news article, so I am not saying this girl was one, but on the basis of my experience, I think you can be one. I did not develop up top at that age, but I did have very womanly hips and looked older than my age. And I was very aware that men noticed me, and I deliberately did and said things to entice them. I do not think that is all that unusual at that age.

    Which is precisely why adults have to remember the boundaries and discourage those situations, rather than take advantage of them. When you go to a store and see an attractive product on display, you generally resist taking it because of the consequences. When an adult male sees a flirty attractive adult female, he typically knows better than to just force himself on her. He is capable of exercising self-control. That means when he decides to take things further with a flirty, attractive, underaged girl, he is not doing it because he has to but because he knows he can take advantage of her immaturity and vulnerability to push things further.

    The idea that these adult men are incapable of resisting a precocious femle child is absurd, and their claims should not be treated by these judges as legitimate reasons for statutory rape. Every time I hear a male judge, male a ruling like this, I reach the conclusion that he is turned on by the girl and transferring his own mental rationalization of that fact to the perpetrator. It needs to stop.

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    by CatM on Sun Nov 24, 2013 at 07:33:11 AM PST

    •  Sorry for typos. should be "make a ruling like" nt (0+ / 0-)

      **Electing Republicans to the government is like hiring pyromaniacs as firemen. They all just want to see everything burn to the ground.**

      by CatM on Sun Nov 24, 2013 at 07:34:41 AM PST

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    •  I think there's a difference- a big one- (13+ / 0-)

      between being flirtatious and being predatory.

      A lot of adolescent girls are surprised to find that they suddenly have this new power over males, and they might enjoy or even sometimes flaunt their new desirability.

      That does not make them predators, it makes them children trying on a new role, and it's up to the adults in that situation to behave like adults.

      •  my sister had a friend (0+ / 0-)

        This friend was at the age of 14 was built like a 20 year old. She met a guy, whom was going to UNL, online and had him pick her up. She said nothing about her age. He was sent to prison. Probably still on a sex offender registry. Offender registries just need to go away. they don't make people safer. All they do is whip up rape hysteria and encourage violence and ostracism against people who have already done their time.

        The fact is that this girl likely knew what she was doing. I stole something when i was 13 and i got caught. I knew 100% what i was doing and the consequences. We always say to trust girls but some of these cases, and the law, clearly don't. When this happens to a boy everyone's high-fiving him for his accomplishment. We assume that the boy had the agency to make his own choice but when it comes to the girls we assume that she was a passive object that was acted on by the evil man.

        •  Uh, a girl can look mature, but there's no faking (1+ / 0-)
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          actual emotional maturity. I've never met a 14 year old who came across as an adult.

          •  sometimes when a man wants sex (1+ / 0-)
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            he is not bothering to assess emotional maturity

            he is using his eyes, not his brain, to decide whether a girl is old enough

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            by TrueBlueMajority on Sun Nov 24, 2013 at 01:56:22 PM PST

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