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Friends and relatives of those annoying people who say they couldn't care less about this election or anything to do with politics, take note.

In 2008 my politically ignorant (and hostile) daughter was away at school in Florida.  In a previous diary I told how I had to nag her into registering to vote.  What I didn't tell you was how hostile she was during the entire process.  She said she didn't care about politics.  That she didn't want to hear about Obama.  And she had far better things to do than to sit around navel-gazing about stuff she had no control over.  In short, voting was stupid and a waste of time.

Meanwhile, I still sent for the forms, had her fill them out, and send them back to me.  Once the ballot came, I sent it to her and had her fill it out and send it back to me again.  I then mailed it for her.  

My other daughter (underage at the time) went with me to our local OFA office and phone banked.  She had a blast.  Even though she wasn't particularly political, or knowledgable, she endeared herself to the people she called because of her youth, her sweetness and her sincere belief that Obama was a good man.  

Two months before the 2008 election, hostile oldest daughter told me how she was starting to notice that a lot of people were talking about this Obama person, and how we're watching history in the making.  I didn't bother to say that I'd said the same thing to her, but it didn't mean as much coming from her mom. (rolling eyes)

Then the night of the election, she and her sister were standing in front of the TV with my husband and I crying happy tears.  Hostile oldest daughter turned to me and said, "I helped make that happen, didn't I?"  I nodded and smiled, resisting the urge to make a snarky retort about all the hair pulling and arm twisting and nagging I had to do to get her to fill out the damn ballot.  

Okay, seriously.  I'm over it now.  LOL

FAST FORWARD TO THE PRESENT:  

I had my youngest daughter (the phone banker) register to vote.  So now both of my girls are eligible.  

Because my husband and I were constantly talking politics in the house over the years, our discussions (as well as some of the punditry my husband watches on TV) ignited interest within my teenage son.  Enough to prompt him to watch the second debate on his own with both of his sisters.  They watched the first debate unprompted as well.

Today my son talks about Obama in school with his peers constantly.  My daughters are using social media to promote the president.  My oldest (formally politically hostile) daughter met a lot of people when she was in school and she's stayed in touch with them.  

Mind you, these are rainbow kids.  White, Black, Hispanic, NA, Asian etc... from all parts of the country.  And according to my daughter, they are all fired up and ready to vote--for Obama.  Both my daughters have a lot of followers on social media, and they're constantly encouraging their peers, to tell their friends and family members about the importance of this election.

I'm especially proud of my oldest daughter, considering how hostile she was back in 2008.  Now she's coming to me with constant Romnesia news, and posting pro-Obama YouTube videos on her Facebook page, along with my other daughter.  They're also encouraging their local circle of friends to check their voter registrations and to vote early.

There's a saying in the Bible that "if you train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it."

IOW, all those seeds you've been scattering to your friends and loved ones over the years, seeds you think may not have taken root, will bear fruit eventually.  Trust me on this.

I'm marveling at how my kids are really taking an interest in the world they live in.  They realize this is their legacy and they are not content (like some of their generation) to sit back and let things happen.  They want to make a difference.

One last success story:

My husband is a tightwad.  Look, it's just the truth.  He doesn't like to donate---to anyone.  It's just one of his many idiosyncrasies that I've learned to deal with.  Anytime I donate to any cause, he says that it counts for him, so he doesn't need to do it.

ARGH!

So, on October 17th, when OFA sent me that email saying it was the last FEC fundraising deadline for the campaign, I decided to take one last shot.  

The first thing my husband does when he comes home from work every night is to quiz me about how Obama's doing, and what the pundits are saying.  Yet he has NEVER donated.  

So on October 17th, I used all that against him and replied:

"If you cared so much about this man, you would've shown him by now.  You would've given him some money.  Did you know today is the FEC deadline?  Do you know what that means?  Do you even care?  If you don't, then stop asking me about how he's doing because you're not willing to do your part to help get him reelected!"
Sure enough, he went and got his credit card and donated on the internet!!!

WooHooo!  For the first time.

So don't despair.  If you're phone banking, or dealing with a wingnut acquaintance, or an indifferent loved one, take heart.  Your words will penetrate ... eventually, you just have to be diligent and have patience.

Yes, patience and diligence will get you far.

8:30 PM PT: PS:  I forgot to add.  My mom, a registered Democrat, had patience and diligence with me.  During all the fighting, screaming and phone hang ups, she never gave up.  

You see, I used to be a Republican and now I'm a rabid Obama supporter.  That's why I'm living proof that patience and diligence works.  

So again, don't despair. There is hope.  :-D

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  •  Matthew 13: 3-9 (9+ / 0-)

    “Listen! A farmer went out to plant some seeds. 4 As he scattered them across his field, some seeds fell on a footpath, and the birds came and ate them. 5 Other seeds fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The seeds sprouted quickly because the soil was shallow. 6 But the plants soon wilted under the hot sun, and since they didn’t have deep roots, they died. 7 Other seeds fell among thorns that grew up and choked out the tender plants. 8 Still other seeds fell on fertile soil, and they produced a crop that was thirty, sixty, and even a hundred times as much as had been planted! 9 Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.”

    OR

    We are Bob Marley, trying to plant the seed, Republicans are Sheriff John Brown.

    "Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity." --M. L. King "You can't fix stupid" --Ron White -6.00, -5.18

    by zenbassoon on Sat Oct 20, 2012 at 08:13:22 PM PDT

  •  I'm so proud of my niece... (17+ / 0-)

    She has been absolutely apolitical. 27-years-old and I'm not sure she's ever voted. But last year, she called me because she was so excited that her birth control in 2012 was going to be free. Her prescription is expensive -- about a hundred bucks a month. As a student and low wage worker, that's a chunk of change. At that moment, I told her exactly who she had to thank for that -- President Obama and Nancy Pelosi.  During the past year we have had several conversations about the right wing and their attempts to limit contraceptives and abortion. Between that and Cosmo magazine, she asked me to get her an absentee ballot. And a voters guide. And then called me to proudly proclaim, "I guess I'm a Democrat!"

