I'm not saying that it's impossible for cis-het men to be feminists, but I am saying that it comes at the sacrifice of being a sexist, misogynist & a potential rapist.
you're not one of the good guys.
if you think that some cis-het woman should be grateful that you're not one of those "other" dudes, you know - cis-het dudes that openly insult or joke about rape...then, you're not a feminist. in that case, you differ only from those other cis-het dudes because you hide your entitlement, misogyny and rape threats. you don't get a "fuck a feminist free card" for setting a higher bar for circumstances where you would demean or rape.
you don't get pussy if you say that you like feminism
feminism is not a gene pool. if you tell a cis-het feminist woman that you agree with or support feminism, she does not then need to fuck you. there's really nothing more to say on this one.
how to tell if you're a sexist, misogynist and/or rapist - and not a feminist
- do you ever find yourself thinking to yourself; or telling a cis-het woman that she if she gets raped by one of those other dudes, she'd learn her lesson (and her lesson being that you and your special penis are what she should be grateful for)?
- do you think feminist means "likes to fuck"?
- do you think that cis-het women are "real women" but that trans women are not?
- do you get angry when you tell a cis-het woman that you like feminism and she doesn't reward you with friendship or fucking?
- do you get even angrier when, even after telling a cis-het woman how leftist and feminist you are, she calls you sexist or misogynist or not feminist?
- do you get angry because cis-het women take you "out of context" and they fail to listen to your explanation of how you're really one of the "good guys"?
- do you think it's OK for a groom to fuck a stripper at a bachelor party but not for a bride to fuck a male stripper at the bachelorette party?
- do you think "bitch" or "pussy" or "cunt" are insults?
- do you think that pussy is something to "get"?
if you answer 'yes' to any of these, you're playing at feminism so that you can get your dick wet. nobody believes you when you call yourself feminist / leftist / progressive - nobody, that is, except other leftist fail doodz.
(posted at SexGenderBody's tumblr)