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In 2007 I wrote a diary about a four year old boy who was killed by his father. Ja’Veion Mayes was jerked by his father in the bathroom, according to his father’s account. He fell, hit his head on the toilet and was left by his father in the bathtub, where he drowned. His father took his body and dumped it in a pile of kudzu near a parking lot.

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My first contact with this story was during the search for him. The theory was that he was lost in the area in exceptionally hot weather, so the search was urgent from the beginning. The true story quickly came to light, and his body was found. I took a picture of the site, when I attended a vigil for him in the community where he lived. Those pictures may be found in that diary, I am not reproducing them here.

Ja’Veion’s father was sentenced to 25 years in prison for killing him.

I was struck by the case because of a memorial in town for an infant found in a Sears vacuum cleaner box the day before Valentine’s Day, in 1990. Police detectives named her Julie Valentine, since no information about her identity existed or was ever turned up in the investigation.

I went to her grave some years after writing that diary. The picture below was taken during that visit. She was in a section of the cemetery devoted to infants. You can just see the feet of teddy bears to the right of her memorial.

I thought of Julie Valentine again this week because of the resolution of a cold case in New York. A girl the same age as Ja’Veion Mayes, named Baby Hope by law enforcement, was found murdered, dumped along the Henry Hudson Parkway in 1991, the year after Julie Valentine’s body was found. Her identity remained unknown until police announced the break in the case this past Saturday. Baby Hope is now known as Anjelica Castillo. She can go home to her family.

At least so far, that is not possible for Julie Valentine. Officially she is Baby Jane Doe, Julie Valentine to us and our community. I do not know what may or may not be happening with her cold case. I know she has recently received a higher profile. The community’s Rape Crisis and Child Abuse Center was renamed the Julie Valentine Center.

Will Julie Valentine’s case be resolved? And her name reclaimed? Wouldn’t that be a special thing?!

It surprised me how I reacted to the discovery of Baby Hope’s name. I am sure it was at least partially because of my interest in the Julie Valentine case, with all the parallels.

Does it matter to us that Baby Hope now has a name? For me, without question, yes. Does it matter to Baby Hope? I think the answer has to be no. She won’t care. Why do we?

I think it is because that small child has been given a little bit of dignity. Because the continued interest of society and the commitment of the police in that case reflect appreciation of her personhood. Of the fact of her existence. Of the magnitude of her importance, even though she died in 1991.

Ja’Veion Mayes’s life mattered, too. As did little Julie Valentine’s. Baby Hope is remembered, Julie Valentine is remembered, to a degree, and so is Ja’Veion Mayes, within a given circle.

But what about the millions of children born into poverty and difficult circumstances? Society seems to care THAT they are born, but what about after? What about their health care? Their education? Their futures? Democrats care about them. Republicans, in George Lakoff’s terms, simply frame them out of existence. MONEY is more important than people. The government, for them, exists to protect money, to not spend money, to not collect it. They might agree that, hypothetically, it would be good to help the Baby Hopes and Julie Valentines of the world. Sadly, we just can’t afford it.

Only, we can.

And we must, too. (If you can make a contribution to the Julie Valentine Center, that may be done here, or via a link on their donate page.)

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