Quick diary. I just have something to say that might be a bit controversial.
It's precipitated by the diary about the congressman"man" who thinks that standardized testing might make your children gay.
Just saying something like that leaves me totally confused about what being gay or straight really means to some people ...
... here's the controversial part ...
... but I find that same confusion from some remarks make around here and elsewhere.
To use a specific example ... the kiss heard round the world during the football draft. Some people on the twittersphere and elsewhere said that it was disgusting and they didn't want to see it ... and people around here say they should "just get over it" ... among other things.
To be honest ... I feel that's about as odd as the remarks by the congressman.
I believe that "being gay" is most certainly something that is wired in from birth. Which would surely indicate that "being straight" is wired in, as well.
When I see two gay men kissing ... I am naturally repulsed. It's how I'm wired. I can no more avoid that feeling than a gay man can avoid feeling sexually attracted to another man. (I'd also add that, as I understand it ... gay men are not big fans of the vagina, as well. Me, I'm a big fan)
To simply dismiss my feelings ... to just tell me to get over it ... is like telling a gay person to get over those feelings the HE has. It doesn't work that way ... and it's also about as understanding of the biology and genetics of homosexuality as the comment by the congressman about tests turning our children gay.
I don't act on (or express) my feelings of revulsion (which ARE, slowly but surely... receding) ... because I don't feel I have the right to tell two men or women who to love ... I know they are wired that way.
Still ... the feeling persists, for now ... because I'm wired that way. I can't imagine.