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My surgeon has released me.  He says that there is nothing more he can do for now. He will perform that last procedure, a neurotomy, again annually.  The only value of the neurotomy is that is makes the pain (somewhat) manageable.

My regular physician is managing my symptoms.  She prescribes my pain medications, signed the paperwork for my disabled parking placard, maintenance issues and so forth.  She wants to send me back for more physical therapy.  I agree and understand why she thinks it is vital, but heck, how do I tell her I cannot afford it?

They tell me I am as "good" as I'm going to get, in fact, I will slowly get worse.  I'm still only able to work part-time now.  At least (for now) I have my crappy Blue Cross insurance, although the premiums are killing me, but it covers so little, I'll be lucky to have the last surgical procedures paid off before I'm due for the next neurotomy.  The one pain medication that gave me the best results, Blue Cross won't cover because it's too expensive.  

I'm having my wheelchair ramp put in next month.  I still get around a bit with my cane, although I'm gradually needing the walker more, and I have some time yet before I'll need a wheelchair, but the four steps up to my door are simply more than I can handle now.  I'm quite lucky there, because someone is giving me the ramp, although I have to find someone to install it (another challenge in itself.)

I understand why the doctor is pushing me to go back to P.T.  She says I've atrophied and it is very important to build my core muscles now (safely) before I degenerate further.  Although my mobility is impaired, I still have some mobility and the P.T. could extend that period somewhat.  It's the rock and the hard place.

And I look around and realize how many are in this impossible position.  You want to work, but there are obstacles.  Some of those obstacles could be conquered if the deck wasn't stacked against you.  But hey, Blue Cross needs their large profits for their shareholders. And if anyone tries to unstack the deck, well, they must be lazy Socialists who refuse to pull up their bootstraps because it's easier to be a leech... or something like that, I tend to confuse the talking points at times.

Meanwhile, my birthday is 20 days away so Blue Cross sent me a lovely remembrance for the occasion.  Yep, they are increasing my premiums again due to my age.

And so it goes.

Originally posted to RoCali on Fri May 03, 2013 at 08:13 PM PDT.

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  •  You discussed your needs. What are your wants (6+ / 0-)

    to achieve them?

  •  I remember, after my last knee surgery, (13+ / 0-)

    I was in a hospital bed waiting for an appointment with a PT.  She only came once a week, and I missed the first one because of some complication with a vascular surgeon.  I needed assistance learning how to safely navigate stairs and bathtubs, an odd combination. Well that, and a popliteal artery bypass.

    I'm a stubborn fuck.  I got in the wheelchair they had for moving patients around the floor, and I raced that fucking thing up and down the hallways as fast as I could roll it.  I practically mowed down people coming in to visit relatives recovering from surgery.  I explored the hospital, discovered the training stairs in the basement left over from their last PT.  I learned how to navigate those in short order.  Finally, I fucking stood and walked, hanging on to a rail in the hallway of the post-op ward; I walked until I was in so much pain that I was crying, and willing to beg for help for someone to bring me back to my bed.  And then I walked some more.

    No one is going to tell me that I can't fucking walk.  My eventual appointment with the PT took all of 15 minutes, and most of that was her filling out her forms for the insurance.  I checked myself out of the hospital the next day.

    My wife says I'm stubborn.  I take it as a compliment.  I still have a big hole in the side of my leg, and a metal plate with 4 screws that sets off the alarm in airports.  I still do my own car maintenance, and when we bought our house, I moved us with a minivan.  It's not about the money.  It's about what you want out of life, and how hard you're willing to work for it.  This week, I took an 8k stroll though Toronto's harbor islands, and I have the blisters to prove it.

    190 milliseconds....

    by Kingsmeg on Fri May 03, 2013 at 09:34:58 PM PDT

    •  That's wonderful! (9+ / 0-)

      You keep on being a "stubborn f**k."  Although, I'd call it determination and persistence :)  

      You are my brother, my sister.

      by RoCali on Fri May 03, 2013 at 09:39:16 PM PDT

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    •  i'm in your boat - only with fingers. (14+ / 0-)

      my surgery on dec 21 went well - then it went to hell.

      the idiot physical therapist didn't schedule my first appt for 10 days - 5-6 days past when she should have started the therapy.

