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WAY PAST INSANITY

High School Virginity Check: Coming to a school near you?
So it’s good that these girls can get an education, but my goodness, the disrespect shown to them is unimaginable. Disrespect, I don’t even know what word works here. The patriarchy always knows what’s best for everyone.

“A city on Indonesia's Sumatra Island will require female students to pass a virginity test for entering senior high school in an effort to reduce the rate of "negative acts," news reports said Tuesday.

“Muhammad Rasyid, chief of the Education Agency in the city of Prabumulih in South Sumatra Province, reportedly said the virginity test, which will be a response to the high rate of "adultery" and "prostitution" among female students, is slated to start next year.”
http://www.globalpost.com/...

Because Men always Know what God Thinks
The depravity is just incomprehensible. What is the point of religion if it only makes you fearful and full of hate?

“A cleric cut his wife into pieces on Wednesday for refusing to wear a veil and sending their children to school, police said.”

“He said he had been telling her to cover her face with a veil when she stepping outside, but she had not listened. He also wrote that he did not want to be responsible for her sins and thus killed her.”
http://tribune.com.pk/...

VIOLENCE: The Kind Women Suffer From

Can’t a Girl Have Fun?
“Recently, the Guardian reported that women gamers who are threatened or targeted for abuse are often told by game companies that it’s their own fault for choosing a female name or avatar. One user reported that the CEO of a popular gaming company simply banned her from playing the game in which she’d been threatened because he was “tired of hearing about” her problems with other players.”
http://www.rawstory.com/...

The Double-Standard Lives On: And On And On In Social Media
“A 17-year-old was reportedly hospitalized after a photo of her performing oral sex on two different men went viral. Caroline Linton on a girl's public shaming—and her defenders.”

“Welcome to today’s reminder that it’s different for girls,” wrote Sarah Ditum in the New Statesman . “A culture that hates women for having sex is one that simply hates women, and that is the grotty truth photographed at Slane.”
http://www.thedailybeast.com/...

Victims of Domestic Abuse Afraid to Call the Police
It is absolutely incredible (in a very, very bad way) how things always manage to work themselves out to a woman’s detriment. So she can’t call the police for help because they will evict her from her apartment because she’s disrupting the neighborhood. How many times does a woman need to be punished because she is/was with a violent man? Is there never going to be compassion or logic in the way the law deals with women?

“The nuisance laws are growing in popularity around the country. They are ostensibly enacted to enable landlords to weed out drug dealers and other disruptive tenants from rental properties and create “crime-free neighborhoods.” Unfortunately, they often end up placing victims of domestic violence and other crimes at the mercy of their abusers.”
http://www.rawstory.com/...

Rape Culture at Work: Five Examples of How Employers Turn Women into Sex Objects
1. ”A New Jersey judge ruled that casino waitresses can be fired for gaining weight.”
2. “A widely-used employee training manual tells women how to make sure they don’t lead men on.”
3. “Women at Merrill Lynch have been instructed to seduce their way to the top.”

Check out the other two here: http://thinkprogress.org/...

HARD TO BE A WOMAN DEPARTMENT

So How Does a Woman Lean In? Iranian Version
“That’s right, male officials in Iran have deemed Moradi simply too beautiful to hold public office. They even allege that she won her campaign based on her looks alone, calling her posters “vulgar and anti-religious.” To the contrary, her posters are in line with Islamic tradition. In the photograph in question, Moradi dons a hijab and hides all of her hair, as well as her skin other than her face.”
Read more: http://www.care2.com/...

Some Games Are Just Too Complicated for Women (Hint: It involves a ball and scoring points, you know, complicated stuff)
I appreciate the apology, but my goodness, will the auto-pilot to sexism ever cease? “Alabama newspaper apologizes for saying women find football ‘confusing’ and ‘often vexing’”
http://www.nydailynews.com/...

Women Shortchanged In Retirement Earnings
An NPR interview (transcript also provided). Systemic change is needed. Once again: stop blaming individual women, even those who are the Leaning Tower of Pisa. This is a societal issue.

 “We're talking about the implications of the retirement-gender gap. And Paul, speaking to this gender gap specifically, what solves it? Is it bringing pay up to equal? If men and women are making the same amount, will then their retirement accounts have the same amount in them?

“SOLMAN: Well, not if, in fact, women leave the work force for longer periods of time than men, right? Even if they were making a hundred percent of what men make, if they had fewer years they'd have fewer years to accumulate income, they'd have a smaller pension and they'd have lower Social Security. So that by itself wouldn't change things unless you literally have men be house husbands to the exact same extent that women have been housewives, you know, over the years.”
http://www.npr.org/...

