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Except for my gender, I am the "ideal" Republican voter: White, 40+ college-educated ex-debutante, member of the 2%. I registered as a Republican at 18, and served two terms on the board of Denver Metro Young Republicans. I live in the heavily Republican, Christian, high-income Douglas County area of Colorado. So why did I not only vote for President Obama, but work as a campaign volunteer? Because, GOP, you failed me. On too many levels.

A little more history: during my second term on DMYR's board, I also served on the NARAL PAC. No one in Young Republicans said boo, or chastised me. In 2000, it was perfectly acceptable to be both a staunch Republican and equally staunchly pro-choice. Not any more.

Barry Goldwater warned the GOP about the dangers of the religious right. He supported abortion. And yet today's conservatives, trapped in the death grip of evangelical leaders and constituents, insist that all Republicans must be anti-choice. This pledge is truly frightening, as is this one.

The pledges are sickening in their blending of religion and government. I firmly believe in the separation of Church and State. The Republican Party is trying to push far-right Christian religious views upon an extremely diverse country. What of, for example, the Jews, Muslims, Episcopalians, Presbyterians, Methodists, Cafeteria Catholics, Buddhists, Hindus, Sikhs, Pagans, and Atheists, who all live here and also have the right to vote? The GOP dismisses them as not worthy of consideration. The Christian Way is the only way. And that is a HUGE fallacy: one that led, in part, to the downfall of not only Mitt Romney, but of many downballot candidates. I took particular joy in the ousting of Todd Akin, Richard Mourdock, Joe Walsh, and Roger "some girls rape so easy" Rivard.

I'm sick of the bleating about "small government" coming from the mouths of those who think the government should regulate women's reproductive choices, by taking them away entirely or making those choices very, very difficult. I am outraged that anyone would think, much less try to LEGISLATE, that an employer has the right to deny contraceptive coverage to an employee by dint of the employer's "moral conscience." What the HELL. One goes to work, does one's job, and goes home. What goes on at home is not the employer's business.

I'm tired of the Catholic bishops ranting about the evils of contraception and trying to influence legislation. They're not the ones supporting the children until age 18, through college, or beyond. They're not up at 4 am with a screaming, colicky baby. Choosing when and how many children to have is sound economic policy. My two children each have their own room and don't lack for love, clothing, or toys. We eat a lot of fresh fruit and vegetables, and lean protein. If I had been forced to have six children, things would be different. Why don't the Catholic Church and other anti-contraception wackos understand that? God does not provide. My husband does.

Additionally, Mitt was a deeply flawed candidate. Since his flaws are well-known, I won't reiterate them. I would, however, like to point out that his support ROSE when he pretended to be a moderate, as opposed to "deeply conservative." Did you not notice that, GOP? Or did you just ignore it, since it didn't fit with your notion that only a "true conservative" could win against Obama? I saw the screams from the far right, claiming everything from "He wasn't conservative ENOUGH" and "It's all Christie's fault!" and shook my head in amazement. You, GOP, are truly stupid. He lost because America--the REAL America, not your crazed constituents--rejected your party's values and voted for their OWN.

As did I. I voted for a good man, a kind, caring man. I voted for a man who has never sought to impose his religion on others, but quietly practices it. I voted for a man who respects women, as evidenced not only by the gracious, intelligent, and warm woman who loves him, but by his commitment to our reproductive freedom and our right to equal pay. I voted for a man who believes that everyone should have the freedom to marry whom they love. In short, I voted for the candidate whose values are most in line with mine. And that is why you failed me.

Oh, and one more thing: I'm STILL a fiscal conservative. I was disgusted by the money that Congress wasted on foolishness, such as 37 attempts to repeal ACA. Revolted by the ridiculous amount of vacation days taken by the 112th Congress. And appalled by the constant obstructionism, especially with regards to the Jobs Bill and the Veteran's Jobs Bill, which was especially craven.

I don't think you'll ever get me back, GOP. Not as long as the inmates are ruling the asylum.

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  •  BadKitties, good to see you! (4+ / 0-)
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    My Spin, BadKitties, Xapulin, Larsstephens

    It seems you haven't been around much.  "Book of Fallopians" cracks me up to this day.

    Thanks for this great post.  

  •  This is important (4+ / 0-)
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    ardyess, majcmb1, Mannie, BadKitties

    I wish there was a way for more on the right to see it.  I assume they either don't read Kos or dismiss anything that originates here. Perhaps the poster could put this up on some red sites? Or submit it to additional commentary sites?

    •  Yeah ..LOL (2+ / 0-)
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      BadKitties, tofumagoo

      I can't even get one post into freeper land, keeps going to

      awaiting moderation
      posting privledges banned

      Unless you want to spout off their self-masturbating crap you won't get anything resembling intelligence posted on a site like that!  And BadKitties sounds way too intelligent to be able to get anything posted over there!