      THEN, she only "looked" at my fingers, exclaiming how GOOD they looked - made very poorly made "splints" and handed me two copies of a list of hand exercises.  she told me to "do" them  (without saying how often, showing how or anything) and said i should be at 90 degrees next appt!

      then when she went to schedule the next appt, she exclaimed "OH! i'm really BOOKED!"  and scheduled me for the next therapy 16 days later.

      on the way out of the office (after telling me to keep the splints on (kinda hard to flex fingers with hard splints) and ignoring me when i said one wasn't bending at all - didn't feel aligned - she walked me out into the hall where an exhuberant young nurse flew around the corner straight into the hand that had just had the heavy brace removed.  i saw stars.

      i had to make the damned therapist go back into the room to look at my hand  to see if it was alright.

      5 days later, the stitches came out and the different nurse set up xrays to make sure there was no serious damage since my fingers swelled from being jammed.

      on the 16th, i saw the idiot again - she looked at the lack of flexibility in my fingers and mumbled "oh - this isn't GOOD!" - no - it wasn't.  my hand and fingers had laid in serious scar tissue in both fingers.  scar tissue sets in by three weeks - it is now a month without any physical therapy.  

      what does the idiot do?  she schedules me for another appointment - three weeks out!  i thought the appt was the next week and showed up to find that i was still two weeks early.

      think mushroom cloud over kaiser.  my doctor DID see me within 48 hrs and i had a new therapist and we are battling to undo the damage the idiot caused - if we can't, i have to go back under the knife for tenolysis (cutting away scar tissue) - it's still on the table if we can't get the joints to move.

      so - my point here to rocali? (and yours, too, kingsmeg, i'm thinkin') no matter how uncomfortable, no matter how much you don't want to - do the physical therapy.  without it, there are much worse consequences.

      in my case, i was eager to make my fingers better.  i didn't know the schedule needed - i trusted the certified hand therapist - without realizing she screwed up... and i'm paying the price.

      don't let those muscles atrophy - don't let scar tissue form - work like hell to fight off age and injury and illness at every turn and twist of the way.  

      me?  i WILL get my hand back if they have to go in and do everything all over again!  

      one more thing - become your own patient advocate - read and learn everything from every medical abstract out there.  then challenge your doctors with new information every visit - or inbetween visits if you find something that has promise!

      as winston churchill said

      never, never, never give up!

      EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

      by edrie on Fri May 03, 2013 at 11:19:46 PM PDT

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      •  Oh, edrie (7+ / 0-)

        While I'm glad the surgery went well, I wish the aftermath had gone better.  Post operative adhesions can really complicate things, particularly in the hands.  It's incredible that you were put off like that, unconscionable really.  I am glad to read that you have a new therapist and most sincerely hope that you get the progression that you need absent more surgery.  Please, keep us posted.

        You are my brother, my sister.

        by RoCali on Sat May 04, 2013 at 07:13:07 AM PDT

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      •  Edrie I'm so sorry!! (3+ / 0-)
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        If I knew this was going on I could have at least advised you on frequency of the hand exercises! OT is qualified to do that as well for hands. There's no excuse for this kind of ineptitude. Personally I'd file a complaint against her with the State board for PT (some instructions on how to do this are here ).

        This is a HUGE violation, especially depending how much she charged for those quick and worthless visits. You suffered harm as a direct result of her lack of care. File a complaint.

