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OK, I have got to calm down a bit because I came so close to slapping a republican right in the mouth today.  I don't advocate violence but this one hit every single "I can be a witch" button I have.

First of all I am stressed over many things but one in particuliar is all of this class warfare and the other is the IRS owes my son 3K which half goes to us for his living expenses and they have not sent it and no advocate has called as they promised to do two weeks ago.  He is losing his all but under carpet cleaning business and we are carrying the load...and then the VA shorts us on our check but we still have to eat so I am in the line at Winn Dixie with REAL money not the so called look down on folks from the republicanss SNAP card.

 I am with my little girl ( which stopped me from acting out and landing in jail) when an entitled snotty nose young gal steps behind me while my child is getting out the groceries from the cart... She was bad mouthing the ACA (that I was trying to ignore) to someone behind her.  She then pushed my groceries up on the line with arrogance and my pocketbook falls out of the top part  of the cart and change and what not flys everywhere when my little girl who is out of school due to allergies, drops  down and starts picking up items.   I stop and help.  The idiot from the right wing and I damn well know that is where she is politically just stands there still badmouthing the president and the ACA. The woman behind her does not really respond.

We get it picked up and the cashier looks rudely at the woman behind me.   Well this pretty much set her off.   She continues talking about how all she can afford is her two
bottles of spring water and cheetos (go figure) because Obamacare is putting she and her husband out of business.    As the lady in her 70's I presume is ringing us up the young lady bagging is bagging as fast as she can.   I notice the pocketbook of the snot nosed winger and say, " Well it must not be hurting you too bad, that pocketbook came from the Villages and is a name brand".  This woman's face turned red.   She proceeded to show me her pocketbook and I said, " I don't care".   As the lady continues to bag, she tells the woman bagger..get this... TELLS the worker to go get her some buns...She names the brand and refuses to budge from the line with her puny water and cheetos.  That left me and the checker and my little girl waiting for another bagger while she smiles the entire time, because the bagger with the skill of Richard Petty leaves  from helping the checker and us in a trot to fetch this entitled $%%^  buns.

My little girl looks up at me and rolls her eyes which is more mature than my emotions.
I said very calmly, " Oh I did not notice your legs were broken or I would have let you go ahead of me".   If looks could kill...I would be dead and it was a standoff from that moment on.  I am now slamming the groceries on the belt thingy.   I look back at her as she is tapping her foot but a black very nice worker picks up while the other bagger is fetching buns.  I am past mad !  My little girl notices my face and says several times, " Mom"..Mom....and I say nothing.   As we walk to the door the black worker said, " sorry about that incident, that woman comes in here all the time and trashes the president and the health plan but sorry you had to lose your items in your pocketbook..  I have a vote Democrat sticker on my purse and he must have noticed, even small as it is.. He said, " I like the healthcare plan", but that woman I think is head of the republican party down here".    Come to think of it, she must have noticed the little sticker as well.   I stopped at my car and said, " You know if I had known that we would have probably got into it worst than what happened".  He laughed as he put my 5th bag in the car and said, " Wow you ought to hear her sometimes".  She gives people with food stamps a really hard time..."cracking all kinds of insults."  I have seen people leave their groceries and leave.  I wanted to just go back in the store and have it out with her and her high and mighty ways.  The bagger worker told me she comes in there, stands in line and it looks like she looks who has food stamps and who doesn't just to stir the pot.

I walked into the house madder than a hornet and told my husband that I was probably going to end up in jail yet before the 2014 elections.   I sat down and wrote this diary but I have put in a call to Winn Dixie to ask them how one customer can demand preferntial treatment over another?  I asked the bagger her name and he said, " I never cared to know, I don't know".   If there was ever a reason to refuse service to a person ..she is a stamp model because she is driving customers away.  
Damn.. I wanted to slap her silly.  Tell me something... Why does this crap happen in check out lines in public places?  

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  •  Because people like this woman... (13+ / 0-)

    Are blithering know nothings who have no idea what it's like to struggle. They just expect everything to be handed to them no questions asked.

    I wonder what kind of business she's in anyway? Based on the fact that she's got an expensive purse, I'll guess that's what's putting her out of business, not the ACA.

    And of course, like most, if not all republicans, she probably doesn't even know the history of the ACA to boot.