ABORTION / CHOICE

Can They Ever Just Relax and Let People Get Medical Care?
“Well, if you’re watching Fox, you’d think it’s apocalyptic. Right wing radio host Mike Gallagher acted like there was nothing more outrageous than a public health clinic getting involved in a program that helps people get better access to health care. “I always try to anticipate what my friends on the left will possibly say to try to defend this egregious about-face,” he chuckled on Fox. The “about-face” is a reference to the overt lie underpinning this entire campaign against Planned Parenthood, which is the conservative claim that Obama somehow promised that Planned Parenthood as an entity would not get any federal funding under the Affordable Care Act. Obama made no such promise. He signed an executive order disallowing abortion to be covered in health care plans sold on the exchange, but signing people up for health care should not be equated with giving them abortions or even giving them plans that cover abortion. That’s like saying the Department of Motor Vehicles is casting your ballot for you by giving you the opportunity to register to vote—an outright and inflammatory lie.”

“Anti-choice activists object not just to abortion but to any reproductive technologies or sex education that makes it easier for people, women especially, to have sex without serious negative consequences.” (Emphasis added because it gets to the point so succinctly.)
http://www.thedailybeast.com/...

Let’s See if You Can Play Fair
“Seven doctors who perform abortions in Wisconsin are applying for hospital admitting privileges as a way to show they cannot comply with a new state law (SB 206) that requires them to have the privileges, the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel reports.”
http://go.nationalpartnership.org/...

North Dakota Showing the Way
“A North Dakota judge on Wednesday issued a preliminary injunction against a state law (SB 2305) that would require abortion providers to have admitting privileges at nearby hospitals, Bloomberg reports.”
http://go.nationalpartnership.org/...

And Bingo! But Can They Listen to SCIENCE and DATA?
“An analysis of these documents shows that congressional Republicans will find no support for their arguments in favor of new restrictions on abortion care in the evidence presented by the states. In particular, to the extent that anti-choice advocates claim that women are being put at risk by abortion services, these documents—from the very state entities charged with overseeing and regulating abortion—show the contrary. They show that abortion in the United States is highly regulated and overwhelmingly safe.”
http://rhrealitycheck.org/...

Using Tragedy for their Own Ends
“A tragedy, and Surovik was furious when she found out that while the other driver would be penalized for driving drunk, he wouldn’t be punished for causing her miscarriage. Her anger, and the terrible situation, has served as a perfect opportunity for the always-active anti-choice movement in Colorado, which seized upon it as an ideal excuse to advance yet another attempt at a fetal personhood law. Under such laws, a developing fetus is given rights similar to those of a fully developed person outside of the womb, despite the potentially dangerous implications of such measures.”
Read more: http://www.care2.com/...

Abortion in Texas: The Game
Fundraising is underway to develop Choice: Texas, an interactive fiction game based on abortion access in the state of Texas.
http://www.indiegogo.com/...

Protests Outside a Crisis Pregnancy Center: How Does It Make You Feel?
“According to the Kansas City Star, protesters from across the country, called the Abortion Rights Freedom Riders, converged on a crisis pregnancy center called – without a hint of irony – A Better Choice. They held signs that said “Fake Clinic” and “Stop Forced Motherhood” in front of the crisis pregnancy center, which happens to also share a parking lot with Operation Rescue, an anti-choice group known for their graphic protests of abortion clinics.”

“No one is doubting that anti-choice activists are well-organized and effective, but now pro-choice activists are fighting back. As long as they don’t start murdering people in cold blood, I say that it’s time to get loud.”
Read more: http://www.care2.com/...

ACTION ITEMS & GOOD IN THE WORLD: WOMAN POWER

Unbelievable: In the YEAH! Department
“Birka Avenger: A Super-Hero in a Birka for Women’s Education in Pakistan”

Have a look at the clip and know that progress is being made for girls’ education where we don’t expect it.
http://www.youtube.com/...

A Discovery that Makes So Much Sense
“The discovery in Peru of another tomb belonging to a pre-Hispanic priestess, the eighth in more than two decades, confirms that powerful women ruled this region 1,200 years ago, archeologists said.”

“This find makes it clear that women didn’t just run rituals in this area but governed here and were queens of Mochica society,” project director Luis Jaime Castillo told AFP.
http://www.rawstory.com/...