        "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

        by FloridaSNMOM on Sat May 04, 2013 at 05:23:48 PM PDT

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        •  i have, with kaiser - with my doctor, her (3+ / 0-)
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          supervisor and the dept head.

          i've held off while we're correcting the problem - AND, my solid advice to anyone considering any kind of elective surgery -- do NOT do this over a major holiday!

          kaiser was short handed - one therapist had retired and there were not enough at the hospital where i had my surgery to fit in proper therapy.

          that said, kaiser has multiple outlets in my area - had my doctor known, this wouldn't have happened.  i fell through the cracks because of circumstances.

          right now, i'm woring on gaining the best outcome for my hand possible without having to go under the knife again.  eventually, i'll go back and "revisit" the circumstances that lead to this horrific screwup.

          the worst part is that i've been unable to resume making jewelry (my sole source of income other than social security (which is very little).  thank heavans for a friend that has given me a roof after i lost my rental in dec and a vet/farrier/barn that has been very tolerant while mom's estate is still unsettled.

          also, fortunately, i've a wonderful lawyer who is filing the case against my sister for submitting a fraudulent will and closing probate without ever telling me.  we are now on the road to correcting THAT issue... so, i've more on my plate than an incompetent therapist.  sigh...

          i never envisioned having to sue my only sister for stealing mom's entire estatae - forging mom's name on a bogus will - lying through her teeth about it.  that's all the legal i can handle right now.  that, and getting my hand back again and getting sani well (from laminitis) are pushing me to the limit of my creativity - so far, so good, though - each thing is moving forward - slower than i'd like - but still forward!

          thanks for your support - it really does help.  i don't know what i'd do to maintain sanity if it weren't for all of yall here on the GOS...

          this place is so much more than a political discussion board - for some of us, it is a lifeline to sanity and survival!

          EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

          by edrie on Sat May 04, 2013 at 06:39:58 PM PDT

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          •  ((edrie)) (3+ / 0-)
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            I understand about being overwhelmed and everything happening at once. I'm sorry about your sister as well, hopefully she'll learn something from this. It's horrible what she's put you and the family through.
            Hopefully things will turn around for you soon. I'm wishing you the best of all outcomes in every case.

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            by FloridaSNMOM on Sat May 04, 2013 at 07:03:00 PM PDT

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            •  sadly, i'm the only "family" of the immediate type (3+ / 0-)
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              she has/had.

              i'm done after this is done.  the real tell was when she laughed when i was back home for the memorial - telling me how she used to hold my nose shut when i was an infant.  she said she didn't know that you were also supposed to cover the mouth at the same time.

              that still gives me cold chills.

              EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

              by edrie on Sat May 04, 2013 at 07:50:42 PM PDT

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              •  I had to read that (3+ / 0-)
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                twice to really get it.  My mind rebelled at the very thought.  Cold chills, indeed.

                You are my brother, my sister.

                by RoCali on Sat May 04, 2013 at 08:43:30 PM PDT

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                •  that was said when i was home for mom's memorial. (4+ / 0-)

                  i finally get that i didn't do anything to make her hate me - other than being born.  sad, so very sad.  i always wanted a big sister - now, i've finally realized you can't have a relationship that never existed in the first place.

                  EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

                  by edrie on Sat May 04, 2013 at 09:07:03 PM PDT

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                  •  No, sadly, you cannot. (4+ / 0-)
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                    That must have been difficult, particularly in the timing.  You were grieving the loss of your mother and then to be confronted with the loss of your dream of a sister too. I am very glad that you are wise enough to accept it and realize it wasn't anything you did.  You are admirably strong.

                    You are my brother, my sister.

                    by RoCali on Sat May 04, 2013 at 10:03:44 PM PDT

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                  •  That is tough, my sister and I have spent the last (1+ / 0-)
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                    7 years repairing our sister relationship. We were very close growing up.  Then she moved several states away and my parents coddled her and on her visits twice a year, we were never supposed to challenge her, debate her, argue with her, confront her ..we were to always agree and pacifiy. My mother was desperate to keep my sister in their lives no matter the cost.  

                    We just discovered when having a lengnthy talk last summer that my mother, as kind and as sweet and generous as she was to everyone including us, did all in her power to keep her daughters from arguing or fighting ...that she went overboard and encouraged us NOT to have a relationship as adults. She told us not to call each other and keep our distance and we would have happier lives.  But that was because her relationship with her siblings was often strained and uncomfortable. She believed adult siblings should go their own way.