    At that point, I welcomed her to the family and sneakily wiped away a tear or two.

    They do listen even when they appear to be indifferent!!!

    •  My Sister Angela & 1 of her sons (9+ / 0-)

      Voted in 2008 for McCain.  I knew Obama would win New York but it bothered me for 4 years that they did this.  My sister and her husband both have medical problems and her son Michael has had difficulty finding a job after he was laid off.  Well, several weeks ago my sister told me that she was voting for Obama because he'll protect women and allow her and her husband not to lose their health care (her husband is not a citizen) and Michael said there is no way that he could vote for Romney because all he'll do is state another war and do nothing to help him find a job.  Another of her sons voted for Obama in 2008 and her daughter will vote for Obama as she did in 2008 but this time its so she can stay on birth control until her and her husband can better afford to have a child.  The rest of my family that I'm close with (except for 1 cousin & her husband who is a big pharma executive) will also be voting for Obama.  

      I talked for 4 years to all of them, showed them proof of how the Republicons have squashed everything Obama wanted to do to help the middle class and it's finally sunk in. Also, I have another sister who was going to leave that line blank because she's disappointed with Obama but told me 2 weeks ago that she's now voting for Obama.

      Never be afraid to voice your opinion and fight for it . Corporations aren't people, they're Republicans (Rev Al Sharpton 10/7/2011)

      by Rosalie907 on Sat Oct 20, 2012 at 09:24:15 PM PDT

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      •  yay for you and your work! (0+ / 0-)

        we do this out of love I think
        it's cognitive dissonance or at least it feels JUST WRONG when someone you really care about is going to vote against their own interest out of ingnorence

        To me, it is like they are unknowingly disrespecting themselves. They are being taken advantage of and don't know it...especially in this case in this election where so many have been duped by confusing information do to right wing messaging and less than optimal messaging by the President's team on his accomplishments in real time. (not enough celebration). Anyway I find it disturbing when people I care about slap themselves in the face, so then find it very difficult not to talk to them. Perhaps you were/are the same.

        People hear us better when it comes out of respect but also love and concern. Giving people information works best for me.

  •  Great and Inspiring Diary! (7+ / 0-)

    Sounds like how I got my two to the polls literally! Enjoyed it, hope many parents are like you and if you had to mail that ballot and get it back only to get your daughter involved that's what I called parenting job well done!!

    "Then they came for me - and there was no one left to speak for me." Then they came for Big Bird,,,what? ~kay~

    by Kwamo on Sat Oct 20, 2012 at 08:28:27 PM PDT

  •  Each one reach one! But you've reached several (4+ / 0-)

    - Thanks!



    Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? . . . and respect the dignity of every human being.

    by Wee Mama on Sat Oct 20, 2012 at 09:08:38 PM PDT

  •  I think you are right about this. (4+ / 0-)
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    I was your hostile daughter at one time. I remember telling my mom, when I grow up, I am NEVER going to pay attention to politics, it is sooo boring!

    She said, "OK, dear".

    My whole family is sort of surprised at the new political me. My sister loves it because whenever she comes to spend a weekend, we make  phone calls for a Dem. candidate. She has a very intense job and doesn't get to do much in the way of volunteering.

    •  I'm constantly amazed when (4+ / 0-)
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      my kids come back at me quoting something I said long ago, something they now believe and/or practice.

      I just automatically thought that whenever I said something to them that I sounded like Charlie Brown's teacher.  You know, "Wha Wha Wha Wha Wha."  LOL  

      I mean, my son said as much a couple years ago, so I automatically assumed that they just didn't listen to me.  But I was wrong.  My words did hold weight with them.  I was able to influence them.  Even down to their faith.  It's amazing.  But then, I just go back and think about all the "crap" my mom used to say to me, that isn't "crap" any more.  It's a part of who I am and what I believe.  I amaze her at times too.  I can tell.  Stuff she thought went in one ear and out the other when I was a child, I can recite to her verbatim and tell her she was right.  I wasn't listening at the time, but my subconscious mind stored it away for later use.    

      “First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

      by WFBMM on Sat Oct 20, 2012 at 10:12:30 PM PDT

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      •  part of teen and young adult life is to separate (2+ / 0-)
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        from our parents. So agreeing with them feels like NOT separating some times.

        Then they go away and live in the world a little and have some space to think for themselves.

        And it feels like their own conclusion not something they were spoon fed by a parent (not that you were doing this).

        I work with teens (so it's easier they want to rebel from authority, true, but less so from a non parent like me) and I reach them with facts but without my opinion and tell them to draw their own conclusions and research it.

        works well. But again, easier for me in that sense.

  •  Great Diary and ESPECIALLY the ps - -n/t (4+ / 0-)
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  •  That was truly inspirational, WFBMM... (2+ / 0-)
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    ...and I'm so glad you took the time and made the effort to share it with us.  It's true: An awful lot of politically apathetic people are simply lazy - and/or they've somehow never quite figured out how much of a stake each of us really has in our government...nor how easy it is to get directly involved in influencing its composition, its agenda & its behavior.

    Kudos to you for hanging in there with your family members...

    Truly knowledge is power. And knowledge of spiritual things is spiritual power.

    by Mystic Michael on Sat Oct 20, 2012 at 11:48:09 PM PDT

  •  I really needed this diary. You are terrific to (1+ / 0-)
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    put it down in words.  I have been working steadily for four years to talk to any and all about the President.  I needed to reflect on the unseen effects of all that work.

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