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I honestly can't tell which emotion, disgust or anger, was the stronger as I came across a post late last night.

It is a simple image post, offered without commentary.  It didn't really need any.

As I revisit it this morning, disgust is edging out anger.  I'm sick at my stomach in a way I haven't been in years.  A distinctive cramping, nauseating, tightening in my gut that I learned as a youth was the result of strong emotion not flu.  I went to bed last night with that feeling.  And today still can't shake it.

I like to think that, overall, we are a progressive nation.  We outgrew slavery, embraced suffrage, saw to the financial needs of our elders, defined civil liberties, declared war on poverty.  While we've made plenty of mistakes, on the whole, the momentum of our young nation has been onward and upward.

I was born in the early 1960s.  I missed the civil right movement by being too young to know what was going on.  By the time I was aware of such things, the bigots in our family's circle, as well as those on TV, were the exception.  They were (rightfully) scorned and looked down on.  As I came to understand the movement, I also came to understand that we were moving past our bigoted past, that racist attitudes weren't tolerated in modern society.

Oh, racism still existed.  But it was generally accepted as wrong, hateful, and ignorant.

But then the Republican party revived their gospel of fear.  Fear of terrorists was drummed up to promote the "Only Republicans Can Save Us" meme.  Fear of terrorists was drummed up to fear of radical Islam.  Fear of radical  Islam was fanned into fear of all Islam.  Which was morphed into fear of all Muslims.  Which was expanded to fear of the world outside our borders.  All in the name of promoting a political agenda and certain branch of a single political party.

This New Xenophobia from the right made it okay to hate openly again.  The New Racism wasn't only accepted, it was downright Patriotic.  Brown people from the middle east are all terrorists, bent on the destruction of America.  Brown people from the south are all socialist moochers, coming to take our jobs while simultaneously living large off our welfare system.

And, worst of all, there is a Black man in the White House!  The WHITE House!  (Of, course, the only possible way such thing could happen would have been voter fraud on a massive scale.  But that's another diary.)

Which leads us back to last night's stomach wrenching Facebook post by a young relative.

This is the second diary examining posts made and shared on Facebook by my family and friends (or friends of friends).  

I've found that responding on Facebook quickly turns nasty and leads to lingering hurt feelings.  But not responding is driving me nuts.  So I thought I'd turn to Daily Kos to vent and get your ideas on different ways to handle the right wing nuttery.

Thanks for providing a safe place to counter-rant.

The first diary, on marriage equality can be found here.

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  •  I too recently received an email from a friend (7+ / 0-)

    that was supposed to be funny.  It was not at all.  It was one of those group sharing ones that had been chained by this friend accidentally.  She has since apologized.  

    The email poked fun at Muslims.  I immediately informed the group that the content was garbage, and refuted the message, knowing personally, that it was false information and not funny.  Several people reached out to thank me.

    I too have seen a rash of racism and bigotry lately that was for the last 20 years unacceptable.  I am saddened about what that says about some Americans.

    Believe me when I tell you that the vast majority of Americans have evolved.  Unfortunately, there will also always be plenty of idiots.  But; I agree with you, the recent actions of many people in Republican leadership indicate that they seem to espouse hateful behavior as a way to reach out to their base.

  •  Disgusting stuff. (9+ / 0-)

    I don't have any sage advice. But this shit seems to demand a response of some kind.

    Maybe "Hey, your facebook account was just hacked by a racist"?

    "I was a big supporter of waterboarding" - Dick Cheney 2/14/10

    by Bob Love on Mon Apr 15, 2013 at 11:10:00 AM PDT

  •  Not a criticism, but... (1+ / 0-)
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    am I missing something here? Did you insert the image in your diary or link to it and I'm just not getting the picture/link from behind my school's firewall?

    I'm not trying to be troublesome, really, but I'd like to see what drew this response (not that I think your wrong or that I won't find it disgusting too, I just like to know what I'm criticizing.)

    Strategy without tactics is the slowest route to victory, tactics without strategy is the noise before defeat. Sun Tzu The Art of War

    by Stwriley on Mon Apr 15, 2013 at 11:39:29 AM PDT

  •  My mother-in-law used to forward (8+ / 0-)

    racist e-mails that implored recipients to "forward this to everyone you know!!!!!" She knew full well that my husband and I were staunch Progressives (like my dear departed father-in-law, with whom we enjoyed many rousing political discussions.

    During the same timeframe, my mother-in-law would call frequently, complaining that her computer (which we bought her - a gift that keeps on giving, sadly) was slowing down, acting weird, etc. and wanting us to fix it remotely. When my husband logged on through Teamviewer to clear it up, he found all sorts of foreign IP addresses and suspicious malware.

    I decided to tell her that these "forward to everyone you know" e-mails are often nothing more than transport mechanisms for all sorts of computer viruses and spyware, and that the best things to do would be delete them on sight. This may have been a bit of an exaggeration, but it worked! No more forwarded hate-e-mail, and no more complaints about her slow computer.

    Those who do not understand history are condemned to repeat it... in summer school.

    by cassandracarolina on Mon Apr 15, 2013 at 11:44:19 AM PDT

  •  I respond to right wing nonsense (4+ / 0-)

    When it is political and forwarded from someone else, the expectation is that everyone will nod politely and agree in order to avoid a confrontation.  When I see it, I reply without personal attack or a long explanation.  I have unfriended one relative because of her in-your-face stuff from NRA atroturf groups after Sandy Hook.  This woman's grandfather, cousin and uncle all committed suicide with a firearm so these things were triggering for me and I asked her to stop.  She didn't, so I clicked 'unfriend.'  

    I should add that she is the oldest of 4 siblings raised in foster care.  She was separated from the others and took the brunt of the abuse and neglect before Child Protective Services stepped in.  

    I have found that without confrontation, it continues and escalates.  Better to disrupt the toxic rhetoric sooner rather than later.

    Don't look back, something may be gaining on you. - L. "Satchel" Paige

    by arlene on Mon Apr 15, 2013 at 11:46:51 AM PDT

    •  If someone won't cease and desist, they clearly (2+ / 0-)
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      care more about their hateful views than they do about you.

      I'm frankly shocked that people who don't know me well enough to know my political leanings would include me on the distribution of right-wing hate mail. A long-time former client of mine went on a venomous anti-Obama rant a few weeks ago. I could not believe the disinformation about Obamacare that she had apparently been fed by "retired people who have had time to go through the entire law".

      If it weren't for the fact that this woman was retiring herself and no longer someone I'll be involved with, I would have made a bigger stink about it. I refuted some of her points, but knowing her as I do, she'll find more things about which she can drive herself into a rage.

      She has my pity. So does her daughter, who has to grow up in a hate-filled household.

      Those who do not understand history are condemned to repeat it... in summer school.

      by cassandracarolina on Mon Apr 15, 2013 at 12:14:34 PM PDT

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  •  my Confederate cousin used to send me crap like (2+ / 0-)
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    this until  I told him to knock it off or I would block him because he was insulting my children and grandchildren.  He persisted and I blocked him

  •  Does anyone have any information (1+ / 0-)
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    about where this picture came from?

    Hige sceal þe heardra, heorte þe cenre, mod sceal þe mare, þe ure mægen lytlað

    by milkbone on Mon Apr 15, 2013 at 01:00:03 PM PDT

  •  it was painted by Robert Colescott (1+ / 0-)
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    Out of  curiosity I "googled" a description and found a notation in a journal entry from the Fall 2009 issue of Americana

    Had "friends" who would email similar crap thinking I was o.k. w/ their "jokes". I told them to take me off their distribution list asap.

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