                    Well it has taken 7 yrs of being practically strangers and learning about each other and now we are very, very close once again after 20 yrs of being more distant per mom;s request.  

                    Our thing was both of us would have done anything for our parents and our parents were such good and kind and generous and compassionate and helpful to everyone people but they had trouble with their siblings so they assumed it would be best if their two kids stayed apart..but the side effect of that was that my sister was a stranger after our parents died.


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                    by wishingwell on Sun May 05, 2013 at 10:08:04 AM PDT

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          •  The legal can be draining, (3+ / 0-)
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            but I'm glad you have an attorney you are comfortable with.  So very much on your plate, dear.  It can be overwhelming.

            You are my brother, my sister.

            by RoCali on Sat May 04, 2013 at 07:33:10 PM PDT

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            •  i am so pleased with him. his wife was a freshman (3+ / 0-)
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              at my college when i was a senior (and my sister was teaching there) - he graduated from the all male college that was 30  miles from our all female college.  when i told him i strongly believed and lived by our "honor code" - he replied, "so do i..."

              that's when i knew i had the right person to deal with this.

              he told me not to let it roller coaster me - i'm taking his advice - it is in good hands.

              and, having irrefutable evidence helps, too.

              EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

              by edrie on Sat May 04, 2013 at 07:52:46 PM PDT

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  •  I understand this is sharing to further expose (5+ / 0-)

    the system. Hats off and a "rec" to you for that.

  •  Recommending a book for you... (8+ / 0-)

    "Pain Free" by Pete Egoscue.

    Simple, not stressful, muscle aligning exercises that can help with many kinds of pain reducing the need for surgical intervention.

    You can get it on Amazon for less than $10.

  •  My brother has government BC/BS, the best. (6+ / 0-)

    He went into the hospital and they surrounded him like ravening wolves and coyotes.
    He got no actual health care, mind you, just "drugs"* for sleep and promises of someone coming in to see him "SHORTLY." Doctors, nurses, primaries, psychs, patient advocates, all set appointments with him, which they all missed, some by 12-24 hours. He was set for an ultrasound of his liver. He wasn't to be fed until the u/sound was done. It was scheduled for 8AM, it happened at 3PM and he'd had no food.
    He was marketed to consistently by people popping in, and on the hospital's private tv crawl: need a shingles - flu - pneumonia shot?
    Next time he's sick, I told him to check into fucking Exxon or a Chase Bank if he had to check into a corporation, because that's what the "hospital" was, a goddamned corporation.
    *What happened to sleeping drugs like phenobarbital, like seconal, like tuinal? K-reist, we used to eat them like candy in the 70s. Now they're so afraid of getting you some real sleep drugs, like the guvmint gonna come down on them if they prescribe anything that actually works for a person.
    Shit, if I'm terminal, I'm staying home. No joke.
    This hospital, Holmes Regional Med Center in Melbourne FL is OWNED by an insurance company, Health First. I was sure my bro would get good care there. What a rude fucking awakening I got.

    "He went to Harvard, not Hogwarts." ~Wanda Sykes

    Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly.

    by OleHippieChick on Sat May 04, 2013 at 11:55:35 AM PDT

    •  The system is a rude shock (6+ / 0-)

      isn't it?  We really must find a better way.  I honestly thought I knew it was bad, but the last 16 months have been an eye opener.  Each appointment, test, follow-up and surgical procedure are far apart, you have to beg for weeks for insurance authorization for everything, no matter how many scans and x-rays they are provided, and the only thing the insurance seems to cover without a struggle is all the Vicodin you can swallow.  

      And yet, I'm deeply grateful I have even that.  If it's this much of a struggle with Blue Cross, what about those who don't even have that?  Honestly, as lousy as my coverage is, at least I have that magic insurance card that gets me in the door.  