    I write a series called 'My Life as an Aspie', documenting my experiences before and after my A.S. diagnosis as a way to help fellow Aspies and parents of Aspies and spread awareness. If I help just one person by doing this, then I've served a purpose.

    by Homer177 on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 01:45:30 PM PDT

    •  A woman who was a year ahead of me in (15+ / 0-)

      high school has become a friend in recent years, but may not continue to be.
      She was complaining about Obamacare on the book of Face. She was saying her healthcare costs were going up because of the ACA.
      After some questioning, it turned out she was pissed because the coverage she has that is paid for 100% by her employer was cutting payment for her acupuncture from the policy. She gets acupuncture for back pain.
      I had to wait several minutes while trying to cope with the knowledge that my beautiful friend was so self-UNaware.
      Finally, I told her, "K__, I love you, but the ACA is providing care for millions of your fellow Americans and you're complaining about your free healthcare failing to pay for one thing, which they dropped because a) a majority of their customers don't use acupuncture, so cutting it impacts very few people, and b) they did so only so having to scrap their junk policies and provide better coverage wouldn't impact their profits even a tiny bit. You ought to be pissed at your insurance provider if you're going to be upset with anybody."

      She didn't respond to me. Only to her friends who cooed at her sympathetically.
      She'll still be a friend. I don't give up easily on friends. But it is going to take a bit more effort on my part to respect her as much as I had.

      "Non-violence is a powerful and just weapon which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it. It is a sword that heals." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

      by Gentle Giant on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 01:58:00 PM PDT

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      •  Yeah, a lot of people are saying.... (13+ / 0-)

        that they'd rather pay the fine because their costs are going up. I heard one guy at my gym say that today. I was tempted to ask him how much he was currently paying, but when I things like people, it just brings out the worst in them. And me.

        As for me, I recently spoke with a case worker at my local health department in FL and because I only made five thousand dollars last year, I don't even come close to qualifying for the minimum.

        And since our governor refuses to expand medicaid, the local health department and Vocational Rehab are all I have in that regard. That's why I'm an advocate of Medicare Part E(veryone).

        I write a series called 'My Life as an Aspie', documenting my experiences before and after my A.S. diagnosis as a way to help fellow Aspies and parents of Aspies and spread awareness. If I help just one person by doing this, then I've served a purpose.

        by Homer177 on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:59:39 PM PDT

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      •  May I just say (1+ / 0-)
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        and this is true. My very nice neighbor who put himself through years of school to become an acupuncturist aquiring a ton of student debt in the process is now losing his house because all of the insurance policies have dropped acupuncture and his work load has been down to about 30% of what it was.

        I appreciate what the ACA has done for me but it has its problems as well.

        It is the heart that makes a man rich. He is rich according to what he is not what he has -Henry Ward Beecher

        by PSWaterspirit on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 11:24:14 PM PDT

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        •  Collateral damage. (1+ / 0-)
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          And I don't mean that to shrug off what your neighbor is going through, which is like so many other small business who find themselves catastrophically impacted by an upstream change they couldn't possibly have foreseen.

          If I were him, I'd find a professional acupuncturist organization or found one and petition insurance providers for inclusion, after building a case for it, of course. And I'd investigate ways to promote my services in a way that would gain more clients.
          There is an acupuncturist in the small town outside of which I live. She also is a massage therapist. She rented an office in the same building as a chiropractor, smartly guessing that the proximity might gain more clients. And when a bed and breakfast opened (owned by friends of mine) that specializes in holistic healing and health regimens (the wife of the couple who owns it is a licensed nutritionist), she offered her services there. At first, clientele were referred to her office. Now, she has a therapy room of her own on the premises. (Their handyman is also a touch therapist.)

          If your neighbor could find a way to partner up like that, it could help him thrive.

          "Non-violence is a powerful and just weapon which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it. It is a sword that heals." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

          by Gentle Giant on Wed Apr 02, 2014 at 07:16:13 AM PDT

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      •  having those same discussions with a friend who (1+ / 0-)
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        can't get past "free birth control" cuz folks of our generation had to pay for our own.

        it is an uphill battle, but i'm determined enough to win this one and still keep the friendship.

        EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

        by edrie on Wed Apr 02, 2014 at 02:36:17 PM PDT

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  •  One of the perks of being a "Giant", (27+ / 0-)

    however Gentle. People tend not to f with me. Usually, my buttons are unpushed. Only little drunk guys in bars mess with me. I don't go to bars.

    There was a woman with a baby in a cart ahead of me in line, trying to pay for groceries with her social benefits. She was buying a bottle of juice. It wasn't the right size. The bagger went back. The next one wasn't from concentrate. The next one was juice cocktail. A woman behind me was making exasperated sounds. The young mother was apologizing, but looking at me instead of the bitch behind me.
    I told her many of us were one paycheck away from her. She told me she used to have a good paying job, but the company downsized and then closed. Then it happened to her husband. When the woman behind me started muttering under her breath, I turned to her and pointed out that there was another line. She moved.

    I never use my size to intimidate. Almost never. I hated bullies as I grew up smaller than everyone and did not and do not want to be confused with a bully now that I'm bigger than most people.
    But some people need to be intimidated. And some practically beg for it.
    At one point, I offered to buy one of the bottles of juice that didn't conform to regulation for the young woman. "My kids are out of the house and we find ourselves with a surplus of income for the first time in 25 years. I'd like to buy it for you."
    "No. Thanks, but no."

    Some people walk around in this world without the ability to see where luck, social status and other's intervention have benefited them. They can't see where mere chance has kept them from being the people on whom they target their disdain.
    In my opinion, that's a great loss for them. A better human being guards her humility and is humble about his advantage.

    As a 6'5" white male American protestant heterosexual, I am favored by many unearned advantages. I haven't always been aware of that. But since my enlightenment, I'll be damned if I'll consciously take advantage of them, and look for opportunities to share them with those that don't have them as quietly and humbly as I can- to take a stand and speak up by their side, or be the voice they feel they can't raise.
    That doesn't always make me popular.

    I guess my attitude for people like the ones we've met in stores is "Lighten up, Skeezix. More than you know, YOU are the problem."

    "Non-violence is a powerful and just weapon which cuts without wounding and ennobles the man who wields it. It is a sword that heals." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

    by Gentle Giant on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 01:46:52 PM PDT

    •  you know Giant, I really wondered about that (10+ / 0-)

      sweet 1st bagger who seemed to jump so fast when this gal was barking off orders.  I wondered if she was used to this customer and she knew she needed her job and if this woman was a problem as stated by the second worker who escorted me to the car.

      Now had my husband been with me he would have told her point blank to go get in the line with 10 items or less.
      He would have slowed down to a near stop and probably would have been very strange to many people.. Trust me I know my husband.. He is very unpredicitble in these kind of situations and would have porbably pulled out his phone and said, " Smile, I want to put you on you tube for jerk of the year"...I am soooooooooo glad he was not there.He told me awhile ago, I think I would have asked her how long had she been off her medication?   Things like this.. He can be very very unsettling in siutations like this.. precisely why I don't like him driving...If someone exhibits road rage he will park the car right where he is driving.....I got the collision bill to prove it.. Wow am I glad I was alone.  Of course they would have sent him to the nervous hospital but he is used to going.

      We the People have to make a difference and the Change.....Just do it ! Be part of helping us build a veteran community online. United Veterans of America

      by Vetwife on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:12:26 PM PDT

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    •  I'm glad you told the ignoramus to move. (7+ / 0-)

      It would be nice if more people were kind and considerate of those who are down on their luck instead of faulting them for the situation they are in.  Most people want a job and the ability to provide for their families.

       Unfortunately since 2008,  17 million people have been down on their luck.  That is the same as the  populations for New York City, Los Angeles, Chicago IL, and Houston TX combined. Those are the 4 most populous cities in the USA.

      Kudos to you for giving that woman a kindness.  I'm sure it was much appreciated.  

      Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. Dalai Lama

      by prettymeadow on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:53:57 PM PDT

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      •  I didn't tell her to move unfortunately, but (2+ / 0-)
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        my husband would have.   I was too mad.  I told her I didn't care about her silly purse.  I said Obamacare must not be hurting their business too bad with that expensive purse.  No.. He would have told her to get in the express lane......She was an ignoramus though.