Planned Parenthood Winning in Court
“The Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a U.S. District Court ruling that will prevent Arizona Governor Jan Brewer’s administration from effectively defunding Planned Parenthood.”

“This marks the second time in less than a month that Planned Parenthood has defeated an attempt to limit access to its facilities. On July 30, the ACLU prevailed in its lawsuit on behalf Planned Parenthood of Indiana when Judge Tanya Walton Pratt decided that an Indiana law similar to the Arizona one violated the same free-choice-of-provider provision.”
http://www.rawstory.com/...

Too Touchy: Filner Resigns
I guess now he’ll have some time for real therapy, not the pretend days in hiding.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/...
http://www.nbcsandiego.com/...

Hero Who Used Her Words
And this story proves the lie that only guns fight guns. NO WORDS DO. YOU GO GIRL! A tragedy was averted in Georgia by a compassionate, wise, patient woman: Antoinette Tuff.
http://livewire.talkingpointsmemo.com/...

Award the Presidential Citizens Medal to Antoinette Tuff of Ronald E. McNair Discovery Learning Academy in Atlanta, GA
https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/...

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  •  I get what football is about.... (5+ / 0-)

    I am vexed by it because it bores me and I don't grasp the appeal. I like that game with pucks/sticks/ice. My ex is from Alabama, newspaper article not shocking although actually most of my ex's family loved football, men and women.

    •  Football rules don't rule (2+ / 0-)
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      ramara, undercovercalico

      I have to admit, football seems about as much about rules (that do seem pointless and confusing) as anything else. I wonder what the deep message is there. You get smacked if you don't do what you're supposed to? But the continual drumbeat of sexism has just got to stop.

    •  Football is vexing because (0+ / 0-)

      It's too violent for me, as is boxing. Basketball tennis, diving, and other sports where there is precision are far more interesting.

      Baseball, just boring. Too slow!



      Women create the entire labor force.
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      Sympathy is the strongest instinct in human nature. - Charles Darwin

      by splashy on Mon Aug 26, 2013 at 12:33:06 AM PDT

      [ Parent ]

  •  I was actually a bigger sports fan (2+ / 0-)
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    ramara, Gordon20024

    than many of my boyfriends before I met Mr. Scribe, and know quite a bit about football though baseball and hockey are my premiere sports loves these days. (I've got a Twitter buddy who is a former pro baseball player and current TV analyst who praises my baseball knowledge...makes me blush.)

    My mom was a huge football fan, though she probably couldn't tell you the difference between the 3-4 and 4-3 defense -- didn't stop her enjoyment of the game any. (Got to admit that she came late to the game, through participation in the office football pools.) I'd like to know how many men actually understand football who haven't played it.

    (At least with the SF Giants sucky play this year I won't have post-season baseball to distract me from my San Jose Sharks. ;-) )

    There's only one rule that I know of, babies -- goddammit, you've got to be kind. -- Kurt Vonnegut

    by Cali Scribe on Sat Aug 24, 2013 at 12:29:49 PM PDT

  •  Thanks for including good news (2+ / 0-)
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    ramara, Gordon20024

    and action items - I always feel like I need them when I reach the bottom of the list.

    I shall die, but that is all that I shall do for Death; I am not on his payroll. - Edna St. Vincent Millay

    by Tara the Antisocial Social Worker on Sat Aug 24, 2013 at 12:50:52 PM PDT

  •  I don't like football (2+ / 0-)
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    ramara, Gordon20024

    I was a majorette in high school in the U.P. of Michigan.  We performed with the band at halftime when the ambient temperature often was in the low 50's or high 40's.  The band could wear warm undies under their uniforms.  We froze in our skimpy outfits and froze our fingers twirling the baton.

    Kudos to the Abortion Rights Freedom Riders for their work at a fake clinic.  Fake clinics are unregulated, with no licensed professional on site, yet they get tax money for giving bad advice to unwitting women.

    Don't look back, something may be gaining on you. - L. "Satchel" Paige

    by arlene on Sat Aug 24, 2013 at 01:33:44 PM PDT

  •  Excellent diary (0+ / 0-)

    A couple of additions:

    First, to bring attention to how much we don't know about women in science

    https://www.facebook.com/...

    Second, rsevern's wonderful thoughts about Chelsea Manning and prison shows another side of rape culture

    http://www.voicesonthesquare.com/...