      Never underestimate stupid. Stupid is how reTHUGlicans win!

      by Mannie on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 01:32:54 PM PST

      [ Parent ]

    •  Good idea.... (1+ / 0-)
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      Sadly, I only have three right-wing followers on Twitter. Can't imagine why :) But I will look into it. Any suggestions? I only read--sort of--World Net Daily. LOL.

  •  Welcome to the big tent of mainly stray cats nt (10+ / 0-)

    I love me peektures and that is that! Cheerleaders till 2016

    by matrix on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 01:05:58 PM PST

    •  Yep, one more stray cat here. (4+ / 0-)

      After 40+ years as a Rep (active, too - ran voter registration drives, was president of the county Rep Women's Club, etc.) I left for the same reasons as BadKitties. Changed my registration to Dem in 2007 so I could caucus for Obama in 2008 and haven't looked back. Even if the Rep party gets to the point where the inmates have ceded control of the asylum, I'm not going back.

      Obamacare covers Romnesia

      by Hanging Up My Tusks on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 01:24:23 PM PST

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      •  Like Charles Barkley said... (4+ / 0-)
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        Mannie, BadKitties, Youffraita, tofumagoo

        "I was a republican, until they lost their fucking minds."

        Well, I've never been a registered republican, but back in the day, I was a registered independent who voted for candidates on both sides of the aisle.  Not any more, there isn't the diversity of thinking in the GOP now that there once was.

        And until they change, I'll never cross that aisle again.  They've turned me into a yellow dog democrat.

  •  Should have banged Romney over the head with... (3+ / 0-)
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    the Veteran's Job Bill.

    How idiotic these people must be to vote against a bill that would create jobs for veterans.

  •  Glad to have you on the bright side of the force! (2+ / 0-)
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    I believe reasonable fiscal conservatives who reject the blending of church and state have a place at the table in our Progressive party.  We're happy to have you join us as we work to determine the best way for our government to help everyone find success.

  •  Thanks For Posting This. In Defeat, The GOTP (2+ / 0-)
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    seems hell-bent on prioritizing solutions to its "Latino problem."

    Strikingly, Latinos made up only about 10% of the 2012 electorate vs. the 53% of women voting in 2012.  Since the anti-GOTP gender gap was 18-points, you have to wonder about the rationality of the "leaders" of the GOTP who're claiming to be worried about their party's future.

    What's more important winning elections or attacking women's autonomy?

  •  Pro-Choice - No one is Pro-Abortion but I knew (1+ / 0-)
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    what you were saying and enjoyed the diary. T&R

  •  Amen! (1+ / 0-)
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    I was a Republican from 1984-2008. On a couple of issues I moved left. On everything else, the GOP left me. You are right, they are just stupid.

  •  Lady Parts Delivered a Low Blow (2+ / 0-)
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    Youffraita, BadKitties

    to Republicans in this election.  And they will in future elections, too.  As long as they try to get their legislative hands on them.

    Don't Republicans know that when mama (or ma'am) ain't happy, nobody's happy?  Well they should have learned it at their own mothers' knees.  But since they didn't, women voters will have to apply their knees to the part of them that gets their attention, using the ballot box to deliver the blow by proxy.

    Readers & Book Lovers Pull up a chair! You're never too old to be a Meta Groupie

    by Limelite on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 02:03:00 PM PST

  •  Great diary! (1+ / 0-)
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    It's all well written and well thought out, but I especially love your last two paragraphs!

  •  Great diary, thank you...more please! (1+ / 0-)
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  •  I always enjoy these kinds of diaries and hope (0+ / 0-)

    that we might hear from more former Republicans as to when and why they made the switch.

    It's great to have you on the team BadKitties and look forward to more of your posts.


    It takes time to practice generosity, but being generous is the best use of our time. - Thich Nhat Hanh.

    by Frank In WA on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 02:26:48 PM PST

  •  Please talk to your GOP friends! (1+ / 0-)
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    They might listen now that they got their clocks cleaned in the election. Tell them conservatives used to be pro-choice.

    The civil rights, gay rights and women's movements, designed to allow others to reach for power previously grasped only by white men, have made a real difference, and the outlines of 21st century America have emerged. -- Paul West of LA Times

    by LiberalLady on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 04:11:37 PM PST

    •  I convinced a few women to vote for PBO, (0+ / 0-)

      but some of the men are stubborn as hell. Most of my friends ARE pro-choice :) Or at least accept the fact that I am, and I will not ever change. Some insisted that Romney could not overturn Roe vs Wade, even after I patiently explained how SCOTUS works. Sigh.

  •  AS your closer-to-the-bottom-2% commie friend, (1+ / 0-)
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    We'd be awfully glad to keep you, oh sister of the Ovarian Gang!

  •  Two days ago (1+ / 0-)
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    on election night, before the votes were counted, I had a Republican walk up to me at a business dinner and ask: "Are you a Democrat?" My skin color probably gave me away 'cos I hadn't said a thing about politics to merit that question.