      Just getting Obamacare through was such a mess, they're still trying to repeal it, and frankly, it was only a tiny step in the direction we need to move in.  And while the wheels grind so slowly in DC, with the right pushing back ferociously, there are a lot of people with treatable and preventable issues that are being allowed to slide down into a place where, ultimately, it will be too late.

      You are my brother, my sister.

      by RoCali on Sat May 04, 2013 at 01:08:00 PM PDT

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      •  Yeah, but, hey, we have the besssssssstest (5+ / 0-)

        healthcare system in the wurrrrrrlllld.


        Gawd, we're so full of shit.

        I'm sorry for your troubles, RoCali. I am a long-term uninsured person approaching Medicare in September. I have no idea what to expect. Gotta do some homework.

        "He went to Harvard, not Hogwarts." ~Wanda Sykes

        Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly.

        by OleHippieChick on Sat May 04, 2013 at 01:17:17 PM PDT

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        •  I hear you. (5+ / 0-)

          I'm so tired of hearing that trite line about the "best healthcare."  It raises my hackles.  Really?  What good does the "best" do if the citizenry are dying because of lack of access and affordability?  It's like a bad joke and the punchline is just painful.

          I still hope.  I know there's a better way. At moments, I believe we will ultimately get there, but my heart hurts for those who are suffering and may run out of time before then.  

          You are my brother, my sister.

          by RoCali on Sat May 04, 2013 at 04:00:04 PM PDT

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          •  I am not even certain it is the best care in the (0+ / 0-)

            world for the rich. My parents had medicare plus private insurance and they did not pay one penny out of pocket..back from 1994 to 2005, during their illnesses.

            I am not sure that would be the case today but Dad had been part of a union and they were getting NALC insurance plus medicare.  

            But even though their heatlhcare costs were covered completely, there was a lack of coordination in care. For instance, Mom was released from the hospital and told she would need a TPN nutritional IV for weeks if not permanently. Well they were supposed to deliver and hook up the feeding system and that did not happen....24 hours later, they arrived and by that time, Mom needed to go to rehab center because she was weak, her legs were swollen and she was so hungry and therefore, weakened. It was total incompetent. A Home health nurse was to have visited her the morning following her release..the nurse arrived at 5 pm.  

            So we saw a lot of things about my parents healthcare costs being covered and not an issue of money where the system was still broken and the healthcare was not that good,.,they made a lot of errors and they were NOT organized

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            by wishingwell on Sun May 05, 2013 at 10:20:21 AM PDT

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          •  We were talking a rich woman who was telling (0+ / 0-)

            us they could afford to pay for the best healhcare but it does not exist in some cases, depending on the region of the country and also on the disease itself.

            She says her husband has often received less than good care and they can afford the best. But the problem is coordination between doctors, Physical therapy, home health nurse visits, and so on. The different providers are not talking and it is a circus .

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            by wishingwell on Sun May 05, 2013 at 10:22:36 AM PDT

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    •  Phenobarbital (2+ / 0-)
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      Is a siezure drug, not a sleep aid, and it can have some really serious side effects, like cirosis of the liver. That's why they don't give that one any more. I don't know about the others. I know when Dad was in they tried to give him Ambien. I won't take a sleep aid because then I don't wake up when I can't breathe. He took the Ambien for a couple of nights then started refusing it once they took him off the vent.

      "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

      by FloridaSNMOM on Sat May 04, 2013 at 05:27:00 PM PDT

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      •  OK, I'm mistaken abt phenobarb. We ate it anyway. (1+ / 0-)
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        But what's with these "sleep aids"? Four hours of sleep and you're awake again. Might as well eat antihistamine for all the good they do.
        What can a person with extreme, chronic sleeplessness do? I think they should be immobilized and monitored for a few days so the body can rest. That's what my brother needed and no one would do it. They jerked him around with these stupid, worthless sleep aid pills.