    Being attentive to the needs of others might not be the point of life, but it is the work of life. It can be ... almost impossibly difficult. But it is not something we give. It is what we get in exchange for having to die. - Jonathan Safran Foer

    by ramara on Sat Aug 24, 2013 at 02:07:07 PM PDT

  •  Schedule (0+ / 0-)

    Aug 24 - Laura Wnderer

    Aug 31 - Tara the Antisocial Social Worker

    Sept 7 - Ramara

    Sept 14 - Laura Wnderer

    Sept  21 - open

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    Please do sign up. Each of us brings a voice to the series, and new voices will be more than welcome. We post on Saturday at noon; diaries should be in queue by Friday night.

    Being attentive to the needs of others might not be the point of life, but it is the work of life. It can be ... almost impossibly difficult. But it is not something we give. It is what we get in exchange for having to die. - Jonathan Safran Foer

    by ramara on Sat Aug 24, 2013 at 02:14:54 PM PDT

  •  re So How Does an Iranian Woman Lean In (0+ / 0-)

    it seems evident --and recognized in the article generally-- that prettiness or beauty are merely excuses being used by male-dominated entities [m.d.e.] as their basis for removing women who are inconvenient to or obstructive of the m.d.e. in those particular instances.  Across the board, any excuse in the book will do.

    Unfortunately,the article about Moradi includes the bizarre paragraph:
         Before Americans look too condescendingly at the
         Iranian people for their oppression of pretty women,
         remember that, last month, the Iowa Supreme Court
         reached a similar determination when it declared that
         it was okay for a man to fire a female employee for
         being too attractive.

    Obviously the internet's appetite for material is voracious and tends to speed the written word into publication sometimes faster than sensible editing for content can keep up, and if this was the only material available about Moradi then perhaps the publishers/bloggers felt there was no real choice - run it or ignore the issue while other publications/blogs get the issue to the public first.  

    But maybe it's instructive for us to see reportage try to make the dubious case for "oppression of pretty women" for lack of a fast phrase more accurately restating that appearance is routinely used as a weapon against women's aspirations, regardless of whether the appearance is judged too much liked or too much disliked.

    The kind of language involved should be illustrative: when a woman's (or man's) appearance is liked, the term usually used is "attractive" - as if the person being discussed possesses a sciencefictional biomagnetic  capacity to draw or pull toward her/himself those viewers who are looking at the appearance and liking it.  The reality is that the liking of the viewer is the only energy going on; the human body involves very little genuine magnetic energy, and the use of that kind of language is time-honored blamegame by which the viewer exonerates him/herself from responsibility for her/his own feelings about and judgements of the person being called "attractive".

    To push news about Moradi and about Nelson/IowasSupremeCourt to the point of citing "oppression of pretty women" as if this, rather than the "any excuse in the book will do" rationale is what's going on, is a considerable trivialization of the universal women's rights movement, a trivialization that panders to readers who think of their own appearance as liked by others.  Decades of research on the personal and material advantage to both women and men of having an appearance that is liked by others consistently finds that a liked appearance documentably confers advantage in getting the job or mate or social position, etc., that is being sought, whether in casual or focused effort, or that "just falls into their laps" (as the saying goes).

    In American culture alone, society puts females under tremendous pressure to spend exorbitant amounts of time, money and thought on artificing likeable appearance for themselves and their daughters (the pressure on men has increased considerably in recent decades as well) for the claimed sake of "self-esteem" as well as "get that man", "get that job/promotion", if a little less overtly, "get that grade", "get that social circle/friend".  Americans have had more money and leisure to invest in appearance than is available in most other cultures, but our obsessions at various times with French and British styles of appearance is reciprocated by theirs with ours, and that's just in the last half-century alone.  The fact that this pressure and its results are in constant awareness cross-culturally is reasonably evident in the Moradi and Nelson articles, and anyone searching for more evidence in other cultures and cross-culturally will find her/himself inundated.  

    The fact that this awareness, whether couched in religious or political terms in Moradi's case, or personal and legal terms in Nelson's court case, is taken from the page of "any excuse in the book" about being too well liked is beside that point that evaluation by others of the appearance of a female is a fact females have to deal with day after day after day despite its utter illegitimacy where anything except appearance is concerned.  Making a case for "oppression of pretty women" is divisive, counter-productive, and self-sabotage by elevating one variation of a weapons excuse into an entire class of discrimination that pits "pretty women" against all women who have more substantal issues on their agendas.  It splits what could have been their combined greater power to make progress across the board.

    That's how powerfully the superficial, trivial values of discriminatory societies operate even on activists who believe they're doing good.  That's how easy it is divide and conquer social forward change.

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