     I said yes, and she gave a disgusted look. She said "Obama has ruined the economy".

    I said "I beg to differ, but that said, the economy is the not the only concern for a lot of Americans" and that's when she walked away.

    I am amazed at how any woman could vote Republican. I guess those who used their freedom of choice don't care if it is denied to others.

    If God didn't want me to believe Creationists are stupid, why did s/he create Sarah Palin?

    by whataretheysmoking on Thu Nov 08, 2012 at 07:57:32 PM PST

    •  Agreed. It's mind-boggling. (0+ / 0-)

      Read This

      And there were several other articles/comments about how "We women are too smart to fall for this (social issue focus)" I was disgusted. Reproductive rights ARE an economic issue. Duh. I do not understand how these women became so brainwashed. Or why they willingly wish to have their choices decided by a bunch of men who will NEVER get pregnant.

      Because the social conservatism of the GOP is so harsh, perhaps they realized that they couldn't let the general electorate understand exactly where the GOP wanted to take them.

  •  Exactly! (1+ / 0-)
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    This is an awesome post. I too, possess what are considered the qualities of a perfect GOP voter.  I registered as a Republican at 18.  I live in a deeply religious and conservative corner of Harris County, Tx. Two of my three boys actually went to the same High School as did G.W. Bush. I have a college degree, 2 graduate degrees and I voted for Barack Obama.

    I agree with every point point you make.  As a Mom, I have worked hard to teach my boys to value respect, honesty, and integrity and have emphasized the importance of their growing up to become men of their word.  It galled me to watch almost 50% of my country support a man who lied without shame; who stood by while members of his party stoked prejudice and fear based on racial and gender prejudices; whose party openly engaged in voter suppression and whose members blithely undertook actions that disenfranchised fellow citizens; a man who seemed confounded by complaints about the "whoppers" he told during his campaign.

    Although I am thrilled that Pres. Obama won the popular vote as well as the Electoral College, I am disappointed by those I know to be good people who nonetheless supported Romney right up until the end of his campaign.  These individuals turned a blind eye to Mitt Romney's deep and clearly visible character flaws, choosing to believe what they were told instead of questioning and researching the issues for themselves. Maybe they agreed with the Far Right's belief that their religious faith somehow "trumps" all others. Or maybe they believed that their individual financial situation would benefit under Mitt's trickle down economic policies and voted for that which they perceived would be best for themselves, despite knowing it might not be best for their country.  Whatever the reason for their support, I will never look at them the same way again. For me, honesty, integrity and truth really do matter.  And the end does not justify using any means to get there - especially not unabashed cheating, lying and/or inciting hate.  The joy I feel about Pres. Obama's win is tempered a little bit for me by the realization that people I care about and thought I knew, do not feel the same.  

    •  Excellent post!!! (0+ / 0-)

      You should write a diary about it :) I'd recommend it wholeheartedly :)

      I agree with every point that you made. I was shocked to the core to discover that a friend--a seemingly very nice woman--was a racist and supported Romney just for that reason, in spite of being ardently pro-choice. We had quite a few arguments, and then she just came out and told me, "I'm not voting for a black guy, okay?" Well, that ended THAT argument. Smh.

      I, too, was astonished that anybody could support Romney. But in the aftermath of the election, with Jennifer Rubin confessing that she shilled for Romney, and as the extent of the deception by Fox and other outlets becomes known, it's a little more understandable. They didn't KNOW the extent of Romney's lying or the electoral shenanigans. Nor did they seem to understand that Romney was going to cut THEIR "entitlements," although he was exceedingly careful never to say so. White people in red states receive the lion's share of welfare and food stamps. Not blacks, not Hispanics. White lower-income Republican voters.

      I am seriously disturbed by the religious right. Somebody on Twitter said that the Koch brothers are thinking of running Santorum in 2016. I asked if he was joking, and he said, "Nope." Marco Rubio is also supposedly starting his campaign. Women and those who love us will push back, HARD. Just like we did this time :)

  •  I left them, too (1+ / 0-)
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    Thanks for sharing your story. I was brought up GOP, with a father who thought Ike was too liberal. Local campaign chair for Goldwater in the first election I was old enough to vote. Voted straight GOP for years. Read Ayn Rand. But I got older and wiser, and the GOP got crazier and crazier.

    In the last 20 years as the GOP got steadily more evangelical and divorced from facts, I've gotten quite comfortable in voting Dem. See, I have a degree in Engineering and I'm comfortable with facts. Fond of them, actually. Today I see voting Dem not just as a smart choice but as a necessary survival strategy to protect my family from a political mafia gone bat shit crazy.

    The problems we have facing us require creative solutions that come from working together. We used to have at least a semblance of that in our government until the power crazed puppet masters took over. We need that cooperation back.

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