        "He went to Harvard, not Hogwarts." ~Wanda Sykes

        Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly.

        by OleHippieChick on Sun May 05, 2013 at 04:55:03 AM PDT

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        •  Phenobarb worked as a sleep aid (1+ / 0-)
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          because drowsiness is one of the side effects. Once they realized the other side effects they stopped using it for that. Has your brother had his melatonin levels checked? That's the only thing that ever worked for my son. Benedryl will work for short term or the rare really bad night, but melatonin, on a daily dose has helped him actually get real sleep on a regular basis.

          "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

          by FloridaSNMOM on Sun May 05, 2013 at 07:57:35 AM PDT

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          •  Thanks, Mom, I'll ask him. (1+ / 0-)
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            He's had so much bloodwork done, all levels normal and healthy; he has a fatty liver, whatever that is. I doubt his melatonin levels were checked. He has horrendous tinnitus that keeps him awake.

            "He went to Harvard, not Hogwarts." ~Wanda Sykes

            Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly.

            by OleHippieChick on Sun May 05, 2013 at 08:19:04 AM PDT

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            •  My son had almost NO melatonin (2+ / 0-)
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              He just doesn't produce it. So augmenting with it was the only way to go. It's no wonder he never slept through the night before he started taking it.

              "Madness! Total and complete madness! This never would've happened if the humans hadn't started fighting one another!" Londo Mollari

              by FloridaSNMOM on Sun May 05, 2013 at 08:20:50 AM PDT

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            •  I have a sleep order causes by fibromyalgia and (1+ / 0-)
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              Epstein Barr...the doctor has me on neurotin which helps a lot plus a low dose of elavil.  Both help with some pain and sleep.  Then If I wake up in the middle of the night which I always do, I often take some benadryl as I have itchiness from dermatitis.

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              by wishingwell on Sun May 05, 2013 at 10:27:45 AM PDT

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              •  Wow, sorry for those troubles with your rental. (0+ / 0-)

                I always tell my bro we're just renting the physical vehicles but have to pay the GD maintenance on them.
                I think he may have mentioned neurontin. I'll ask.

                "He went to Harvard, not Hogwarts." ~Wanda Sykes

                Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly.

                by OleHippieChick on Sun May 05, 2013 at 11:22:29 AM PDT

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        •  Exactly, what worked for aut better was ativan (0+ / 0-)

          or xanax for sleep and relaxation rather than sleep aids.  My dad had serious side effects to ambien. He would wander around the house at night talking crazy and this was the most rational man you could ever meet when not on ambien.

          It was terrible, he got addicted to it, he wanted to take too much to sleep so not to be in pain when dealing with cancer.

          Mom had to monitor his medication as he would forget he took it and it would be scary. He once was asking Mom where were his kids and why were they not in bed? Welll  we were in our 40s and long gone out of the house .  Mom had to explain that to him and he would not believe her at first.  OUr family is all allergic, in a way, to ambien, we do not do well with sleep aids. ..bad side effects.  

          We all would wander the house and be a  nut case if we took amibien.

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          by wishingwell on Sun May 05, 2013 at 10:26:09 AM PDT

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    •  That is why I am so glad Mom outlived Dad in that (0+ / 0-)

      her nursing background enabled her to take care of my dad at home except post operative.  He died in his own house in home hospice. But for the most part, Mom did everything and took such wonderful care of him.  I remember seeing him for the last time and that house smelled clean and not at all like a hospital setting and everything looked so nice. Dad loved that little house he paid off years before and had built from scratch....he was able to die in the place he loved most on earth..his own home with his wife in the next room.

      Mom was then diagnosed with terminal cancer just 2 years later. She worried about how she was going to do it. It was a blessing when she died of complications very very quickly while in a rehab setting ..being rushed to the hospital and died a few hours later. She did not have to go through the death bed and hospice thing after all.  She feared that the most..she wanted to stay independent and she was able to do until the last two days of her life.

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      by wishingwell on Sun May 05, 2013 at 10:14:52 AM PDT

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  •  Tomorrow is Marx's birthday. (1+ / 0-)
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    third Party please

    It's time to capitalism in the dustbin of history.

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