        We the People have to make a difference and the Change.....Just do it ! Be part of helping us build a veteran community online. United Veterans of America

        by Vetwife on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 03:12:27 PM PDT

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  •  RWNJs (13+ / 0-)

    They rely on the manners of others and the civility of others not to push back or talk back or treat them the same.  They're always angry, and it is hard to shame them.  Their sense of entitlement is so bloated.  They'd be the first to deny you service if you were in their line or their store for something, but try and deny THEM service or attention, and they squeal with indignity at the treatment.  

    My buttons get pushed like yours, so I'm not one to give you the perfect response to this kind of stuff.  As long as she deems herself superior, it'll be hard to reach her.  But one day, when in need or when life deals her a challenge, she may have an opening for humanity to sneak in and show her a better way to behave.  Kudos for your daughter to recognize her behavior and your response.  That's great emotional intelligence she is learning.

  •  I would not have been so polite. n/t (8+ / 0-)

    "May the forces of evil become confused on the way to your house." - George Carlin

    by Most Awesome Nana on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:17:05 PM PDT

  •  Folks have to remember we are in (7+ / 0-)

    SYG territory and if we make them too mad ...they will remind us they feel threatned and just shoot us after starting it.  This is the problem with that SYG law.

    We the People have to make a difference and the Change.....Just do it ! Be part of helping us build a veteran community online. United Veterans of America

    by Vetwife on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:18:58 PM PDT

  •  I was once in a social group and we would go (12+ / 0-)

    out to eat together.  One woman was hugely rude to the wait staff; so much so that I had to sneak back to apologize for her behavior and leave a bigger tip.

    She and her husband were Republicans.  It's like they can't feel good about themselves unless they make others miserable.

    ...Son, those Elephants always look out for themselves. If you happen to get a crumb or two from their policies, it's a complete coincidence. -Malharden's Dad

    by slowbutsure on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:20:21 PM PDT

  •  I think I would have told her (7+ / 0-)

    she needs to work on her act - it's not very entertaining.

    Strength and dignity are her clothing, she rejoices at the days to come; She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the law of kindness is on her tongue.

    by loggersbrat on Tue Apr 01, 2014 at 02:35:07 PM PDT

  •  We basically have 3 grocery store chains here. (10+ / 0-)

    One is Target - read expensive.  Second, Hy-Vee - moderate priced - go there for beef, Amana beef.  Third is Wal-Mart and they have the flavored water flavor I like.  Was there the other day and as usual, most of the lanes were closed.  I got into one of the open lanes that had a 'real' person cashier.  The person being waited on was taking quite a bit of time, then I noticed, it looked like he may have been buying for different households and had only x amount to work with.  He looked well dressed, but took a few things out of the cart to lessen the price.  Then there was the next customer and then me.

    When I was putting my stuff onto the belt to be checked, the lady behind me stated that that took a long time.  Yeah... oh well.  She said that if she had x she would have used the self check out.  Talked to her about how that's taking jobs away from people that need the jobs, that the company was making us do the work that we're paying in the price of goods that they would have paid workers and just padding their bottom line.  She got a thoughtful look on her face..... may have made a difference with one person.....

  •  Because people like her are hateful (1+ / 0-)
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    Aggressive people that want to attack others, for whatever reason.



    Women create the entire labor force.
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    Sympathy is the strongest instinct in human nature. - Charles Darwin

    by splashy on Wed Apr 02, 2014 at 08:05:23 AM PDT

  •  i once had a checker (in his early 50s) make a (1+ / 0-)
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    snide comment to me because i had ice cream on my snap purchase.  he muttered "i wish I could afford to buy ice cream!) loud enough for the people in line to hear.  

    i was livid - said  "i am repaying a friend who gave me THEIR ice cream!) - then when i walked out, and thought about it, i put my groceries in the car and headed back in.

    he saw me coming and started profusely apologizing - but i said in a very LOUD and CLEAR voice - "at 68 years old, i have earned the right to buy what ever i want and if i want to buy fucking ice cream on food stamps, i will BUY fucking ice cream!!! it is NONE of your business what i buy!

    he now bags my groceries without comment and is quite contrite.

    idiots!  i would LOVE to have that woman behind me - just once - and i doubt she would ever open her mouth again!  you and i are of the same cloth - no creep is going to get away with such behavior when we are there - we are hard-wired not to remain silent!

    EdriesShop Is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

    by edrie on Wed Apr 02, 2014 at 02:34:33 PM PDT

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