Any attempt by others to construe this diary to mean that I have been distracted from the NSA BS, the GOP Shutdown Antics or any other important issues of the day will result in a stern tongue lashing.
This diary contains graphic sexual descriptions, so warning--Trigger, Rant, etc.,
If you have alcohol on your breath, that is an automatic YES.
That means that even if you say no, no one will believe you, because one drink will impair a female to such a degree-how would she know she is drunk.
Maybe she was raped by a UFO.
She knew better than to drink while having a vagina, it's okay to ignore her troubles, to ignore her protestations.
That's what I see when I read about the Salon story.
Not one mention of teaching males NOT to rape.
Not one mention of teaching males that consent is sexy, and desirable.
Not one mention at all.
Just this pretense that if females could just refrain from imbibing in the demon rum, then somehow the crime of rape would disappear. That's a laugh.
Is this female blind or just mean and stupid?
Sexual predators are opportunists. Alcohol is but one of many avenues to gain access to potential victims, and not necessarily an assured one.
You don't have to put drugs in an alcoholic drink to knock a girl out. You only have to put those drugs IN A Drink. It is after all odorless and tasteless. Soda Pop, Ice Tea, Milk, Lemonade.
And when it hits you, do you think the author of this story will think that someone did this to you? No she will assume, as will many other female enablers, that you must have been imbibing alcohol. And too much alcohol at that.
Some females never have a drink. Their sin--they were alone with the wrong guy. They are sober. What's next on this astounding instructional on how not to be raped? Never leave your house? stop Dating? Never be alone?
Ladies I have heard it all over the years, and sadly I have lived long enough to know that none of this shit is good advice. It's mostly crap from people whose cluelessness overwhelms their good intentions.
Stop blaming the females.
Look to the predators.
Look at how our society glorifies sexual predators, and objectification of women, to the point that rape is portrayed as simply bad sex for her.
Let me recount all I have been told:
Live Above Reproach--a personal favorite. A vague instruction that indicates as long as you are able to avoid putting off any kind of signal that could be construed as sexy, then you won't be bothered as if one were a bad girl asking for it.
Abstain---because we all know virgins are never raped, only bad loose girls.
Dress like a school marm--because rapists only respond to tits and ass, if you cover your tits and ass, then whatever robotic mechanism that causes them to rape will never be activated.
Don't leave your house alone after dark, because rapists only come out after dark, wearing trench coats over their dress socks.
Don't explore your sexuality--petting makes you popular in a bad way, never ever say yes--because once you do one or more of these things, then you lose your power to say no forever after. Your vagina becomes community property.
Don't travel alone, because that's like taking an ad out in the classifieds asking for it.
Don't ever drink alcohol--because not only is this privilege reserved for grown ups (which by the way can only be men or prostitutes), even a hint of it on your breath is like an admission to being a nymphomaniac to the police, should you be so brazen to complain after the fact. Same with mind altering drugs.
Don't wear too much makeup, it makes you look like a whore.
Don't wear tight pants, because that's like tucking your ankles behind your ears.
Don't wear sexy underwear--be sure and wear stained granny panties, and a sweaty stinky bra, so everyone knows you are not interested in sex at all, unless the rapist has a philia for pheromones--and then it's WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING SLUT!
Don't wear high heels--only streetwalkers and strippers wear those.
Don't wear red--Whore of Babylon and all that.
In fact, if you must leave your house, be sober, and dressed in a snowsuit two sizes too big. Refrain from brushing your teeth or wearing deodorant, and don't shave your legs or paint your nails, in fact, just don't even bother wiping your ass and that way, if the smell doesn't knock the guy over, at least the judge might believe you when you say, you weren't looking for anonymous sexual encounters in the chain store parking lot in broad daylight.
That about cover it?
And guys--don't worry about a thing--the ladies got you covered. You just do whatever you do, and we will do what we have been doing for a millenia. Taking responsibility for rape, pregnancy, the spread of STDs. You guys just hang around and wait for your chance, and we ladies will hold a secret sluts meeting to exchange all the latest and greatest birth control techniques, STD preventions, and rape prevention.
That about cover it?